Hubby doesn't want to cut the cord

[Lingobird]

We were discussing this, and my husband says that he has no desire to "cut flesh." He is squeamish about the whole idea, and wants to "leave that to the pros."

Despite explaining that he wouldn't be hurting me or the baby when the cord is cut, he's very resistant.

I understand why, but I can't help but feel a little bit saddened. I liked the idea of him taking an active role in the delivery besides just being the cheerleader at my shoulder. But that is better than no cheerleader at all I spose!

Anyone elses hubby wussing-out? hehe.

 

[Futuremommy1]

mine won't be cutting anything. I barely convinced him to be in the room. He has a weak stomach and i knew that before we even got pregnant...so I completely understand. It's ok I guess I mean I would love for him to want to do it but I know how he is and am not surprised he's passing on that. Maybe when the time comes they will change their minds who knows.

 

[Celesse]

My OH doesn't want to cut the cord. He is a bit squeamish, in fact so much so that when I went to theatre for my section with DD he stayed in the recovery room and my mum came in with me. All going to plan I'll be cutting the cord myself for this baby.

 

[KnitWit]

I asked my OH and he said pretty much the same thing. I think if I nagged him he'd probably do it but id rather he did it by choice

I half wonder whether when it comes to the actual moment if he might change his mind.

 

[ggbaby2]

My Oh is also squeamish so i was quite surprised when he said he does plan to cut it. I guess we'll see when the time actually comes i just hope he doesn't pass out

 

[sweetm]

I think your hubby just might be more comfortable leaving the job to the professionals. Yes, cutting the cord is not rocket science, but I think its OK for your man to not want to do it.

A good friend of mine REALLY REALLY wanted to cut the cord when his little girl was born... it was part of their birth plan. However, the LO was born with the cord wrapped around her neck and, in the interests of baby's safety, the doctor had to cut the cord. Even though cutting the cord was something he really wanted to do, he happily let the doctor do it. I've been told that anything can happen during a delivery, so maybe when the time comes, your DH will change his mind and want to do it.

 

[PhoenixN]

My OH didn't want to cut the cord when we had DD but when it came to the moment and the MW asked if he wanted to he did. Once they've seen you giving birth I think they're a little less squeamish! Lol. x

 

[babydream]

My dh doesn't even want to be in the room with me when i'm in labour and in pain let alone cut the cord lol He says he would not be able to see me in so much pain and it would frustrate him that he wouldn't be able to make me feel better. I convinced him to watch a couple of episodes of One Born Every Minute and he said NO he can't do it, he can't sit there with me, he can't be there when i give birth, he would like to see the baby washed and wrapped in a blanket. Of course i'd love him to be there and share the experience but i'm not gonna push him as i understand it would be frustrating and hard for him to see it. So i'm ok with it.

 

[swanxxsong]

I'm planning on telling the nurses that my OH is weak-stomached and squeamish, just in case, but he swears he'll do everything and be there through it all. We'll see! I know how I am with blood and stuff so if he doesn't want to cut the cord, I'll be appreciative enough that he settled in at my side and helped keep me company... but it will be nice if he can do the cutting too! We'll see.

 

[GradMommy]

My dh doesn't even want to be in the room with me when i'm in labour and in pain let alone cut the cord lol He says he would not be able to see me in so much pain and it would frustrate him that he wouldn't be able to make me feel better. I convinced him to watch a couple of episodes of One Born Every Minute and he said NO he can't do it, he can't sit there with me, he can't be there when i give birth, he would like to see the baby washed and wrapped in a blanket. Of course i'd love him to be there and share the experience but i'm not gonna push him as i understand it would be frustrating and hard for him to see it. So i'm ok with it.

My DH is the same way!! He's really nervous and apprehensive about seeing me in that much pain, not being able to do anything about it, and isn't sure how he's going to handle "seeing anything". We're talking the man all but turns white, throws up and passes out when I have a paper cut with a tiny drop of blood! I'm not pushing him to cut the cord, or have an active involvement with helping the delivery. So far we've made it to that he'll be in the same room with me, more than likely sitting behind me in bed supporting my back - with a sheet over my knees so he doesn't see anything! LOL When we watch One Born Every Minute and they show the newly born baby with the umbilical cord he just about gags, so I'm very curious to see how he handles seeing our baby in that condition too!

Good luck, I completely understand what you're going through with your DH!

 

[lintu]

my DH said he will do what feels right at the time although he has said he didnt want skin to skin contact, he wants in his words it taken away cleaned up and brough back!! was a little miffed at that

 

[Kel127]

My husband didn't want to cut the cord either so my mom did it!

 

[Kywiki]

I am leaving it up to my husband. I want him to feel comfortable since this is his birth experience too. It doesn't bother me either way.

 

[sequeena]

My oh didn't want to cut the cord either. I had a go but its much tougher than it looks!

 

[heidi1130]

Same here. My husband said I'm lucky he's agreeing to be in the room but there is NO WAY he is cutting the cord or catching the baby (an option our Dr gave us). I'm bummed because I always dreamed my husband would be super involved, but he's so detached.

 

[happy4three]

When I had DD my husband said No Way he wasn't going to cut the cord. But, when the moment came and the doctor handed him the scissors to cut the cord, he took them and cut the cord without hesitation... once he is in the moment, he could surprise you...

 

[NewAtThis13]

Yep right with you, my oh will definitely not budge on cutting the cord, he wants no part of it! I said jeez then I'll do it lol! Oh well :/

 

[NDH]

Mine doesn't think he wants to either. It's not a big deal to me if he does or doesn't, but I've put in my birthplan to ask him at the time if he would like to at the time. More important to me is the fact that the cord not be cut too early.

 

[JackiePed]

I think many of them change their minds when the time comes. I explicitly told DH I did NOT want him 'down there' at all... I just didn't want him associating what was, at one point, sexy, with blood and screaming and tearing...
He totally agreed.
But... When everything started happening, all that went out the window. Neither of us cared, and he jumped right in and was very hands-on.

 

[mochapenguin]

Honestly if I were a guy, I wouldn't want to do it either. I've seen videos and it really just grosses me out so I can definitely see where a lot of guys are coming from. What matters to me is what role my husband takes in the baby's life - what he does during the birth only matters to the extent that he helps me get through it.

My hubby has said it doesn't matter to him either way and if I want him to do it, he will...but honestly I think I'd rather not have him do it anyway. I'm one of those women who is totally grossed out by childbirth and am not interested in the details apart from getting the little bugger out of there safe and sound!