I hate DH going out, how do I deal?

[MiuMiow]

I really hate DH going out at the best of times because he never, never sticks to the hour he says he'll be home (and not by thirty minutes either) and I just worry he'll be hit over the head or run over or mugged or godknows. And that is at the best of times. Now I'm pregnant.
I have no friends, I'm just not that social... at all, I really really dislike his friends but I can do one night a week. However two nights a week really rubs me the wrong way. I spend all evening worried sick and teary eyed

I'd like to be able to use the nights he goes out for myself, you know, chill and enjoy the me-time before bub arrives. But the hormonal harpy inside me makes it impossible. I just want him home! But that is so selfish. Blahhhhh what do I do? Should I slap myself?

 

[JaniceT]

Well, the more you want him glued to you, the more he'll be out. Why not do something for yourself? You may be un-social but why not try something like joining a mother-to-be group at your local area? It could help you get support and friends too. Never ever depend on your OH for everything or for your 100% happiness.

If you just don't want to go out or meet people, then learn how to knit baby booties or a new hobby. You are blessed with a little one on the way, being able to feel it grow inside you. Your OH doesn't have that priviledge so maybe it's only fair he gets to be with mates occasionally

 

[Waiting2bMommy]

Twice a week is a little much to me. When my hubby is home he doesn't go out unless i'm with him. But i'm as social as he is. I would have a talk with him. Your being generous giving him one night a week. Tell him while your pregnant and hormonal you need him home and could he possibly settle with one night a week. I don't think thats unkind at all.

 

[misspeach24]

Well ur not alone because my BF goes out all the time, if he's off work nearly everyday. If he's not out he's playing the computer games, making the house into a warzone! I feel okay when he's out and enjoy the peaceful time

 

[Sunseal]

Ah, I can't really give advice on this to be honest, but I didn't want to read and run.
My OH is part of a biker club, and as much as I absolutely despise it, he's out every Wednesday night for a club meeting until about 9pm, and then every Friday and Saturday until about 3am. Sometimes I go with him because if I'm there he tends to tone his drinking down, but I don't often go because I have the baby to think of now.
I hate the fact he does it, but he says his responsibilities with the club run deep and it's not something he can stop doing. Rubbish. What about his responsibilities with me and this child?

So basically, I guess my advice would be that if you aren't happy about it, talk to him. But if he's just out having some fun with his mates and in at a reasonable-ish hour, then maybe you should really concentrate on using that time for yourself, pamper yourself and do all the things that make you happy

xx

 

[alocin22]

Ah hun, is hard. I have the same with my BF, we have had many arguments with his going out and famous 'wont be late' when some times he eventually rolls in at 2am in the morning and uses the excuse got talking didnt realise the time
I have now learnt to try and make the time my time.....the hardest part was the stopping worrying if anything is wrong. I know treat the time as my time, and set on my mind that he wont be home until early hours.. if he is its a bonus... the worst thing will be to stop him going... xxxxx