I don't know when to announce my pregnancy

[LouLou0386]

I've just found out I am pregnant by doing a HPT which came as a total shock as me and my boyfriend have not been trying for a baby! I am going to the doctors this week to find out how far along I am the only problem is it is my 21st birthday in 4 weeks and I have got a big party planned but we didn't really want to tell any body until after the 12 week point so now I don't really know what to do as every one is going to be wondering why I'm not drinking at my party unless I tell every one before. I also don't want to create a bad atmosphere for the party as I don't think my parents are going to be best pleased (I'm half way through vet nurse training which took me an age to get in to so I don't think it's going to go down well, also a couple of my friends have got pregnant at 19/20 and my parents reation to that wasn't exactly a good one!) Any advice on how to handle the situation? I want to be pleased about my pregnancy but at the minute I am just in shock trying to take it in and stressing about telling people!

 

[AngelUK]

I am not sure how you could announce it but I have an idea how you could excuse yourself for not drinking. Why don't you say you have an infection such as UTI and that you are on antibiotics and are not allowed to drink with it? Also if you did say you have a UTI your going to the loo a lot would surprise no one. At least I need to pee a lot more since being preggo.
I hope you have a happy and healthy 9 months and good luck with your family

 

[justplainTIFF]

Or have a non alcoholic drink prepared for yourself. Make a nice punch or something and leave the alcohol part optional. If anyone wants to add to their punch they can and you can happily sim on it without feeling completely left out.

 

[The Alchemist]

The above posters have great suggestions for you. I think that might help divert other people's "?"

As for telling people, it shouldn't have to be a stressor, honey. Tell them when you are ready. There's not a standard rule when to announce pregnancy. Women do it for their own personal reasons. For me, I waited until I was close to my 2nd trimester to announce it because I felt more comfortable about my pregnancy around that time. So my suggestion for you is DO NOT STRESS about telling people. It's a personal choice.

As for your parents, you know that as evidence by your friends who had gotten pregnant at 19/20, you feel they wouldn't be happy with YOUR pregnancy. Try to understand it from their POV but also let them know that it's not because you're following your friends' footsteps. Try to comfort them and to give them a peace of mind about this. They love you and only want what's best for you. Finish your vet nursing. They'll feel a lot better on that note because had it been my parents, finishing school is what they'd want their kids to accomplish, whether pregnant during it or not.

Does your OH know? You said you two weren't trying for a baby. Hope he will take it well and hope you have a happy and healthy pregnancy.