I feel like people and their comments are ruining my time as a new mummy :(

[charlottefran]

I have had a bit of a sad week really i love being a mummy so much and my baby girl is such a happy baby but i keep getting such negative comments off people i really don't get why its really getting me down at the weekend my sister in law talked to me like i was stupid she doesnt even have a baby of her own so dont know how she knows anyway. Then today i went up to the baby group in my village and the lady a couple of doors down said in front of everyone oh is katie alright i have heard her crying lots lately? it was so patronizing the way she said it and looked at me its not even katie who has been crying i think its the baby a couple of doors down from me it just made me look really bad everyone looked at me why say that! even if it was her are babies not allowed to cry when they are teething etc
sorry to go on there is lots more comments which i will not bore you with just feel sad about it and needed to get it off my chest thanks for listening

 

[Sam9kids]

awww (((hugs))) dont you listen to them. you just enjoy your princess xx

 

[Buffy71]

Grrrr

tell them to sod off.

Xxx

 

[Faerie]

Hard, but try to ignore them. Or for your neighbour "gosh, doesn't your baby ever cry? How strange!" might help.

 

[Pessimistic]

Aww hun

I know how you feel! Peoples comments really hurt when you have a bubba, always a competition or something that makes you feel like you are a bad mummy. Keep your head up... babies cry!!!!! Some people are thick.

 

[rainbows_x]

Aww
Just ignore them or tell them where to go

 

[aob1013]

Oh hun, people just don't think before they speak sometimes xxxxxxx

 

[charlottefran]

what makes it worse is the women next door has a baby two weeks younger i hear him cry all the time but would never dream of doing that x x

 

[A3my]

I had a lot of stupid comments during my pregnancy that really got me down. People are thoughtless, try to ignore them. Its lovely that you are enjoying being a Mummy so much, thats the main thing

 

[charlottefran]

also any ignoring skills would be really appreciated? as im rubbish and take apsolutley everything to heart which is why i think people are so mean and take advantage of my good nature think i just need to stop going to these groups and put some ear plugs in everywhere else lol!

 

[Susie28]

Just take no notice. You will find that now you have had a baby, people suddenly have an opinion on everything you do and think they know better. Don't let it get to you (and if all else fails, tell them to mind their own bloody business) x

 

[Susie28]

also any ignoring skills would be really appreciated? as im rubbish and take apsolutley everything to heart which is why i think people are so mean and take advantage of my good nature think i just need to stop going to these groups and put some ear plugs in everywhere else lol!

Just say, "Yeah I appreciate your concern/advice but I'm her mummy and I know what's best for her. Thankyou" and then walk away.

 

[Mrs.W]

Just rise above them, you are just too busy giving your gorgeous girl 100% to play their silly games, I wouldn't stop going to baby group. Just imagine them talking in a thong or sitting on the toilet

 

[WhiteDove]

Next time tell them she wants to be a singer!
or something else funny!

 

[Faerie]

also any ignoring skills would be really appreciated? as im rubbish and take apsolutley everything to heart which is why i think people are so mean and take advantage of my good nature think i just need to stop going to these groups and put some ear plugs in everywhere else lol!

Remind yourself that it's because you love your daughter so much you take any even slightly negative comment to heart. We Mummys can't help it!

Don't stop going to the groups, you never know when you'll meet a great friend. Honestly the first time I went to my group I never wanted to go back but now I've met some awesome people through there.

 

[bathbabe]

people can be mean. Now you have a baby everybody thinks they are entitled to express their opinion! Take it with a pinch of salt hun, then come here and moan! We dont mind! Please dont stop going to your baby group xxx

 

[Baby France]

I agree with Faerie don't stop going to groups! I've met a really good friend through those groups! Unfortunately you'll always get people who don't think/know better or competition mums!

It doesn't matter about anyone else in the world think/say/do as long as you and LO are healthy and happy! x

 

[charlottefran]

thankyou so much god i love this site it has been so good to get things off my chest with people who understand x x

 

[littleone2010]

Hi Hun, oh god,,, I know what you mean, I am sensitive anyway but I have had so many stupid comments (like when my baby was 8 weeks old I was feeding her every 2 or 3 hours and my dad said I shouldnt feed her so much because I will make her obese!) Only you are with your baby all the time and you know best, I have such insensitive comments by women as well, and the ones that dont even have children are the worst! Keep your chin up, you know what a wonderful mummy you are x

 

[poppy fields]

I so know what you mean. I commented to my other half yesterday how since I'd been going to baby groups I've met some of the b1tchiest women I've ever known! I'm in Oxford too - perhaps they are the same ones ;-)

I have met some nice people too. Don't give up.