I can't do it anymore!!!!!!

[PrayerfulHope]

LO was up EVERY HOUR last night wanting to BF. I can't break her of the night wakings, and if OH goes in there she just screams in a great panic until I come in.

Back in December we were down to 1 night feed. It was awesome. But then LO got really sick, she had croup, an upper resperatory infection, and an ear infection. She stopped taking solids and would only BF. Then I got my period and my supply dipped, so she started waking up 12 times a night again. Since she got better I've gotten her down to 5 wakings a night but I can't seem to break that threshhold. I'm so, so tired. She eats a lot during the day, BF about 6 times during the day, plus 3 solids meals and snacks. She's eating more than she was during the day when she'd only wake up 1x a night, so I do not know what her deal is!!

Please, if you have advice, I'm all ears. I've tried EVERYTHING except going cold turkey and letting her cry all night..

 

[whit.]

Sleep regression? Growth Spurt? Personally, I wouldn't let her go through the night crying but that's just me. I know it sucks but it will pass.

 

[PrayerfulHope]

me neither that's why we haven't done it that way....

 

[kaths101]

she sounds like shes comfort sucking and just got in the routine of now waking and BF instead of being hungry.
Could you go in but not offer her the breast - have you tried ssh and patting? or I have read before just to offer water in a bottle and then they soon give up as its not worth waking up for!

I feel for you, ive been there for 4 months and my LO has finally decided to STTN - I know it might not stay that way though!!

 

[PrayerfulHope]

she sounds like shes comfort sucking and just got in the routine of now waking and BF instead of being hungry.
Could you go in but not offer her the breast - have you tried ssh and patting? or I have read before just to offer water in a bottle and then they soon give up as its not worth waking up for!

I feel for you, ive been there for 4 months and my LO has finally decided to STTN - I know it might not stay that way though!!

Lucky you! My LO is almost 11 months..

I've tried going in to rock, hug, snuggle. Pat her back. I've tried not going in at all but after 15 mins I can't let her cry any longer.
I've not tried the water bottle thing but maybe will give it a go!

 

[Natsku]

If the water bottle thing works let me know as I have the same problem Up every hour or so wanting boobie *sigh* I wish I knew what to do!

 

[janey1975]

I am so sorry, I don't have any advice but just wanted to offer my sympathies. I know how tired I am and I only have to wake up a couple of times during the night to BF, so can only imagine how absolutely exhausted you must be. I do hope things getting better for you soon hun x

 

[Jem88]

I'm not sure what to suggest either apart from pu/pd and/or shhh pat. We've recently got rid of LOs nightfeeds and reduced the amount in her bottles and did pu/pd and shh pat. I'm not sure how you'd do that when breastfeeding as we FF.

I know when my LO has nights where she wakes every hour when overtired/teething it's a nightmare. *hugs* x

 

[WhiteDove]

if there is an answer I need to know it...

anyway, my lactation consultant told me that if baby feeds solids and BF than I should cut his first Bf during the night, because you're sure it's not hungry feeding

 

[WhiteDove]

I tried the water bottle feeding, but my baby(9 months) couldn't be fooled
he doesn't want to take the bottle, even if I introduced it the first 9 weeks when he was born

 

[Divinebeauty]

I am not BF, but my daughter is around the same age, and for some reason she went through a waking up every hr to be comforted for about 3 weeks, I don't know whether it is a sleep regression or what.

I thought it was linked from being sick as well, as she had an ear infection about 1 month ago, which caused her a great deal of pain, as well as cut 3 teeth in 1 week.

I for now, gave her , her pacifier back, and I do feed her bits of a bottle if nothing else will work!!

i feel your pain. Hope she settles down soon hun! It difficult having absolutely No sleep at night, and trying to function during the day, if shes anything like Ava you can tell shes also had a rough night too. (irritable)

 

[Lettuce]

My lo has never been a good sleeper, but at about 5.5 months it went from bad to worse! Up every hour etc!
She's now 7months and we are down to approx 5/6 wakings a night (from 10pm til 8am) I used to do them all, but now my DH goes in every second time.
Yes, she does shout/cry a little for me, which isn't pleasant, but only for a couple of minutes and I know she's safe in her daddy's arms, I still feed her when I go in, but I'm worried she is hungry, as we've just started weaning.
Would your oh be willing to help out, just to try to break the cycle?

 

[membas#1]

could she be teething? when O has a tooth about to break through she seems to be up a TON in the night...i think it bothers her more at night because she has less distractions going on than in the daytime...so it's a bit more noticeable to her. hope you can get a good night soon.

 

[lovehearts]

Do you feed to sleep? My friend had a similar problem (although only 2 night wakenings) and she stopped feeding to sleep a d her LO started sttn within a week (at 9 months old) xx

 

[PrayerfulHope]

Do you feed to sleep? My friend had a similar problem (although only 2 night wakenings) and she stopped feeding to sleep a d her LO started sttn within a week (at 9 months old) xx

No, she eats and then put down and I leave while she's still awake. She's great at falling asleep on her own. Just not staying asleep.

 

[PrayerfulHope]

So here's what we did last night as per suggested by my mom.

When she woke, we'd let her cry for 20 minutes, and if she was still screaming OH would be sent in to help her, and I'd go sleep in the basement so as not to be tempted to rescue her...

What really happened was,

She woke up for the first time and cried for 9 minutes. Then fell asleep.
She woke up a second time 4 hrs later, cried for 6 minutes, then felll asleep.
She woke up again an hour later, and cried for 4 or 5 minutes, then fell asleep.
She woke up again at 7am, so I got up, fed her, and she went back to sleep.
She woke up at 8am, wide awake, playing with toys in her crib

I'm really hoping that we progress! I didn't have to get up to feed her at all last night and OH didn't have to get up either!!

 

[PrayerfulHope]

My lo has never been a good sleeper, but at about 5.5 months it went from bad to worse! Up every hour etc!
She's now 7months and we are down to approx 5/6 wakings a night (from 10pm til 8am) I used to do them all, but now my DH goes in every second time.
Yes, she does shout/cry a little for me, which isn't pleasant, but only for a couple of minutes and I know she's safe in her daddy's arms, I still feed her when I go in, but I'm worried she is hungry, as we've just started weaning.
Would your oh be willing to help out, just to try to break the cycle?

Your LO should probably go to sleep earlier than 10, she might be over tired! She should still be sleeping 11-13 hours a night.

 

[Divinebeauty]

Hope this progresses for you.

She did really well for sleep. Did you used to go in there as soon as she cried? If so Maybe she just needed some more time to settle, after she woke up!... awesome you figured it out.

 

[Pixoletta]

My LO is also like this but has never really been a good sleeper..

 

[PrayerfulHope]

Hope this progresses for you.

She did really well for sleep. Did you used to go in there as soon as she cried? If so Maybe she just needed some more time to settle, after she woke up!... awesome you figured it out.

yes, I always went in the moment she started crying, she'd reach for me and then root for the breast. I never like to hear her cry, it makes me so sad!

Thank you, I also hope things progress. I can't wait to catch my I was so anxious all night waiting for things to go south I couldn't shut my brain down enough to sleep well!