I don't know when to announce my pregnancy

[LouLou0386]

I've just found out I am pregnant by doing a HPT which came as a total shock as me and my boyfriend have not been trying for a baby! I am going to the doctors this week to find out how far along I am the only problem is it is my 21st birthday in 4 weeks and I have got a big party planned but we didn't really want to tell any body until after the 12 week point so now I don't really know what to do as every one is going to be wondering why I'm not drinking at my party unless I tell every one before. I also don't want to create a bad atmosphere for the party as I don't think my parents are going to be best pleased (I'm half way through vet nurse training which took me an age to get in to so I don't think it's going to go down well, also a couple of my friends have got pregnant at 19/20 and my parents reation to that wasn't exactly a good one!) Any advice on how to handle the situation? I want to be pleased about my pregnancy but at the minute I am just in shock trying to take it in and stressing about telling people!

 

[x Michelle x]

Hi hun, if i was you i'd post this over in 1st tri forum
As for your birthday, pretend you're on antibiotics for a tooth ache or something?
And just tell your parents, like ripping off a plaster, just get it over with. They'll have to find out eventually, might as well get it over with! Perhaps speak to a tutor at college in confidence first, find out where you stand if you were to take a year off etc etc? Also, you'll need to be really careful around animal poo and stuff like that (i think) so they NEED to know.
But Congratulations!!!
Have a lovely 9 months!

 

[LouLou0386]

Thanks you, I'm new to the site so only just getting to grips with it, took me long enough to figure out how to post at all! But thanks for advice x

 

[j3ss]

I am trying to figure out a good excuse for drinking, too! I don't want to tell anyone but my mom before my second trimester. Just pretend you feel like you're coming down with something for your big day. It's not exactly untrue.

Congrats on your birthday, and congrats on the pregnancy!

 

[2009Mommy]

I understand you completely I was also 20 when I got pregnant and it was unplanned, and also with boyfriend!
my thoughts about my parents reactions were the same as yours, I was shocked and scared especially because my parents did not agree with sex before marriage. So I was scared in college too and didn't know how to tell them..
I was almost 4 months when I finally told them and was so nervous but I did it and yes they were dissapointed, sad and mad. and everyone else was in shock...
my bf and I had already decided to get married before baby was born so we did, got an apartment and 3 months later our son was born...

and my parents LOVE him soooooo much they are EXTREMELY happy with their grandson! he is the joy of their life and now I think about it and I shouldn't of stressed so much with it, so I say just tell them and dont let the stress, shock, fear or anything ruin this joy for you because you wont get this time back! you can go to school until you no longer can, take a break and go back to school, talk first with a counselor.
and for the party just say you feel like your coming down with something and not feeling to good later when you tell everyone they will understand!!

Congratulations on your pregnancy!!

 

[ellebelle]

I had fake drinks to fool people at my birthday party when I was still keeping it on the down-low and other times I just told people I was feeling dehydrated so was opting for water.

 

[Haylee.]

do you drink wine or champagne hun?? because you could always replace the real wine with fake wine?? goodluck and congrats, and happy birthday for next month lol Hh9M!!

XXX

 

[Blue_star]

You can take your time with telling them.. Tell them when you feel you are ready and just drink some pop or juice at the party. You could always let along that it's a mixed drink if you don't want anyone wondering or just go have a good time and let them wonder.

 

[redbubble]

Firstly congratulations and a happy & healthy 9 months

Now, you need to be prepared for the disappointed speech from your parents, probably some tears from mum and then the anger about how stupid you are, you shouldve waited, etc... BUT you are their daughter and they WILL get over it and then they'll be supportive.

In regard to the drinking, either drink lemonade and pass it off as vodka & lemonade or something or you can get Becks Blue beer - alcohol free and just make sure its in a glass not out of the bottle!!

xx