Husband a pain ?

[Noirin]

ok so was just wondering is it because im pregnant and my hormones and everything or am just realy starting to hate him ?
we've been married since december 08 and its been amazing hes the sweetest funny guy i've ever met and i knew right from the start hes the 1 i wanted forever...or so i thought before these last few months....its like EVERYTHING he says or does just makes me angry...my 1st 3 months were the most i codnt look at him or hear his voice without turning into a demon...but then i was ok and we were both excited for the baby and realy happy but recently hes just been annoyin me again i know he means well and every1 says im over reacting but he just annoys me...i told him i have a few stretch marks on my hips he said no dont worry u wont get any...i z no i have them already he z no its ok dont worry u dont and then i was like oh im getin so fat now my jeans dont fit me nomore(i wasnt complain kinda just surprised like omg im realy pregnant)...and hes like oh no ur not u look the same as always ur not fat at all...oh so my jeans shrunk did they ? its just silly things like that but they all add up its like wen he finds something funny and knows it aggrivates me he keeps sayin it and sayin it just to see me snap i love him to bits but recently i jsut hate him dont think i could stick this for another 5 months of pregnany...not to mention the labour..he'll prob sit in the corner makin jokes and doin my head in and i'll have to hit him with something....so the question is...what do we do about annoyin husbands in pregnancy ? xxxx

 

[myfirst]

seems like when you are complaining/commenting on how your body has changed, he is trying to reinforce that you are still beautiful. wish my boyfriend did that. i get the "wow, you've gained a lot of weight" and the great "you look huge". and he likes to point out the stretch marks i'm getting

blame it all on the hormones sweety. he's still the 1, but just seems annoying right now.

 

[reversal]

HA HA i'm laughing with my dh as this is how I feel sometimes and my dh knows it. MEN there so strange. I think they mean well

 

[kmac625]

Sounds like it's your hormones making it seem worse than it is to me. If he's telling you that you still look awesome that's a good thing, even if you know that he might be making a few exceptions for the odd stretch mark, etc. Probably once you have your baby and the hormones go down you'll remember how nice that was. Would it be better if he agreed and told you that you look fat? I don't think so lol.

 

[Joyzerelly]

I can see how him contradicting you when what you're saying is clearly true could be very irritating, especially with hormones involved. But it sounds like his, perhaps misguidedly, trying to be kind to you. I'd tell him what you've told us, in a polite and calm manner. Perhaps show him the post you've written us?

 

[Noirin]

hmm didnt think of the polite and kind manner kinda just scream ur so annoying and he laughs and says u know u love me which makes me wana hit him !! i do understand he prob means well but its soo annoying...is there nothing we can do then just have to stick it out until baby camoes and hormones die away?

 

[Cat lady]

My DH is usually really great, but the one thing that is annoying me more than anything is the fact that he is so please my boobs are getting huge!!! Hes like 'wowwww, they are massive!' and then he keeps touching them and it is soooo annoying. Why cant he tell me other nice things. I have always thought my boobs were too big and look silly on my small frame, now I worry they are just going droopy as they are so huge!!! Grrr, not his fault I know, he is only a man, but it just really grates!
xxx

 

[Noirin]

My DH is usually really great, but the one thing that is annoying me more than anything is the fact that he is so please my boobs are getting huge!!! Hes like 'wowwww, they are massive!' and then he keeps touching them and it is soooo annoying. Why cant he tell me other nice things. I have always thought my boobs were too big and look silly on my small frame, now I worry they are just going droopy as they are so huge!!! Grrr, not his fault I know, he is only a man, but it just really grates!
xxx

oh i know this 1 too i was an A and now went to a D so u can imagine his pleasure...i was pleased to wen they went to a C now they're just annoyin me im only half way there like how bigger they gona go...and wen u complain or ask about them u just see his big silly grin

 

[Cat lady]

My DH is usually really great, but the one thing that is annoying me more than anything is the fact that he is so please my boobs are getting huge!!! Hes like 'wowwww, they are massive!' and then he keeps touching them and it is soooo annoying. Why cant he tell me other nice things. I have always thought my boobs were too big and look silly on my small frame, now I worry they are just going droopy as they are so huge!!! Grrr, not his fault I know, he is only a man, but it just really grates!
xxx

oh i know this 1 too i was an A and now went to a D so u can imagine his pleasure...i was pleased to wen they went to a C now they're just annoyin me im only half way there like how bigger they gona go...and wen u complain or ask about them u just see his big silly grin

I know what you mean!! I know I should be pleased about the fact he is still interested in me, but the attention he gives my boobs is just unwelcome and then he tells me I am no fun anymore when I tell him off for groping me!!
xxx

 

[Noirin]

see thats wat i means...why do they have to be so annoying ? i think wen there sperm meets an egg something triggeres inside them....have to annoy the misses now !!

 

[MissCurly]

Aw bless!

I think he's definatly trying to say the right things to comfort you but he's obviously getting it soo wrong.

I think it would be kind to tell him how you're feeling, and what he CAN DO to make things better. It's no good us telling them that they'r pains in our asses, without giving them a solution to reclaim the 'loving husband' title.

 

[JASMAK]

Yes...my hubby is annoying...but he is good too...so I am trying to focus on those things...so I don't divorce him or worse! I am also telling him EXACTLY what to say and do when the baby is born because the last time...well, it was pretty bad.

 

[dizzy65]

You defantly arent alone.. i love my OH so much but justsometimes he makes me so angry with all his little jokes and stuff like that. and when he tries to make mefeel better it makes it worse my poor OH having to deal with a monster like me

 

[Linz88]

aww hun hes probably just trying to make you think you stil look the same.. i think thats sweet.. id rather some one say i havent change at all than agree that i do look fat.. i think its the hormones.. just talk to him and tel him how you've been feeling.. xx

 

[Noirin]

hmm after the night i just had with him i think its hate rather than hormones lol was on cam showing my friend my bump as havent seen her in a while and he was like wat are u doin i z showin my friend my bump he z stop i thot he was messin so just ignored him..he started shouting turn of that cam and look at me wen im talkin to u .....felt like bein back at skool "look at me wen im talkin to u " so turned into a full blown argument...what was so bad about me showing my friend my bump :S so hes went to bed in a huff ...hate him Pfff

 

[~RedLily~]

why did he have a big problem with you showing your friend your bump?
until that it sounded like he was just trying to be nice but i can understand getting annoyed.

 

[Noirin]

well we got into an argument and sat in silence for 10 mins and then i tried to ask why do u not want me showin my friend my bump..like asked him calmly to try figure it out cuz i just cdnt and he just went of on 1...sure u just told me u can do wat u want talk to who u want and show who u want ur bump..which i did say wen we were arguing..so i z ok i z that in the heat of the moment but wats the problem...hormones kicked in here n started to cry haha so he was like y u cryin for ur the 1 that was talkin as if im nothing for u u u can do wat u want u dont need me at all and just went of to bed...maybe hes feelin left out i dont know but as im sat here thinkin im just getin more & more confused...like wat was the big deal :S