I am so mad right now! what do you think?

[Heidi84]

Went to see the gyneco cause i have been vomiting so much and i have been so sick. So she measures my weight and it was 58.kg. She looks at me and she says: wow you have put 5 kg since the last time we saw ( 5 days ago) cause you were 53 kg the last time. So i said it is impossible that i was 53 cause that morning i measured myself and i was 58, i could not have been 53 and i remember it was the same result here too.It was 58kg. She did not believe me, she even told me that i should not eat so much. I kept saying that i have been vomiting all the time and i can't keep up any food, that i am not even going to work.

She looks at me and says: i hope you have not told your work already that you are pregnant, cause at your stage there is a high risk of miscarriage and your pregnancy is not sure!!!

Believe me, i left the office crying! I feel so discouraged. What is she saying that my pregnanvy is not healthy?

should i change the dr?

 

[ladypotter]

Oh wow...yeah, I would be very mad!!! If you can, maybe you should switch doctors, or give that one a piece of your mind!!!

 

[Loki]

Went to see the gyneco cause i have been vomiting so much and i have been so sick. So she measures my weight and it was 58.kg. She looks at me and she says: wow you have put 5 kg since the last time we saw ( 5 days ago) cause you were 53 kg the last time. So i said it is impossible that i was 53 cause that morning i measured myself and i was 58, i could not have been 53 and i remember it was the same result here too.It was 58kg. She did not believe me, she even told me that i should not eat so much. I kept saying that i have been vomiting all the time and i can't keep up any food, that i am not even going to work.

She looks at me and says: i hope you have not told your work already that you are pregnant, cause at your stage there is a high risk of miscarriage and your pregnancy is not sure!!!

Believe me, i left the office crying! I feel so discouraged. What is she saying that my pregnanvy is not healthy?

should i change the dr?

actually three or more:

1. switch doctors. Lets say you continued to see this doctor and had about 5 more meetings with him/her during your pregnancy. That means 5 more times of possibly leaving the office in tears. Switch doctors,

2. you quoted psalms, which means you are a believer, which means you know there is an enemy. This incident could be the enemy at work, actually, I will go ahead and state it IS the enemy at work, cause that sure wasnt God showing his face! Switch doctors and NEVER think of this incident again. Know that the victory is yours and you and your baby are out of his reach

3. when you switch, let the doctor you are switching from know that you didnt appreciate the comment, thus the switch. Maybe this will teach him/her a lesson, and they will perhaps, be kinder to the next patient.

4. Find a new psalm, one that doesnt speak of bad news, or preparation for bad news, but one that proclaims god is great and your protector.

 

[vicwick]

Oh i'm sorry your doctor was so horrible

I would definately change doctors, she had no right speaking to you like that.

My "friend" said the same kinda thing to me the other day and i was really upset.

 

[Loki]

Oh i'm sorry your doctor was so horrible

I would definately change doctors, she had no right speaking to you like that.

My "friend" said the same kinda thing to me the other day and i was really upset.

I have learned during this pregnancy, my wife's first, that people can be VERY jealous and nasty: its sad!

 

[holywoodmum]

i'd switch too, but I'd also write a formal letter of complaint about that person,that's out of line!

 

[lauren10]

Dump her immediately.

 

[holywoodmum]

aqnd also so what if you did tell your work, the alternative is lying to them about why you're off, and if god forbid something did go wrong,you'd probably end up having to them anyway, that woman was not nice

 

[Tabbyfourpaws]

Told my work at 4 weeks!! I knew that

1) If I needed time off due to anything bad happening, they would be sympathetic
2) If I threw up on the desk, they would be sympathetic!!
3) If they found out any other way without me telling them, they might try and make me redundant in a sneaky way! (My boss can be horrible - luckily he has been great for once!)

Everybody in the world started as a baby and they all made it! That midwife sounds like the biggest bitch. Horrible. xxxx Switch xxxx

 

[MrsP]

Gosh what a horrid old bag and how rude. If you don't change doctors I'd certainly be putting a leter of complaint in, but then I would do that anyway.

Her comments wasn't exactly helpful to you, certainly not what you need right now x

 

[Heidi84]

Went to see the gyneco cause i have been vomiting so much and i have been so sick. So she measures my weight and it was 58.kg. She looks at me and she says: wow you have put 5 kg since the last time we saw ( 5 days ago) cause you were 53 kg the last time. So i said it is impossible that i was 53 cause that morning i measured myself and i was 58, i could not have been 53 and i remember it was the same result here too.It was 58kg. She did not believe me, she even told me that i should not eat so much. I kept saying that i have been vomiting all the time and i can't keep up any food, that i am not even going to work.

She looks at me and says: i hope you have not told your work already that you are pregnant, cause at your stage there is a high risk of miscarriage and your pregnancy is not sure!!!

Believe me, i left the office crying! I feel so discouraged. What is she saying that my pregnanvy is not healthy?

should i change the dr?

actually three or more:

1. switch doctors. Lets say you continued to see this doctor and had about 5 more meetings with him/her during your pregnancy. That means 5 more times of possibly leaving the office in tears. Switch doctors,

2. you quoted psalms, which means you are a believer, which means you know there is an enemy. This incident could be the enemy at work, actually, I will go ahead and state it IS the enemy at work, cause that sure wasnt God showing his face! Switch doctors and NEVER think of this incident again. Know that the victory is yours and you and your baby are out of his reach

3. when you switch, let the doctor you are switching from know that you didnt appreciate the comment, thus the switch. Maybe this will teach him/her a lesson, and they will perhaps, be kinder to the next patient.

4. Find a new psalm, one that doesnt speak of bad news, or preparation for bad news, but one that proclaims god is great and your protector.

hi

Thank you so much for your comment. It encouraged me! I was on the phone with my mom right now and she said exactly what you said.
I feel so much better. Thank you again!!

 

[Heidi84]

aqnd also so what if you did tell your work, the alternative is lying to them about why you're off, and if god forbid something did go wrong,you'd probably end up having to them anyway, that woman was not nice

yeah, exactly!! My boss is my friend anyway so i told immediately when i found out. She has been so supportive and actually it was her who asked me to take days off so i could recover well. she has seen me throwing up at work and was very worried.

anyway, i am more and more convinced now that i should change dr.

thanks

 

[princessellie]

glad you have decided to change doctors, it is definitely what you need to do, we are all fragile enough in early pregnancy, dont need any trouble from a doctor of all people!!!

x

 

[Loki]

Went to see the gyneco cause i have been vomiting so much and i have been so sick. So she measures my weight and it was 58.kg. She looks at me and she says: wow you have put 5 kg since the last time we saw ( 5 days ago) cause you were 53 kg the last time. So i said it is impossible that i was 53 cause that morning i measured myself and i was 58, i could not have been 53 and i remember it was the same result here too.It was 58kg. She did not believe me, she even told me that i should not eat so much. I kept saying that i have been vomiting all the time and i can't keep up any food, that i am not even going to work.

She looks at me and says: i hope you have not told your work already that you are pregnant, cause at your stage there is a high risk of miscarriage and your pregnancy is not sure!!!

Believe me, i left the office crying! I feel so discouraged. What is she saying that my pregnanvy is not healthy?

should i change the dr?

actually three or more:

1. switch doctors. Lets say you continued to see this doctor and had about 5 more meetings with him/her during your pregnancy. That means 5 more times of possibly leaving the office in tears. Switch doctors,

2. you quoted psalms, which means you are a believer, which means you know there is an enemy. This incident could be the enemy at work, actually, I will go ahead and state it IS the enemy at work, cause that sure wasnt God showing his face! Switch doctors and NEVER think of this incident again. Know that the victory is yours and you and your baby are out of his reach

3. when you switch, let the doctor you are switching from know that you didnt appreciate the comment, thus the switch. Maybe this will teach him/her a lesson, and they will perhaps, be kinder to the next patient.

4. Find a new psalm, one that doesnt speak of bad news, or preparation for bad news, but one that proclaims god is great and your protector.

hi

Thank you so much for your comment. It encouraged me! I was on the phone with my mom right now and she said exactly what you said.
I feel so much better. Thank you again!!

So glad I could point you in the right direction: God!

 

[EmmaM2]

I share the views of the others. I would most definately switch doctors and place a formal letter of complaint citing your doctors insensitive behaviour. Unfortunately Dr's can be a bit of a law unto themselves and if we don't speak up these things never change (i am actual a Dr (clinical psychologist) so i don't feel too bad about saying this). good luck and dump her arse as quick as possible. x

 

[nada87]

you should switch drs asap. no one should speak to you that way, altho i don't think she meant your pg was doomed in anyway (probably meant in general) but she never should have said that. i would also write a complaint letter or something.
i gained 7 lbs in one week with ds and no one said a negative word to me about it. some people shouldn't be allowed to talk

 

[bunnyg82]

Oh my god, seriously that's awful! I can't believe your doctor treated you like that, outrageous!!

I definitely think you should change docs immediately. There's no way you'd be putting on that much weight in that short a time and so the doc is just being rude. And talking to you like that about telling work. Some people have to tell their work straight away for one and also some people are able to tell their work as they know they will be supportive if the worst happens and you don't need your docs negativity!!

 

[Jenni1388]

Ok this person didn't have to be so rude but what she said about miscarriage is true. My doctor saw me at 8 weeks with my first and said "now if you start to bleed or anything just call and let us know. Miscarriages are common in the first trimester." I was upset but it's the truth.

All we can do is know that our bodies know when something isn't alright. Everything happens for a reason.

I'd say get another dr if you want but more than likely they will say something similar. Maybe in a more gentle way.

In any case, much love to you and your family.

Happy Holidays!

 

[sarahchops86]

that reminds me of my best friend's doctor, she was having horrible sickness and feeling really faint and she was judged to have put on "too much" weight. She knew this wasnt the case as she could barely keep anything down so she remarked she felt bigger but was sure it wasnt from overeating... the doctor said "well maybe your just fat" SERIOUSLY. She ended up in hospital with dangerously low BP... and guess what... it was TWINS

 

[Adela Quested]

I don't understand how anyone can put on 5 kilos in 5 days anyway ... no matter how much extra you eat your body doesn't convert it into fat that quickly!

Sounds like she didn't want to admit that she had made a minor error (which can happen to anyone, even doctors!)

At least you found out now - time to get a new doctor!