I love my husband but I do not like him very much right now

[LadyHutch]

I take care of the baby all day, and work as much as I can. He says shitty things about me not being at the office (i get down there almost every single day since I was 7 DAYS post partum for at least a few hours, baby in tow), and then won't let me hire an assistant or get a nanny or find child care. He bitches that I am not there, then when I get there wants me gone.

I had a dr appointment today, and I am anemic from this wretched blood loss. She thinks I have endometritis, an infection, and if the bleeding doesn't let up, I gotta do an ultrasound on monday, and possibly have whatever is causing the bleed operated on. Of course, he never even asked how things went.

He told me to ask our boss about something, then accused me of going behind his back to ask about it. Fucking lunatic.

I spent an hour making chicken florentine tonight and he didn't even look at it, much less eat it. Just said shitty things and went to bed.

Didn't even pick up the baby once. He doesn't do shit during the night, I do it all. Hell, I do it all during the day too.

I am about fucking fed up.

 

[emme]

Sorry you're going through this you're husband seems like abit of an ass to be blunt, you sound like you do it all anyway so would be better off without him! Xx

 

[Braven05]

 

[Aberrance]

I would try to sit down and have an in-depth one-on-one with him.. Sounds like he's angry about something, and not bold enough to come out with it, so give him the opportunity. Try to share back and forth, and tell him to be sure to get EVERYTHING off his chest (and you too!). Both give yourselves the opportunity to speak your minds, uninterrupted, and try to work together to make those issues better.
Have you another place to go stay for a couple days? In case he doesn't respond well, that is.

 

[Kittifer]

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[Tiffa130]

Could he be going through a depression? I've heard sometimes dad's can become depressed after a baby is born. If not than maybe he's just an ass. Lol. Hope things get better

 

[keeks1987]

Hugs x

 

[Ozzieshunni]

To be completely honest, men don't know how to cope with the change in lifestyle. It took me threatening to take Alex and leave for DH to stop moaning at night and be a little nicer to me.

 

[tuesday]

What an ass! I think you need to show him this thread. you have gone straight to the point without bitching/nagging or what ever else men call it now'a days

If he still chooses to ignore you and continue being an ass then you should give him a little fright and stay with parents/friends for a few days. You need a break any way, health problems are not helped by stress plus why should you go to the office? You've just had a baby, I have taken a year out!

 

[georgebaby1]

Speak to him hun n go from there. his behaviour sucks though my oh can be an ass too

 

[HungryHippo]

Just focus on you and LO right now...he'll realize soon enough that he's not being fair to you or LO. And if he doesn't - starve him.

 

[Shandra]

that really sucks hun sometimes we just need to ignore them and give them the finger i find that that is the only thing that really works for me

 

[LauraLu]

I feel for you. My husband acted like a child after the birth of our first baby. He'd leave everything up to me, and I harbored a lot of unneeded resentment toward him. What a waste of my time and mental health!!!

Here's my advice from someone who's been there and you're probably not going to like it. Sit down with him when you know the baby will sleep. No TV, so phones, etc. Hold his hand (yeah, that's the part that SUCKS), and tell him everything that has been bothering you. DON'T place blame, NO name-calling, and just cite specific examples of what hurts you and why. Then make sure you give him his turn too.

It really sounds like something's upsetting/angering him...People say having a baby changes everything, but no one really "gets it" until they're actually in that situation.

Best of luck to you, and chin up! Be brave, be strong, and be loving.

 

[nullaby]

^^wss!!!!!! We went through something similar..it took me leaving with out daughter and a whole year to figure out what he really wanted in life. Sitting down and trying to have an honest conversation about your feelings AND his will help clear the air. Good luck Hun, hope things will become easier for you.

 

[fedupwaiting]

Is there a day you could leave baby with him and go do something for yourself? I'm thinking If oh had a whole day with baby and felt how stressful it could be he might have more appreciation for what you are managing to do?
(might try this on my oh lol)

hope it ges better xx