I don't want to wait!

[Janesworld]

My doctor's nurse told me I should wait one cycle to start TTC after a miscarriage, however I don't want to! She said the reason a person should wait is because the chance of having another MC would be much higher right away. I STILL DON'T WANT TO WAIT. Does anyone else have any information on this? I really want to keep trying. I googled it, and couldn't find anything too terrible about starting right away, except for emotional reasons (which I feel emotionally ready to keep going at this point).

Any advice/opinion/info would be greatly appreciated!

 

[judy79]

Just do it. I mean there is always a chance for a m/c. Give it a try.

 

[Wildflower]

I would listen to my doctor over random folks on the interwebz.

 

[NOMORENUMBERS]

i heard that you are more fertile after a miscarriage and a lot of ladies on here have gotten bfp a month afterwards - gl hun xkc

 

[Janesworld]

I would listen to my doctor over random folks on the interwebz.

Would totally agree with you, but I guess I'm thinking I would rather try and possibly miscarry, then not have a chance at all. Is that awful for me to think that way?

 

[babybears25]

sorry about your mc

do what you feel is right...one of my good friends unfortunately had a mc in the middle of jan this year (at 7 wks) and she got another BFP at the end of Feb! she has had a completely normal uncomplicated pregnancy and baby due end of Nov. So its up to you.

hope this helps

 

[mrsessex]

I guess I'm thinking I would rather try and possibly miscarry, then not have a chance at all. Is that awful for me to think that way?

Not at all.

Your body & mind...you go for it

Only YOU know how you feel deep down mentally & physically.

xxxxx

 

[Janesworld]

sorry about your mc

do what you feel is right...one of my good friends unfortunately had a mc in the middle of jan this year (at 7 wks) and she got another BFP at the end of Feb! she has had a completely normal uncomplicated pregnancy and baby due end of Nov. So its up to you.

hope this helps

Thank you!

I think I'm going to. I don't think I was ever not going to, just looking for someone to say it was ok. So all you ladies made me feel better.... thank you!

 

[babybears25]

Go for it

 

[DarlingMe]

Sorry about your loss Jane. The reason for waiting is to let your uterine lining build back up so you have a better chance of implantation and a good placenta. It also allows ur uterus to return to a normal size, because even if you werent that far along it still did expand. If your uterus doesnt have a chance to recoup that increases your risk of miscarriage. The surges in hormones following the MC are the reason for the increase in fertility. And although I am some random folk on the net , I am also a nurse. I would follow the advice of the nurse at the office just to avoid any more heartbreak! But if you are feeling emotionally ready that is an important factor too!

 

[Janesworld]

Sorry about your loss Jane. The reason for waiting is to let your uterine lining build back up so you have a better chance of implantation and a good placenta. It also allows ur uterus to return to a normal size, because even if you werent that far along it still did expand. If your uterus doesnt have a chance to recoup that increases your risk of miscarriage. The surges in hormones following the MC are the reason for the increase in fertility. And although I am some random folk on the net , I am also a nurse. I would follow the advice of the nurse at the office just to avoid any more heartbreak! But if you are feeling emotionally ready that is an important factor too!

That's good information- thank you. Do you by chance know how much it increases the chances of another MC? Maybe I'll google it... I'm sort of a google addict...

I guess I've got time to think about it. I'm not going to lie, I really want to go for it. But at the same time, that was really hard... I guess my main concern would be the safety of the baby, which would be a completely different story if that were the case. But from what I understand, if I were to become pregnant right away it would not affect the baby's development?

I think, when it comes down to it, I just want another baby- and would risk a few days of depression for the possibility of having one... If that makes any sense...

I appreciate your response- thank you!

 

[DarlingMe]

That's good information- thank you. Do you by chance know how much it increases the chances of another MC? Maybe I'll google it... I'm sort of a google addict...

I guess I've got time to think about it. I'm not going to lie, I really want to go for it. But at the same time, that was really hard... I guess my main concern would be the safety of the baby, which would be a completely different story if that were the case. But from what I understand, if I were to become pregnant right away it would not affect the baby's development?

I think, when it comes down to it, I just want another baby- and would risk a few days of depression for the possibility of having one... If that makes any sense...

I appreciate your response- thank you!

No problem. Unfortunately I am not an OB nurse so my expertise on that knowledge is limited! Now if you have heart question I am your girl! Do they know why you MC? It is hard to say what effect it would have on a baby or another MC without knowing. Although it sounds like if they told you just to wait a month it was one of those unfortunate things. I am pretty sure they dont even look into why women MC unless there are multiple occurences. Just make sure you are looking at professional sites when u google your info!

I absolutely get what you are saying the risk of those days of depression is worth the pricelessness (is that word?) of having a . I hope that you get a happy, healthy whenever you decide you are ready for it!

 

[CLH_X3]

When I had a early miscarriage the nurses told me to try straight away if i wanted, no need to wait unless i wasnt emotionally ready xx

 

[Barnesmaries]

most doctors advise you to wait 1-3 cycles after a miscarriage but it doesnt mean you HAVE to. i started trying again straight away after i miscarried.
hope this helps

 

[croydongirl]

It depends how far along you were when you had your m/c if it was early my doc told me there is no reason to wait, but if it is further along then your body is not as ready to sustain a pregnancy and emotionally its so tough I would consider waiting 1-3 months.

Whatever you decide, I wish you all the luck in the world with #2

 

[Janesworld]

It was very early- only about 15 dpo- which is why I'm so ready. I can honestly say that if I was further along, I would need (both physically and emotionally) time to "heal".

I hope I don't seem silly making a fuss of miscarrying at such an early stage... Sometimes I feel that way!

You ladies are awesome... thanks for all the replies!

 

[portablechick]

There was some research in the health news here just a couple of months ago - poo pooing the fact the medics and WHO tell ladies to wait a few months after mc to try again - it said a women who conceives in the months straight after a mc has an increased chance of a normal pregnancy!

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/health-10891840

I know it's only one study - but it was quite big - i say just do what u feel is right for u, plus if u hadn't of been testing u would never have known u were preggers in the first place and would just be ttc like usual

 

[Lucina]

I was told after my first mc it was ok to start straight away and we managed to get pregnant quickly but one I had my second mc I regretted it as we hadn't allowed ourselves the chance to heal mentally fully and the blow seemed so much crueller as they were in close proximity. Its entirely a personal choice but I would recommend you think carefully about if you could cope if the worst where to happen again. Best of luck