I think I might crack up!!

[NG09]

This is gonna be a rant so be warned......

Today LO and I have had a great day whilst DH has been at work. I got up at 6 am (after being up a few times through the night) as the HV was coming early so I wanted to make sure I was showered etc. Anyway, baby had been great......until DH came home from work.

He had been taking his bottle every 3.5 hours, having a little cuddle in with me then sleeping or smiling away at me, no crying, sickness, being fussy etc. So when my husband came in I had to nip out for an hour to the shops. when I got back DH had fed LO coz he was getting a bit restless! So in a nutshell instead of getting off his arse and taking him a walk or going out the back or even just wondering around the house he shoved a bottle in his mouth, even though I told him not to, to shut him up. He was then sick as he wasn't hungry, now his feeds are all out and he is currently screaming the place down. I'm so frickin cross!!!!!! Plus it was our anniversary yesterday so we are supposed to be going aay for the night tomorrow...... at this precise moment in time I don't even want to talk to him let alone spend 'quality time' together. Ggggggggrrrrrrrrr!!!!!!!!!

I have ha a glass of wine to chill out coz I don't want to have a row with him, especialy infront of bubs. Thank god for bnb is all I can say.

Why are men so damn stupid at times??????????????????????????????

 

[RainbowDrop_x]

Didn't want to read & run.

Men can be so careless at times.. They'd certainly appreciate the routine more if they had to do it all day every day!!!

 

[mrsthomas623]

Ugh! How frustrating! My DH does the same to me all the time!!

 

[Odd Socks]

i had to take a step back & let my oh make his own decisions regarding bella. when he was holding her & saying, "i think she's hungry", i'd tell him she wasn't. & after a few days, i realised i was rubbishing everything he was suggesting & probably making him really doubt his abilities as a father. now, if he thinks she's hungry & asks me to get a bottle, i do. if she wants it, she'll take it. if she doesn't, she won't. i figure now, it's no big deal if a bottle goes to waste.

it's hard, because yes, being with bella all day, every day, i do know her ways better than he does. but he's never going to get to know her if he isn't able to find these things out his own way. he's not doing anything to harm bella, he's being a dad, & doing the best he can.

i've confused her signals in the past few weeks, & sometimes i think you have to experience things first hand.

don't be too hard on him, he is trying his best

*hugs*
xx

 

[NG09]

i had to take a step back & let my oh make his own decisions regarding bella. when he was holding her & saying, "i think she's hungry", i'd tell him she wasn't. & after a few days, i realised i was rubbishing everything he was suggesting & probably making him really doubt his abilities as a father. now, if he thinks she's hungry & asks me to get a bottle, i do. if she wants it, she'll take it. if she doesn't, she won't. i figure now, it's no big deal if a bottle goes to waste.

it's hard, because yes, being with bella all day, every day, i do know her ways better than he does. but he's never going to get to know her if he isn't able to find these things out his own way. he's not doing anything to harm bella, he's being a dad, & doing the best he can.

i've confused her signals in the past few weeks, & sometimes i think you have to experience things first hand.

don't be too hard on him, he is trying his best

*hugs*
xx

Thanks, what you say is true but really difficult when it's me that has to sort it out

 

[_Vicky_]

oohh I so know where you are coming from - BUT I agree with the above - pick you battles - its soo tough on dads as they miss everything if you are with them all day and the early days are over soo quick its worth it (and yes I came home once to 4 half filled bottles as 'the boys were hungry' every half hour when I was out for a few hours - men!!

 

[MrsGlitz]

i had to take a step back & let my oh make his own decisions regarding bella. when he was holding her & saying, "i think she's hungry", i'd tell him she wasn't. & after a few days, i realised i was rubbishing everything he was suggesting & probably making him really doubt his abilities as a father. now, if he thinks she's hungry & asks me to get a bottle, i do. if she wants it, she'll take it. if she doesn't, she won't. i figure now, it's no big deal if a bottle goes to waste.

it's hard, because yes, being with bella all day, every day, i do know her ways better than he does. but he's never going to get to know her if he isn't able to find these things out his own way. he's not doing anything to harm bella, he's being a dad, & doing the best he can.

i've confused her signals in the past few weeks, & sometimes i think you have to experience things first hand.

don't be too hard on him, he is trying his best

*hugs*
xx

Agreed with this.

It is hard but I found me having a go at DH, or dictating to him Harry's needs did nothing for his confidence or for that matter the two of them bonding. Now on his days off I try and take a step back. Sometimes he gets it wrong but then so do I. Like I would try and tell DH Harry was tired and he would respond "No he's not he's wide awake"; 5 minutes later we'd be trying to settle an overtired, screaming baby!

 

[Sazzoire]

I find that I am a little bit of a control freak where Lucy is concerned. I really have to rein myself in at times when hubby is with her. Hubby always waits for me to tell him what to do with baby instead of just getting on with it, I'm no expert either, but then I had to tell myself that I am here all day with Lucy and have learn't to read her signals, hubby hasn't. I just try and make suggestions when asked and I really try not to jump in...(although this can be hard)

xx