LetItBeABaby
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As of today, it has been 6 1/2 months since John and I first started trying to conceive. Who would have thought making a baby would be this hard? It's simply two ingredients mixed together, right? Yes, but timing is everything. Over these past months I have learned so much about what ecstatic, hurt, and disappointment really mean. On July 7, 2013 I thought God was finally on my side: I got my first positive pregnancy test. John and I were so excited that after only a month of trying, we had succeeded. We were going to have our bundle of joy in just 9 months. Our joy was short lived. I took three more tests: one shortly after the first, another that night, and one more the following day. Negative, all of them. I had had a chemical pregnancy. It didn't stick and my period proved it. My heart broke. I'd never let anyone see that, though. I pretended to shrug it off like it was no big deal. It was. It crushed me to the core. So much that I still think about it today. It's a fear I have. Will my next positive be for real? Will I ever get another positive? Does God think we don't deserve a child? So many questions unanswered. No one knows how hard this is on me. I have no one I can openly talk to about it that will actually listen and tell me something other than 'it'll happen when it happens.' It's so easy for everyone to say because they didn't have to try. It came easyfor them. Now I sit here, with no child to bear as my own, while the stork visits everyone else. It hurts to see other people around me have something that I would die for, and all they do is complain or abandon their precious gift. People who don't want a child yet or who don't deserve one are being handed them without them so much as trying. Yet, here I stand, having to be one of those brave, enduring women who has to track cycle to cycle and pray to God everyday that they are fertile, at least enough to bear one bundle of joy. Every time I take a test, it's like playing Russian roulette. Will I win this round, or will I get the bullet? People don't understand how hard it is for some women. Two and a half years my fiancé and I have been together. Never have we used a condom, just the pull out method. Nothing. No 9 month surprises. Now, 6 and a half months of no condoms and no pulling out. Still nothing. No surprises. Until you've gone through the roller coaster of emotions as I and so many other women have, don't tell me 'it'll happen when it happens.' That doesn't help. That doesn't confirm for me that it ever will happen. It's an empty boost of confidence. Just listen and bare with me. Be there when I need an ear or a shoulder, because I will get my positive. I will get my baby. I'll do whatever it takes. I deserve a baby. WE deserve a baby.