husband vent!!!!!!!!!!!

[momofone08]

Hi everyone!
I definitely need to vent about my DH!

It finally hit me . I recently started O'ing again (4th cycle with O) thanks to meds. Well including this month ever since I started O'ing again he is "sick" during this time.

I was supposed to O yesterday, but had EWCM on CD 2 instead of 14. I told him, and suddenly he was sick when he came home from work. GRRRRRRRRRRRRR.
Last month he has a three day headache and the month before the stomach flu!

He is the one who didn't want to let me give up but he is never having sex. When I confronted him, he laughed it off and changed the subject. What do I do???

 

[SLH]

Maybe he's just stressed out and feels pressured. Maybe from now on don't tell him when you are ovulating and seduce him.

 

[Peanut Love]

I agree. I try to keep my ovulation somewhat secret because, otherwise, it feels really medical. If I tell him, "Time to have sex" it's a big turn-off. So, I just try to work my magic instead. I will say it's a lot of stress to be the one mainly tracking these things but it's working best for us that way.

He is supportive in other ways around TTC so I figure sex timing can be more on me.

I think it is good you confronted him because there could be something deeper going on and it's your right to know whats going on.

Sending happy thoughts your way!

 

[bdawn8403]

Beat him!!!!

Seriously though, like the others have said, it sounds like he is feeling pressured. We did that last cycle and has issues finishing. The other day he told me that he'd rather not know when its ov time. Just for me to "put the moves on him" but problem is whenever I do that he doesn't accept.

 

[happy9months]

My husband is sick as well! I'm in the same situation as you ! I made him lots of porridge and chicken soup

 

[adttc]

I would not focus on ovulation to BD with your hubby. He may feel "used", at least that's how mine felt before. We don't talk about O, we are just enjoying BDing every other day since CD8. This cycle we did the SMEP.

 

[bdawn8403]

I would not focus on ovulation to BD with your hubby. He may feel "used", .

Aren't they though

 

[momofone08]

Thanks ladies! I appreciate it. Lately its been hard to get him to even think about sex. Maybe he is stressed about work or something, but he just never talks to me about it. I really wish he would let me know how he feels.
Maybe your right. I will definitely NOT tell him next cycle. We are out this cycle cervical mucus dried up, so we definitely missed our chance. So next month it'll just be a secret lol. Thanks for all the support

 

[pinkchucks]

I had to stop telling DH when I was Oing because he would subconsciously tap out. Lol.
Once I stopped telling him and asking him, it was like he could automatically tell when I was Oing because he would want to DTD ALL THE TIME.

We went from being stressed and unable to perform, to DTD almost every day or every other day, even through the 2WW. I was almost scared to tell him that I WASN'T Oing anymore! Lol!

 

[monalisa81]

don't tell him it's O time, wear some nice lingerie and heels, when he sees you like that he'll have no time to feel sick lol.
good luck xx

 

[Dimples81]

Dont tell him anything, and remember that with occasional spontaneous ovulation theory each time you have an orgasm you are potentially giving yourself another egg shot anyway