I feel worthless :'(

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As ive put on here before i have just started a period after 190+ days and its really heavy and clotty, which is expected, but ive been bleeding for 11 days :( And its really getting me down and my OH keeps saying what do you expect :cry:
Also i have pulled all my rightside so ribs, hips and breathing hurt, so as you can imagine sleepings a little hard. Well my OH had to get up early and he was moaning because i was moaning in pain :grr: WTF!!!
The thing that really hurts is ive moved away with him n ive got no one to lean on, i feel soooo alone :( I went to hug him this morning as hes away for week and he might as well have pushed me away, cos when i went to go over he said hes getting up!!
I dont know what it is, ive put weight on so maybe its that ohh i dont know :cry: maybe hes stressed with work and housemove :shrug:
Dont get me wrong i love him to pieces but seriously hes sooo insensitive!! The dog gets all the cuddles n affection of him!!! Yes i think im jealous of a dog :blush: But i cant help it!!!
So I have decided that i am NOT trying for a baby while things are like they are :cry::cry:

xx
 
Maybe try to talk to him to ask what is wrong?
You're right to not think about TTC if you feel that something is wrong.

((HUG)) xx
 
My DH can be very distant when he's stressed out. House moves and work can be very stressful and men can show it in a funny way. It can be a macho thing I think to show no emotion and carry on regardless which comes across as insensitive and cold to us. Try taking some time out together, have a nice meal and offer a nice massage or something. I know you're in a lot of pain but if you can just get him to relax with you, you might find he opens up.
 
Awww Hun. That's rubbish. Maybe he's feeling a bit useless? I hope things improve for you. :) xxx
 
I'd try talking to him. My DH is definitely distant when he's stressed out. He doesn't always realise how much that can effect me. But usually, once he knows how bad I'm feeling, he does his best to make me feel better. Sometimes they don't know any better!

:hugs:
 
Thanks ladies :flower: i have tried talking to him but hes away 5 days of the week :(
My daughter is playing up since we have moved so thats stressing me out too!! I just want him to open up to me and see that we both need it, and to grow close again :cry:
I know he loves me i just really need him to show it now!!

xx
 
Men def show it stress different ways the not wanting to be close or bd, is what I deal with when hubbie is stressed. Try and not worry they get stressed about things that they can't help like u feeling terrible and wanting to conceive. Men like to be in control just like us. He prob doesn't know how to talk to u. Good luck anyways and try not to give up okay :)
 
I just wanted to send you some :hugs::hugs:

X x x
 
Men don't handle stress as well as women. They tend to drift off, go into their own little world and have the tendency to believe it's all about them and forget about those around them. My DH doesn't handle stress well AT ALL. I can't count how many arguments we had about that. I told him if things don't change I'm out the door. He finally stopped and now he doesn't let too much get to him and when something IS bothering him he'll talk about it. If your DH isn't listening to you then maybe you can write him a letter. That way there are no interruptions. Maybe then it'll get through to him. You have feelings just like he has feelings and you both need time away together. Probably with all the new events in your lives it got to him but tell him it's all temporary and this move could be a good thing. Tell him to look at the positives rather than the negatives. I can be like that at times too and I always make a pros and cons list. I even made one when it came to having another baby. I don't like doing things without seeing in front of my eyes what I'm dealing with. Maybe DH just needs some help right now and as a man he has too much pride to ask you for it. Maybe he doesn't want you to worry so he pretends things are cool when deep down he's struggling. I agree with putting TTC on hold until you get to the bottom of this. That way you BOTH have a clear head and know what's right. Good luck.
 
You not worthlessbabe -men are arses sometimes my o/h is loving but sometimes he can be distant normally when he's worrying about something or feeling down.

ID have a chat when he comes home .You say you moved away to be with him.Well i did the same with myo/h but now he's moving down myn and its very stressing having no one to talk with , i totally feel your pain on that one.
Dont ever think your worthless xxx
 
Any updates? Have you tried to talk to him? X
 
Thanks ladies for your support :flower:

We kinda spoke last night and he said he doesnt mean to hurt me at all and he didnt know he was! He said he is stressed at work and also with how much work we have got to do in the new property! He also said the 3 words that lifted me up 'I love you' :dance: sometimes all a person needs is to hear them words :) :)
I think hr also realises that i am missing family back home and that i have no friends here :(
Hes also worried about us not getting pregnant yet, bless him! Damn PCOS!!

Well we have arranged to go out weekend for a boogie :dance::haha: I cant wait :happydance:

xx
 
Thanks ladies for your support :flower:

We kinda spoke last night and he said he doesnt mean to hurt me at all and he didnt know he was! He said he is stressed at work and also with how much work we have got to do in the new property! He also said the 3 words that lifted me up 'I love you' :dance: sometimes all a person needs is to hear them words :) :)
I think hr also realises that i am missing family back home and that i have no friends here :(
Hes also worried about us not getting pregnant yet, bless him! Damn PCOS!!

Well we have arranged to go out weekend for a boogie :dance::haha: I cant wait :happydance:

xx




I honestly know how your feeling with the no friends and no body to talk too.

I moved from birmingham to cheshire 75miles apart to be with my o/h .
I lasted 9months i use tofeel so insecure allon my own and any little argument or cross word id take it to heart that much id end up on a silent protest for days on end .It was horrible i had no one i was also living at my o/hs moms house so i felt trapped at times .We'd been TTC for a year at that point .And I REMeber this one cycle where i thought i was pregnent and AF came i was that heart broken i got up and went home to birmingham because every month was worse than the last.

But i suffer with bi-polar so im not the best at being strong .But you're deffentlymore strong than me .And im glad he said he loved you because your right sometimes that all you need when your alone ina strange place with no one but walls .It makes all the lonelyness worth while :hugs:
 
Aww hun i am sooo sorry you feel like this :hugs::hugs: im here if you ever wanna talk! No need to feel alone :)
Have you explained to him how you are feeling!?

Ive just moved from Cheshire to the Wirral! What you think of the area?

xx
 
Aww hun i am sooo sorry you feel like this :hugs::hugs: im here if you ever wanna talk! No need to feel alone :)
Have you explained to him how you are feeling!?

Ive just moved from Cheshire to the Wirral! What you think of the area?

xx


Hi hun -thanks for the request .

I lived in congleton thats whereo/h lives i found it very small and everyone knew everyone and same people around town alot .In birmingham you could meet someone and never see them again as birmigham is massive.

You feeling better hun ??? ever wanna talk i know how you feel:hugs::hugs:
 
Ahaaa i know what you mean i moved from crewe n it was like that there! You couldnt pass wind without town knowing :rofl: I have been birmingham before its huge!!
Im fine at mo just plodding along as you do :)
Hows things with you?! Things will get better hun :flower:

xx
 
oh acts like this with me. He doesnt realize how much he really hurts my feelings and I dont know how to make him listen.

BTW, when you said that oh said he loved you, and that is all you needed to hear, it made me cry. :blush:
 
Ahaaa i know what you mean i moved from crewe n it was like that there! You couldnt pass wind without town knowing :rofl: I have been birmingham before its huge!!
Im fine at mo just plodding along as you do :)
Hows things with you?! Things will get better hun :flower:

xx

hi hun, if dontmind me asking how did you come to decision to leave crewe and everything behide??and have you settled ok ??

its a big thingdoing what we have done , i met my o/h off facebook
when i left congleton me and o/h split for 5months he didnt takeit well at all .

Now only see eachother weekends so TTC stuff is off at min , but still NTNP at weekends .I miss himso much but i wasnt strongenough i dont drive and i had to be soul dependent on him and it made me feel insecure so i left.

you're lot stronger than me hun xx
 

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