I feel like the worst mom ever:(

[Kasia]

My husband and I have our own business. He at this point does nothing really but I still have to go to work. No, it's not monday thru friday 9-5 but I have things that need to be done and I have gotten so behind, it's really stressing me out.
My husband refuses to stay at home with the baby, saying she whines and cries too much. Yet, he expects me to take her to work with me! We have been arguing over this for weeks, finally this week I have had it, I started taking her to day care. She is only 11 weeks old, but I feel like my hands are tied. No, I do not need her in day care every day, but I do need to know that if I have things to do, I have someone to watch her.
She started daycare on tuesday, and I took her yesterday. I was going to keep her home today, but she has done so well the past 2 days and has been sleeping great at night still (I probably just jinxed myself) that I kinda want her to stay on a consistent schedule. Now I feel like total CRAP. I came to work today, but I really could've stayed home. Is anyone in the same boat? I feel so guilty, we are in a position that we really don't NEED daycare. I just wish my husband would step to the plate and take care of her when I need, I'm just so upset about this

 

[seoj]

First... don't beat yourself up hun, you need to do what you need to do. And truly, your LO will be just fine... daycare or not. Plenty of kids grow up going to day care.

I can totally see your point about hubby watching LO... personally, that would be very frustrating for me as well. I'm sure my hubby would jump at the chance to stay home if we had that option. But we both need to work to afford the house and bills... so our LO stays with grandma's when we work. That's hard enough- and I know she get's the best of care... but if we didn't have that option, then day care it would have to be.

Maybe it's possible to get caught up more with work soon, so that you can find a better balance as to when you would actually need LO in care? Maybe sit down and discuss with hubby if maybe there is at least 1-2 days a week he could watch LO, then you can spread out her other days between you and care? Just some thoughts...

Sorry it can't be easier hun... but you'll get there!

 

[tummymummy]

Your not a bad mum at all hun your doing everything you can to provide for your lo and for that your a fab mum. Big hugs xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx