I am going to scream if 1 more person tells me I'm small

[Lollyp]

As the title says if one more person tells me how small I look I will scream. I am starting to become paranoid now. My midwife hasnt said anything about bump being overly small I think I am only bout 2 cm behind but its the first thing everyone else says to me.

 

[mildred81]

I think people think it's a nice thing to say (wrong i know) - bump size doesn't always have much bearing on the size of the baby. I have the opposite problem and everyone is telling my i'm huge which also isn't what i want to hear.

xx

 

[Ali90]

Bumps come in all shapes and sizes so how people can tell you are big or small I'll never know. I'm sure your bump is lovely and you're right the midwife would have said something if there was a concern.

 

[ay2808]

I am exactly the same. I did have to have a growth scan but baby is actually a few days ahead! I just tell people she is perfectly healthy and leave it at that!

 

[notjustyet]

I get this too, even though I'm measuring bang on! It's worse at work where there's another girl who's 2 weeks ahead of me and is loads bigger - she gets 'Oh my God look how big you are, you must be ready to drop' and I get 'Are you sure you haven't just eaten a big lunch, you hardly even look pregnant'

I think people do just like to say something about the size of the bump and in all honesty I'm glad I'm smaller looking because I'm hoping that means the weight will drop off easier!

 

[kelkel]

I always have family and friends tell me how small my bump is. My MW always tells me i am measuring normal and not to worry. I think its just a way for people to try and compliment you. I know they don't mean anything negative by it but i am sick of people saying you dont even look pregnant (witch to me makes me feel like i just look fat if i dont look preggo). I'm also sick of being told ohh you must not have put on weight and thats not healthy (when i reply with i put on 40lbs and am only 35 weeks) they look at me in shock.
If your MW hasn't said anything about your bump then I wouldn't worry. I know its irrating I just try and shrug it off and laugh about it. Its almost over!!

 

[Sini]

I get both "your massive" and "your baby must be small". Im measuring bang on average for my weeks. I just try to ignore people's comments

 

[dragonhawk]

I get people telling me that I'm both ends of the 'scale'... According to the mw I'm measuring perfectly correctly so she has no concerns at all.

Yes, it can be irritating, although to be honest I spent so long when people thought that I'd just put on weight, with less than 2 months to go, it's nice to have lo kicking/punching/moving around inside and actually look pregnant now.

 

[JuJuK]

I know exactly how you feel.

Everyone still keeps saying that to me and I'm 4 days overdue with a baby which is measuring far too big.

It really got to me the other week, it's almost as if people are saying you are a crap mother already cos you have a tiny baby and aren't giving it nutrients it needs so it's not growing!

People don't mean it that way tho because some of my closest friends say it everytime they see me and I know they don't mean anything by it, people just always compare every pregnant woman with every other pregnant woman they've ever known.

Apparently my bump is all baby whatever that means.

 

[rossi46]

Its all down to your body. If you have good stomach muscles they might be keeping everything in nice and small. At the moment I don't look pregnant from behind and I have a neat bump. Also it depends on the time of day, my bump looks loads bigger in the evening.
My midwife told me to ignore comments as some will say you look big, others you look small. It depends how often you see these people too.

 

[Beaney192]

This has been one of the worst things about my pregnancy, I really dont think people realise how offensive they are and how hurtful the comment can be, the last few weeks i have stopped going round to my mil house because i just cant be doing with the you still havent grown then? (im bang on with measurements) You still havent dropped much? (baby is engaged) It just really winds me up!!

 

[Housewife83]

I think the whole bump measurement thing is weird. I don't get how it works. I'm 25 weeks and I'm already pretty big. People sometimes assume I'm due any day now, including one women who was a doctor and that was about a month ago! So I must have a big bump and yet the baby is measuring normal size.

I think amniotic fluid has a big part to play in bump size. Also I think height. I'm a very short women so I don't think my bump has anywhere to go in my torso except out!

 

[NotJustMama]

I completely get what you say...that is all I have heard this entire pregnancy. I had a lady who is 5 months comparing her bump to mine at the tile store the other day, she actually asked me if my baby was ok since I was so small and there is no way I could be 8 months!! The baby actually measures 2 weeks ahead on U/S. It is very discouraging as I have been very ill through most of the pregnancy and have been put on a 3000 cal. a day menu to gain some weight. Eating is like a full time job and then I hear how small I am at every turn....I understand your frustration. Next person that mentions it....just say "oh I am not pregnant....what bump"

 

[star_light]

same thing happen to me, in my whole pregnency i only gain 5 kgs and its only around my bump.......my family and friends and even my hubby tell me that im small and not look like almost 8 month pregnent......cry;(

my dr didnot tell me any thing .......at my 30 week...... measurment r 37 cm which means 14 inches ....i think its good size baby......at 30 weeks ..........

 

[iluvcocopops]

Everyone keeps telling me that too. Im 30wks pregnant with my first and people are still saying 'you don't even look pregnant'. One girl even asked me a couple of wks ago if the doc had advised me to put on more weight, which really worried me.

Anyhows I was up for an antenatal app last week and my baby weight 3lb 2oz and according to the midwife is actually above average weight. Now when people tell me Im small I just smile and say 'yes but my baby is slightly above average, which proves you don't have to put on a pile of weight yourself to have a healthy baby'.

 

[MegGriffin]

I get the complete opposte everyone telling me how HUGE I am. In fact since i was 12 weeks I've hadpeopoe tell me that. every MW appointmen I've had i meausre either spot on, or 1cm over or under, and midwife said that's liekly t be when baby canges position it can affect the fudal size of the bump. have also had a growth scan and everthing is fne.

It's really really rude and makes me feel liek there's either something wrong with the baby if she's growing too much, or it made me feel liek maybe thee's too much flid 9which there isn't) or that i mut be fat whale with bad stomach muscle (pre-pregnancy I weighed 9st 5lb and am 5ft 9in - a UK size 10).

x

 

[tanni78]

i get both ends of the scale too. In fact there is 1 particular mother at school who is a good 4 dress sizes bigger than me anyway (and she's not pregnant) that made so many bitchy remarks about my size that i snapped the other week and when she said "oh my god, you're absolutely huge now" i replied "yeh i'm slowly catching up on you" smiled and walked off. I was always taught to be polite and well mannered but i figure that if people can use your pregnancy as an excuse to be downright rude then you can use your pregnancy to be downright rude back to them. Of course some people are genuinely trying to be complimentary and just have no tact so i tend to just brush off those comments but if you think someone has been rude or over personal, you're entitled to do the same back to them, pregnant or not xx

 

[Serendipity40]

my bump has been small all the way through but always measured to size at scans & with mw..but no1 can believe it when i say only 2wks to go etc...been like this all the way thru...but now at thsi stage am so glad i didnt balloon as having enough trouble moving around at this size so wouldnt want to be any bigger & baby is tightly compacted inside...i think will be at least 8lbs...so not worrying anymore

 

[open lotus]

take it as a compliment xxxi get it too

 

[seoj]

People really can't win... they say your small or big... Personally, I get told often I'm on the small side... but my measurements and babies length/weight at all my scan are totally average and spot on for where I am. Maybe some women just carry bigger? But regardless, bumps come in all shapes and sizes... at my recent baby shower, a friend came who's about 2mos behind me and we had bumps the same size. So people were looking at me and saying things like "is she really that far behind you? Is she having twins..."... I know they didn't mean it bad, I would just say "only one in there and she looks great!"... but I've certainly seen woman who were carrying smaller than me at 8 1/2 mos! So I would be big in comparison. LOL.

I take it as a compliment that people think I'm smaller... even if, truly, I'm avearge. haha.