I don't know if ill be able to do it

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This is my first, I'm only 21, and I just found out that OH will only be able to take 1 week off from work

I just moved here with him and don't have any family or friends in this country

Ill be at home with the baby by myself and don't know anything about babies and I'm scared ill need help with the baby in order for me to recover properly

I don't know how I'm gonna do it? Any advice?
 
I am in a similar situation in that I don't know anyone besides my husband and he too won't be able to take much time off. I've been reading lots of information online about the early days, found a few Facebook groups for local moms in my area, also found out about local baby groups - there's something on every day once you find out about them. I've also signed up to various newsletters (like pampers etc) and some of them have helplines if you're struggling with anything. Finally there's always here for advice and support! :)

Hope that helps, you'll be fine and get the hang of it.
 
Don't worry! I have tons of family here but none to help me... My husband was only able to take of 1 week when we had our son and I was in the hospital 4 of the days. I only really had his help for 3 days. For me, it came natural once he was here on what to do and I mananged wonderfully in my opinion and now I have a wonderful 5 year old! Besides, can you call anyone in your family? If only for moral support!
 
Sylvia-I'm gonna do some research on the groups and sign up for the newsletters

TM-yes I can call family for support
 
My boyfriend is taking his extra sick days he has left and he will be on a week vacation with us.. but other than that thats all the help ill have ... i'll have no choice but to suck it up and deal with it.... His mom isnt doing that great so she has to live with us but will have to be very careful with her around the baby..
 
You can do it! When you have your baby motherly instinct will come out. I was terrified because like you I live far away from any family and its just hubby and I he only took 3 days off when baby was born. I thought id lose it but thats hardly the case. Baby sleeps most of the time and I nap with him. I had a pretty rough labor (was almost a two day labor) and am now anemic and there is plenty of time for me to rest and take it easy. I know its scary but you can do it :)
 
Like the other ladies have said, you CAN and will do it!! It is hard with no physical support. It was the same when I had my first child. I was 19 and my husband only took 1 day off from work when me and baby came home. I hadn't been around children either, and I had no family or friends on the same coast as me. But I read as much as possible. It was 12 yrs ago and I didn't know about support groups and things like that. But that sounds like an excellent idea. Best of luck to you!!
 
Thanks guys I really thought I was the only one in this kind of situation
 
You'll be fine hun. Once you get the hang of things like diapering, feeding etc. (which you WILL VERY quickly, it comes naturally to a mom) you'll wonder what you were ever worried about :D.

My best advice for you if you'll be on your own most of the day, sleep when the baby sleeps and get your daily shower once OH comes homes from work each day (it will help you feel sooo much better).
 
All I can say in you'll learn as you go along, thats what I did. You won't know everything but you'll get used to your baby and then it'll be easier and you'll be able to identify what it needs and is crying for. :) We all have those time when baby cries and you do everything and nothing helps, your at your wits end and then comes one huge burp or stomach churning nappy when you think ahhhh so that was it - you can't know everything, its experience.

They only thing I will say is sleep when baby does. When they sleep it is tempting to just do this and that around the house....don't you'll end up knackered as just as you finish they are awake! lol

You'll be great :)
 
im in same boat as u.. just moved to a whole diff state w no friends or family about 2 months ago, im 24, and just found out that he can take a week off... i guess ill just ask him to help me as much as he can until he has to go back and hopefully by then i will have somewhat a hang of it
 

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