Well, I've been on both sides of the spectrum.
My first child was 19 months ttc with 4 IUIs.
My second child was from 1 single event without bcp.
I was. . . um. . . shocked, surprised, terrified, and very VERY confused. I didn't feel ready for another baby. I was still breastfeeding. I honestly thought that after my infertility experience, I couldn't get pregnant on my own.
Now, I'm ttc again, my 11th cycle just failed.
Oddly, I too feel jealous of women that only ttc for 1 cycle, even though that was me at one point. How can you be jealous of your own past experience? Yep, I'm confused, lol.
I can tell you from personal experience that you don't feel differently about your children just because one took longer to get.
Even though I was surprised and not planning the pregnancy, I sobbed when he was born and loved him instantly. In fact, I rarely put him down. I wore him in a sling. I breastfeed him until he was 22 months. I cried when he started kindergarten.
With all of that said. . . you've been trying for 2 years and you are entitled to feel upset. It's not fair. Even though I have 3 kids (which I realize is probably upsetting you), I think it's not fair when child molesters, drug addicts, and those that are irresponsible have children. I went to Walmart yesterday and it was like the teen mom olympics! Honestly, every 15 year old in the store had a baby on her hip.
Anyway, that's my rant.
I hope you get your bfp soon. You first, then me!