DS2 is 7 and at the severe end of the spectrum for ADHD. We had to medicate as he is a danger to himself and is very, very distracting at school for the other kids. It also helps him with his learning. He's in a mainstream public school because I don't want him to feel he's 'different' because of his ADHD. And it's been the best choice we have made - he's thriving at school. We have always told him he can be anything he wants to be and that his ADHD is not going to get in the way of him doing that. He's on 40mg of Ritalin LA which is the same dose a 12 year old is given from memory and on 200mgm of Clonidine a day. Clonidine keeps him calm after school as he's on a single dose of Ritalin as well as calms him down enough at night to go to sleep. When he's medicated, he's perfect. I can't fault him. But first thing in the morning he's a nightmare for use of a better term. He can rise anywhere between 3am-7am - which isn't good for me because I don't sleep very well at all and I am lucky if I am asleep by 2am. He's impulsive, arrogant, self-centered and every morning I am faced with him doing stupid shit he KNOWS not to do such as stealing, lying and just being a nasty pain in the ass to DS1. I know the early rising and impulsivivity is part and parcel of ADHD but I am pretty sure he knows that the stealing wrong and he can help it because he will do what ever he can to dispose of the evidence when he's caught. He goes out of his way to really make DS1 feel uncomfortable to the point he no longer wants to be at home. Yet, with DS3, he's fantastic. Every morning is the same exhausting routine. Communicating isn't a possibility because I am facing constant physical fights between DS1 and DS2. I'm done yelling but I don't know how to get though to them both in regards to the current routine because this has severely affected the family structure. I've ventured into the possibility of foster care for DS2 for several months but I refuse to fight the courts to re-gain custody of my son even if I've made the choice for the foster care myself. And all these so call agencies who are involved to help us with managing with him and are there for guidance and support are a joke. No where to be seen and if I ring them I get 'oh we don't know what to do'. Yeah, no s**t guys. Neither do I and your supposed to be there to help us as a family! Help please!! I can't go on like this anymore. 7 years is enough.