Hurtful comment from a friend :(

[Gretaa]

Today I met a friend for coffee and her first line after 'hi' was 'are you sure you're not carrying twins? Your bump looks huge'. WHAT???? I told her that in 2 weeks I'll be 7 months but she just looked with disbelief. Why people do that? Don't they get that it hurts?
Midwife measured my fundal hight and it's perfectly normal - exact 25 weeks today.
I really don't wanna see her for a long time now...
People!

 

[Ashlee B x]

Thats not nice! you should have told her comments like that really hurt. And at 26 weeks arent you classed as bein 6 months? dont mean to be a prude lol x

 

[happythought]

Haha I had someone I didnt even know say that too me a few weeks ago. Yeah, it sure doesnt make you feel to nice. But I know that as long and baby and I are ok and healthy then it doesnt matter what other people say. BE PROUD OF THE BUMP

 

[Stargazer77]

I'm sure she didn't mean anything by it. Unasked for opinions can be annoying though. I'm sure you look lovely

 

[gemini xo]

I don't understand some of the comments people say to a pregnant woman, very rude and thoughtless.

 

[MrsLL]

I get that all the time!!

My favourite one? - "Don't you look massive?"

Nice......

 

[Mel1986]

Welcome to my world hun, I have looked pregnant pretty much from day 1. This isn't my first pregnancy but my first baby. It is hurtful when people ask when your due date is and when I've been saying December I get "Oh, you're very big aren't you" or the "Are you sure you're not carrying twins".

I don't feel the need to explain myself, at the end of the day our bodies grow differently and ours are just bug. I carry my bump loud and proud and have stopped caring what people think.

Keep your head held high hun and just smile sweetly xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

 

[catcatcat]

Haha I had someone I didnt even know say that too me a few weeks ago. Yeah, it sure doesnt make you feel to nice. But I know that as long and baby and I are ok and healthy then it doesnt matter what other people say. BE PROUD OF THE BUMP

I totally agree. Who wants to b pregnant with no bump. Im on my 3rd and bump is massive - i love it xx

 

[Sew_Sweet]

My favorite with my first was when I was probably 8-9 months along. A friend's husband looked at me with wide eyes and just exclaims - "MY GOD YOU ARE HUGE!"... ummm wow - what do you even say to that? lol.

 

[ChrissiK]

If it's a woman that makes a similar comment to me, I shall say "Yeah, at least I am carrying a baby - what's your excuse????"

 

[Wantabean]

I get it all the time!! The best of it is im measuring 4weekd behind so dnt know how they have worked out that im huge!!! Lol some folk are idiots lol xxx

 

[AimeeM]

I'd love someone to say I look huge. Everyone keeps telling me I look tiny and I find it offensive it's like they are saying my baby isn't as big as it should be or something of the like.

 

[donnalou]

One of the first things that my Midwife said to me was to ignore all comments about the size of my bump, it is amazing what people say.

 

[Dani_87]

That's terrible! I think a lot of people DON'T think about what they are saying...I kinda have the complete opposite. I was actually at a friends house a few nights ago (she has a 2 month old), and a friend of hers, as well as other ladies, were asking how far along I was. When I said 6 months, all of them go...'OMG I hate you! You are so small still! Just wait...at 8 months you are going to get huge and hate life.'

WOW thanks for the support!! lol

 

[the why bird]

I must just be one chilled out pregnant lady then! I don't mind the size comments at all! I have had things like 'you're all belly!' and such. I've even had a few people comment on the size of my boobs! People just find pregnancy fascinating and no one has ever said anything to me that they meant to be offensive. It's interesting to watch someone you know go through such a transformation, and what's inside is even more interesting still. It's not worth getting upset about - it's never occurred to me to be offended.

I'm overweight pre-pregnancy, and often feel down about it, but the comments about being big aren't insulting my weight. Actually it's quite nice to have a big belly to show off!

 

[rosie5637]

i agree. i think people can be a bit over sensitive. if your measuring correctly at your midwife appointments why worry or take offence?

if someone said you'd gained loads of weight on your arse and thighs then yeah be offended, but if they're commenting on your bump just be proud of what you've got

 

[kate1984]

see im not oversensitive but if somebody tells me "what are you having? a bloody elephant???" im going to take offence too because it's just rude and there really isnt any need for it, just like of my FIL says "looking swell" once more im likely to shove the nearest thing down his throat....

i do think we should be proud of our bumps but i DO think that people should use there head when opening there mouths

 

[pipsbabybean]

Today I met a friend for coffee and her first line after 'hi' was 'are you sure you're not carrying twins? Your bump looks huge'. WHAT???? I told her that in 2 weeks I'll be 7 months but she just looked with disbelief. Why people do that? Don't they get that it hurts?
Midwife measured my fundal hight and it's perfectly normal - exact 25 weeks today.
I really don't wanna see her for a long time now...
People!

aww hun can i join the club, im one of those people who can count their mates on one hand and i was devastated when my bestest mate said to me.
''oooooo look at ur hips, your putting it on there now arnt ya!!!''
gah i was speechless
why why why
thought best mates were ment to support you not knock ya down..

 

[ggbaby2]

I'm with the why bird...It really doesn't bother me at all! With my first I wasn't even showing at this stage so I really do feel kind of huge with this one, but not in a bad way. The way i see it is i wont feel or look this big forever and there is a reason for it so it's ok. I also know that they don't say it to be insensitive most ppl don't even realize it can be hurtful in fact i'm sure i've probably said something along those lines to someone in the past. I usually just say geez i know right i just hope i can lose it fairly quickly after the baby is born.

 

[nicolefx]

I haven't had many comments mainly because i'm still pretty small and my wardrobe hides it well but I don't understand why people think it's acceptable to comment on another person's appearance whether pregnant or not. I'd never do it unless it was someone I was really really close to and even then I would watch what I said. xxx