I flipped out at my brother..

[LoveMyBaby786]

Im still shaking over what happened.. (some violence so please dont read if you dont want)

My younger brother (18) was having an argument with my other younger brother (16). It was the older ones fault as it always is. I step in (im holding my nearly 5 month old baby btw) and he comes in to my face and effing and blinding REAL loud! My automatic reaction was to slap his face as all i could think was I'm holding a baby and he's all up in my face screaming! That's when he grabbed my throat and pushed me against the kitchen worktops. I was so shook i kicked him off me then thrust the baby in the younger brothers arms before slapping the older one again. I was shaking and crying screaming at him how dare he grab my throat when im holding a baby.

What makes it worse is him still screaming abuse at me saying 'punch me go on punch me' then saying to my older sister i'll kill the babies aswell.

I have no words to describe what im feeling. Was it my fault for slapping him first? Maybe i should have walked away? In all my life no one has ever done anything like that when im holding a baby and now i feel like i know if anyone ever does something like that i would lash on instead of walking away judging by what happened today. I dont want to be abusive but in my head i did it to protect my baby. When i think about it i start crying. I just wanted to protect her..

 

[HBGirl]

It was NOT your fault! What a psycho! Testosterone is horrible stuff.

 

[YoshiPikachu]

Wow he's crazy!

 

[TryinFor1]

I would have gotten crazy too if he got in my face. Where was your husband or dad? Both would have beat the living shit out of my brother if he did that to me. Disrespectful prick!

 

[LoveMyBaby786]

Both husband and dad were at work no other man in the house but my sisters came down and tols him to basically stfu. Still so in shock over this. He's always been a disrespectful piece of thing my dads given up on him he doesnt listen to anyone anymore.

 

[bcos21]

Major hugs! I don't know who is to blame here, honestly, it sounds like it was just a bad situation. The slap was gasoline on the fire. In the future, especially of you're holding a baby, it may be a good idea to just take a step back. Its a tough one, you just try to do the best you can in the situation. In all honesty, if someone slapped me, I'd freak out.

 

[HKateH]

I think you're both in the wrong to be honest. You shouldn't have slapped him in the first place. You shouldn't have been in that situation with a baby in your arms as your brother clearly has anger issues.

 

[Kirsty3051]

I probably would have removed my baby from the situation before involving myself and telling everybody to calm down, but it sounds like you were acting on instinct and didn't have time to think it through. I know if somebody grabbed me by the throat and pushed me against something, I'd protect myself and then call the police. If somebody dared to do that while I was holding my baby, my temper would be long gone and they'd be picking themselves up off the floor.

I obviously wasn't there but I don't think it would have escalated as far as it did if you'd of kept your hands to yourself to start with. That's just my opinion. X

 

[felix555]

I think you could have handled it better in all honesty, slapping him while holding your baby was not a good idea at all but probably done in the heat of the moment.

Let's be honest if you were a man and you slapped someone while holding a baby you'd be judged to buggery. It's never acceptable in my opinion to be physically violent to another person.

You're both to blame in my opinion.

 

[KatieB]

I think you were also in the wrong for slapping him. I do, however, think he sounds a complete nutjob saying he'll "kill the babies". Disgusting. I certainly wouldn't slap him holding my child and if he is such a psycho as he appears to be from your post, I would steer well clear, namely for the sake of my children to be frank.

 

[sue_88]

I think you're both to blame also. You were holding a baby and decided to get in the middle of it which put your baby in harms way. This was a huge mistake, if you wanted to get involved you should have put the baby down.

No one should be violent towards another person, but you did start it by slapping him. He might have been all talk otherwise if you hadn't of hit him.

 

[emyandpotato]

He sounds totally crazy and out of order but slapping him twice will not have helped and was out of order of you, as his older sibling and supposed role model. And you had your daughter there too. I think you should have removed yourself from the situation the second he started to shout at you, as it must have been scary for your daughter. I understand why you slapped him the first time though, as we can all react like that in scary situations.

I think you should sincerely apologise to him for slapping him, but then talk to him about how unacceptable and frightening his behaviour is, especially in front of young children, and explain to him that if he's violent again you won't be involving him in yours nor your children's lives.

 

[kaylacrouch93]

Id be calling the cops on his dumb but.. Uhm its not your fault at all and the cops will be in your favor since he got up in your face while you was hold your infant..

 

[LoveMyBaby786]

Thank you all for your honest opinions. Now im much calmer i do feel as though i shouldnt have slapped him it was all definately in the heat of the moment. He was in my face swearing and honestly thats the first thing that came in to my mind to move him out of my way. There was no where for me to go unless i physically moved him out the way as i was against the worktops and he was in my face but still i know thats not an excuse, i was just shocked at the amount of swearing he was yelling at me with my daughter inches away from him face. I know now that i could have possibly handled it better if i thought first but unfortunately i didn't think before i acted this time. I was just seriously so shook as no one has ever sworn or yelled like that in front of my baby. Ive definately learnt a lot from today and pray nothing like this ever happens again.

Thank you ladies once again for your honest opinions.

 

[HBGirl]

I hope you are OK today. x

 

[sethsmummy]

I was going to say you shouldnt have slapped hun UNTIL i read the last comment syaing he already had you pinned in against a worktop... YES you were totally in the right to slap him... in that situation i would have 100% called the police and had his ass arrested!

I hope to lord you told your oh and your dad and that something is done about him! I could not be living in a house with someone like that when i had a baby. What a disgusting excuse for a human being he is!

 

[justplay91]

I don't care what else happened or who started what, if someone said "I don't care, I'll kill the baby too," I'd lose it and beat the everloving $&@# out of them!

 

[LoveMyBaby786]

Thanks ladies im much better today. Yeah he is lucky i didn't hear him say those disgusting words, my sister told me he was screaming that at me but i was on the phone to my dad at the time so didn't hear him.

Anyway he has been avoiding me now since that day. (Typical teenager) i just want to forget whatever happened and hope he apologises to me for doing that and saying those horrible things

 

[Wriggley]

My initial thought was you shouldnt have put yourself in the situation whilst holding your baby as that was putting baby in harms way.. but its easy to say that when your not in the situation and we all have these moments where things happen in the heat of the moment and we dont really think it through

glad your feeling better this morning

 

[twobecome3]

do you all live together hun?