I haven't eaten a proper meal in days.

[angiepie]

I'm under so much stress and am so depressed I just don't feel hungry. Or sometimes, even when I am hungry, I still don't feel like eating and just ignore the feeling til it goes away. Since being pregnant I've lost 8kg. I didn't have MS, I've actually been perfectly healthy, but due to depression and anxiety and stress I just haven't eaten and have often had diarrhoea (from the anxiety). I would say that I've only had one full size dinner (size of what I ate pre pregnancy) in about a month.

To give you an idea, this is what I ate the last 3 days. I know it's not enough.

Wed- 2 slices toast, hot cross bun, sandwich. Didn't take my vitamins
Thurs- 1 slice toast, 3 biscuits. Didn't take my vitamins again
Today- sandwich, slice of zucchini and onion omelette, and I'm now eating a slice of pita bread. Had my vitamins and some fresh OJ coz I figured it'd be good for my blood sugar.

I know, that's it. at our ultrasound yesterday the baby was perfectly fine but I'm still worried. I was slightly overweight at the start of pregnancy so I guess that makes it less worrisome but it's certainly not good! I just can't bring myself to eat. I know it's psychological, but I've also gotten so used to not eating that when I do eat I can manage 2 bites and then I'm full. I forced myself to keep going with the omelette and I'm glad I did, but I've felt sick ever since coz it was just 'too much'.

I'm not sure what else I can do to eat more and get more nutrients to the baby!? I've got a headache which I can only assume is from not eating enough. I am drinking plenty of water though, I'm great at that. But I'm still finding my lips are dry so idk.

Any advice?

 

[mojo86]

Sorry to hear your having such a hard time!!! I would suggest speaking to your midwife for some advice and also so she can keep an eye on you. I had hyperemesis when I was pregnant and never ate a proper meal from around 7 weeks until about 32 weeks. I wanted to be sooo healthy and i ended up not eating and barely drinking. When i did drink it had to be fizzy juice and i lived on crisps for quite a while. By the time I was 40 weeks pregnant id only put on 10lbs coz id lost so much weight to begin with. But i gave birth to a healthy 8lbs 2.5oz baby! I know we couldnt eat for very different reasons but what i suppose im trying to say is try not to worry too much about the baby as they will drain you and take everything they need. If you were measuring well for your stage in pregnancy at your scan thats also good. If your drinking plenty fluids thats fab. I would suggest trying to eat little and often. Even munching on fruit or raw veggies. Id also suggest eating anything u ever fancy even if its chips or something equally unhealthy. Also, have u had ur bloods checked? With the weight loss and the fact your barely eating you may be low in iron and or folate levels so may be worth checking as this will make you feel tired and wont help woth the depression. Are you seeing anyone to help you with your depression?

 

[Dinah93]

A week or two isn't going to have a huge impact on the baby, but if you're not eating many fruits or veggies at least take the vitamins to get the nutrients that way. I have no appetite at the moment either, but I really need to force myself as our baby is likely to be a preemie and needs all the help it can get. I'm existing on sandwiches at the moment with some strawberries, apples or a yoghurt as a snack. Need to pull out of it and actually cook something as its been 5 days since I had a real meal now.

 

[angiepie]

Sorry to hear your having such a hard time!!! I would suggest speaking to your midwife for some advice and also so she can keep an eye on you. I had hyperemesis when I was pregnant and never ate a proper meal from around 7 weeks until about 32 weeks. I wanted to be sooo healthy and i ended up not eating and barely drinking. When i did drink it had to be fizzy juice and i lived on crisps for quite a while. By the time I was 40 weeks pregnant id only put on 10lbs coz id lost so much weight to begin with. But i gave birth to a healthy 8lbs 2.5oz baby! I know we couldnt eat for very different reasons but what i suppose im trying to say is try not to worry too much about the baby as they will drain you and take everything they need. If you were measuring well for your stage in pregnancy at your scan thats also good. If your drinking plenty fluids thats fab. I would suggest trying to eat little and often. Even munching on fruit or raw veggies. Id also suggest eating anything u ever fancy even if its chips or something equally unhealthy. Also, have u had ur bloods checked? With the weight loss and the fact your barely eating you may be low in iron and or folate levels so may be worth checking as this will make you feel tired and wont help woth the depression. Are you seeing anyone to help you with your depression?

Yep I see 2 counsellors and I'm also doing a weekly programme. I had bloods about 3 weeksish ago and everything was fine except Vit d but I have pills for that now.

I've completely gone off a lot of foods (esp meat) but I love oranges and carby things. So I will try to eat an orange tomorrow and I think DF and I are gonna go to the chicken shop for lunch so I will try to eat some chips, they're full of salt and fat, bound to fatten up the baby. Also having dinner with my parents tomorrow so hopefully it's something very appetising that will encourage me to eat.

We actually have a midwife appt in 12 hours! So I'll ask her about it. Thanks for your reply!

 

[angiepie]

A week or two isn't going to have a huge impact on the baby, but if you're not eating many fruits or veggies at least take the vitamins to get the nutrients that way. I have no appetite at the moment either, but I really need to force myself as our baby is likely to be a preemie and needs all the help it can get. I'm existing on sandwiches at the moment with some strawberries, apples or a yoghurt as a snack. Need to pull out of it and actually cook something as its been 5 days since I had a real meal now.

I've been staying with my parents and haven't cooked in 5 weeks! And honestly it's getting depressing! I want to make my own food that I like like spaghetti and stir fry or enchiladas! DF and I are currently living apart and when we're back together and in our flat I am going to cook soooooo much.

I do love oranges and ate maybe 3 or 4 last week but just haven't wanted anything this week. It sucks coz I was sooo healthy before preg and up til about 7 weeks. My snacks were organic raw vegetables and fruit and meals all organic and very healthy, and I used to make smoothies and stuff...oh memories.