My little boy is 3 with suspected autism. We have been seeing speech therapist since he was 2. He is currently waiting for multi disciplinary appointments. I love him, for him so if he does obviously we just want him to get support and do what ever we can as parents. He is very sweet natured and always has a smile. He loves numbers, colours and shapes and loves pj masks and blaze. My issue is when other parents and family keep judging. My MIL completely blanked him recently and keeps snapping at him if running around, she seems to have decided he does not fit what she wants so ignores him. My FIL constantly shouts and keeps saying he is bad because he wants to run around and play. I just had a friend point out her dh thought my ds was autistic (why he felt he had to judge a child he never met at a party I don't know and it's not like I am ashamed of him, he behaved fantastically anyway) I just don't understand why a random person would use a children's party to diagnose a child. I'm just sick of people as soon as hearing autism think he is going to be violent when he isn't or judging us as parents as he finds it hard to sit down and likes to order stuff, he finds speech difficult but on the other side of the coin he is a loving little boy, always smiling, amazing at maths, empathetic and caring. I just wish people would not concentrate of the autism and think it makes him not perfect when it is not what defines him and I wouldn't change a thing about him. There are several parents who seem to think him finding things difficult means I'm a rubbish mum and according to many it's due to I didn't send him to nursery early. Nursery point out I must be exhausted as he is a busy little boy but I don't find that. I am so upset that when they see him the first thing they see is autism and not him. How do people cope with the judgement. I feel like I am in constant mama bear mode with him just desperate to protect him.