How romantic are you and hubby post baby?

[houli1983]

Hi ladies, just thought i'd ask how romantic you and your hubby are since having your baby.

Before Matthew came along we had romantic meals most weekends (mostly initiated by hubby) in the house with candles etc. We went out alot to nice restaurants etc.

Nowadays that doesnt happen much, i'm talking even the romantic meals in the house. Even though Matthew is now 9 months and in bed every night by 7.15pm. Not sure why its all changed, kinda would like it back!

Any you ladies in the same kinda situation? xx

 

[Sarah10]

i'm in the same situation.. but mainly because we don't have a minute to ourselves yet lol x

 

[kelz87]

we we're the same b4 our first, we used 2 go out, watch films on the sofa all lovey dovey hehe etc etc, but it all went out the window.
i really miss those times when had quality time..... (now with a newborn aswell who knows when we'll get it back.)

try 2 suprise your OH, if u can get a babysitter for a couple hrs and take him out... thats what i had 2 do when pregnant with my second otherwise my OH would just stay home but i need that time together.

Hope u get that time back soon x

 

[Sam9kids]

Me and my hubby had 5 kids between us when we met and i was pregnant within in 6 weeks of getting with him properly (whoops!) so there has always been kids around us. I do think its important to make time with each other though x

 

[PrincessJenna]

I think everything has changed but I think we now appreciate he times we do get together which is good x

 

[Duffy]

We are so broke right now we can't do much with buying a new vehicle, but Oct will be a better month and I plan on doing something special with OH, I would still love to stay at a lodge up in the maintains

When we brought are daughter home we were a whirl wind no parenting class ever prepared us for the toll a baby would take on us emotionally and pyscially. We are now just getting into the loop of things and finding some ease into So we going to try to do special date nights for us as a couple and have my mom watch our daughter. We have to put the effort and plan it in order for it to happen but its worth it....

 

[aliss]

Romance .. whuht's that??

LOL. My OH is on parental leave so we do spend a lot of time together. We are both exhausted as baby is not a good sleeper (up 5-6x per night) so enjoying dinner together, chat when walking the dog, and watching a cartoon at night when baby is in bed is our romance. Still, that's not bad for having a 12 week old.

 

[Seity]

Same as before. Neither of us is big into the romantic stuff, but we always make time for each other and do little things that show we care.

 

[rainbows_x]

OH has never really been romantic, but we are making time to watch a movie if we have the spare time & always have a cuddle in bed in the morning, it's the little things I think

 

[Noodles]

We have date night of a saturday. Which bascially means putting Dylan to bed at 7.30 (he's just about to have his bottle now) and we have some wine (not a lot) and nibbles and we snuggle up on the sofa and watch a ilm or order in a curry and have a chat the table. Just something so it's just us as a couple.

 

[bekkie]

"baby is asleep, wanna do it?"
"he'll probably wake up soon so lets make it quick"

that's the extent of our romance LOL

 

[better2gether]

"baby is asleep, wanna do it?"
"he'll probably wake up soon so lets make it quick"

that's the extent of our romance LOL

Yep. Can definitely relate.

 

[Sam9kids]

"baby is asleep, wanna do it?"
"he'll probably wake up soon so lets make it quick"

that's the extent of our romance LOL

Yep. Can definitely relate.

hehe me too! xx

 

[Seity]

If baby is asleep, I like to be asleep. I'm happy to get a little loving with him awake. He's still too young to take notice for now.

 

[Szaffi]

Regular bedtimes for the baby gave us time for the occasional evening meals and we try to hire a babysitter at least once a month and take advantage of family if they visit us.

You do have to work more, but it's definitely very important. If your hubby doesn't initiate, maybe you should.

 

[Lara310809]

I'm grateful that we have a better relationship in a way. My OH used to be a chef, and I worked in an office, so we had a totally different work pattern, and we would be like ships passing in the night. When we found out I was pregnant, he got a job elsewhere, and while he still does shift work, his hours are more reliable; he's either home at 5, 7 or 9pm, or he works nights. I know when he's working, opposed to before when food service would end at 9:30pm and he might not be home until 2am on busy nights.

In terms of sex, well, it's my body that's causing the problems, because it's so painful at the moment. Every day though; we forget to kiss one another most of the time, which is sad, but it doesn't mean the love isn't there.

 

[TTC LADY]

We're not !. Riya still wakes 4 or 5 times per night and I often end up going to sleep in her room which also has a spare double bed in it so DH and I hardly get any time together.

during the week he's home at about 9, by which time I'm knackered, having recently returned to work.

 

[Feltzy]

My OH has never been romantic and I've given up trying to make him lol! I know he loves me he just shows it in different ways, so nothing has really changed for us x

 

[RJsMum]

We're too skint and too tired.

Hopefully things will perk up again soon. But to be fair, we are still lovey with one another.

 

[RJsMum]

Wait a minute...can I change my answer??

It's 2am, we're both still awake, and DH just brought me some late night/early morning toast!!

::hears the tune "Reunited" in the background::

Hehe.