I think im done for the time being :-(

[dlj2]

Hi All

I think im done with TTC for the time being, Its been a very long and difficult process and after an early MC last month I just feel i'm done. I cant take the dissapointment and upset anymore

Its been 4 years and seeing a FS for 9 months only to keep being told come back in three months each time. I am reluctant to do IVF/ICSI as it would be using my parents money and that comes with massive pressure and guilt if it fails.

A colleague has just gone off sick with migraines in her second pregnancy and I just feel like packing it all in to stay tucked up in my house for a few months where no one can disturb me.

My husband is supportive and says do whatever you need to-the only problem is I dont really know whats for the best.

Sorry for the rant just needed to get all that out, thanks for listening.x

 

[Rin731]

I'm sorry it's been so hard for you.

I've gone a year with just 4 cycles. (11/05/10, 01/31/11, 06/10/11, and 09/06/11.) We tried NTNP 11 months, then soy this cycle, with no luck yet...DH doesn't want to TTC any more than soy atm so I might be done for a while also.


Can I ask, when you take a break from TTC, do you NTNP or do you start using birth control again? I'm not sure what to do.

 

[Armywife84]

Sorry to hear about your loss.

It's not admitting defeat if you take a break, there's nothing wrong with stepping back and taking a breather from this struggle. Whether it's for a few months or years, it does really help.

When you take a break you're NTNP. There's no scheduled sex around your fertile, it's just whenever. You're taking a break from temping, charting, counting, and OPks.

 

[Sophe]

I totally understand, i had someone at work tell not to worry i did not get a payrise this time around I will gone soon on maternity leave.. I was so so angry I called into work sick and almost handed in my notice, its just so frustrating, management are there over looking me becuase I am married woman of child bearing age and on the other hand I just can't seem to get pregnant... I curled up in my house for a few days. I have to come back out tomorrow and go back to work, but I really didn't feel like it earlier just some how dragged myself back up off the floor again. AF got me a few days ago maybe thats part of the reason for my huge depression over the last few days.

The worst part is all the waiting, I hate it too, you just wait and wait and theres such long gaps between appointments... my FS says to me, see you in 3 months... thats if your not pregnant by then.... I want to strangle her....

wish we all had the money to go privately and not have to wait and wait

 

[JustKia]

to you all.
I understand taking a break (for months or even a couple years) but never give up hope.
I do know how hard it is - I've been seeing bfn's since we lost Oliver in 2004.
Hubby's always been more along the lines of NTNP even though I've charted my cycles during that time (I haven't OPK'ed or temped until now though) and tried to BD at least once during my more fertile times.

 

[dlj2]

Thanks everyone

It's really encouraging to hear of others who've made the decision and come out the other side.

Sophe I totally get the work thing drives you crazy doesn't it, I pulled a sicky for one day this week but felt I had to go back today as no one to cover.

I think the ntnp is poss the way to go for a couple months to get my head back into gear.xxx

 

[WinterSong4]

Sorry you are going through this. It really is hard. DH and I have been trying for almost 4 years as well with no success.

Just a month ago, DH and I decided we were going to try anymore and just have fun with sex instead of making it so stressful and scheduled. We haven't talked about it or thought much about it since. I haven't even bothered checking when I ovulated (other than the calendar and that isn't always accurate). I haven't symptom spotted or had the urge to take one PregTest! All I have done is just made myself busy with house work and friends.

Sex between DH and I has been nothing just relaxed and fun. So, it is perfectly fine to just take a break and relax! It is probably for the best anyways. The more you think about it the more stressed it makes you. Stress is not good for conceiving! Best of luck to you!