"I think it's really mean to only have one child."

[Serene123]

Thanks mum

 

[lily28]

Gosh that's cruel... Tell your mom I only want one, and plenty of ppl are like that, are we all mean???

Don't listen to her, moms are notorious for their brain farts.

 

[Serene123]

Sorry, she doesn't mean it, she just keeps saying things to try and make me have another. It has nothing to do with having only one child, she just wants me to have another. Does that make sense?

 

[danapeter36]

yeah it does. such a mum thing to blurt out though lol xxx

 

[lily28]

Sorry, she doesn't mean it, she just keeps saying things to try and make me have another. It has nothing to do with having only one child, she just wants me to have another. Does that make sense?

I know you are trying for a second, and it does make sense, your mom is passive aggressive. She thinks if she makes you feel guilty enough you'll get on with a second one. However she forgets it's none of her bussiness.
Plus such statement is pretty inaccurate, because most ppl only want 1, and none of them are mean ppl. c my point?

Best of luck dealing with your mom.

 

[Serene123]

She spent all day yesterday telling me how lonely Caitlyn is going to be if I don't have another one soon. Temptation to throttle her almost got too much

 

[Serene123]

Sorry, she doesn't mean it, she just keeps saying things to try and make me have another. It has nothing to do with having only one child, she just wants me to have another. Does that make sense?

I know you are trying for a second, and it does make sense, your mom is passive aggressive. She thinks if she makes you feel guilty enough you'll get on with a second one. However she forgets it's none of her bussiness.
Plus such statement is pretty inaccurate, because most ppl only want 1, and none of them are mean ppl. c my point?

Best of luck dealing with your mom.

Everyone in both of our families have the same view. If we don't have another one in the next couple of months our daughter is doooooooooooomed. Pretty fed up of hearing about it tbh!

 

[lily28]

That's non sense really, I have 9 years difference with my sister, and I was never lonely. I love her to bits of course and helped my parents a lot when she came home. I was babysitting all the time, but I never felt something was missing before she came along.

Does you family know that pressuring you is getting you no where? They are overreacting really... And imho it's none of their business, it's a decision you and your OH will take.

 

[ellieb31]

I presume she doesn't know you're trying? Why not just tell her?

 

[Serene123]

Don't want to tell people

 

[clownfish]

so she doesnt know about the MC's?

Wow.. thats strong of you.


I get angry with people for gloating about being pregnant or asking me if i want kids soon...

but as they dont know about our MC or even that we are trying its hard to expect them to know any better.

My OH is an only child and he loved his childhood.

 

[PocoHR]

Aww that isn't nice! Here's to hoping you a lovely sticky bfp next month so she can't say anything much longer.

Also: I had two younger siblings, one three years younger, the other six years younger. While I love them both, there was much less tension growing up with my littlest brother, and we are closer now, so the age gap doesn't mean much! It all comes down to personality.

 

[Serene123]

She knows about my miscarriages but she doesn't know we're trying x

 

[emily&kai]

I get excatly the same, our son is going to be 5 end of the year, and i have comments like this comment from 'friends and family'

'if you dont give him a brother or sister soon, he will be one of them kids who cant socialise'

 

[Sumaspikey]

That's so ridiculous, it's mainly the parenting, not the amount of kids in the house, that determines how well a child turns out.

I told a friend of mine we only wanted one kiddy and she replied that she was an only child and was very lonely when she was little so we should have at least 2! I just told her I thought it was socially irresponsible to have more than one child as many of our world's problems stem from over-population. She didn't have much to say to that!

 

[tigs]

I'm in the same boat - i have my Mother nagging my oH (she knows saying anything to me will make me go the other way) but MIL, who knows me less well - has been nagging me...

Its bad enough we are trying - without ppl making nasty comments too

Hope you feel better that your not alone?!

 

[madcatwoman]

thats awful to say that, guilt trips dont work with me!.

I may as well have been an only child. My sister was alot older than me, we werent close, so i didnt have anyone my own age to play with, and when i got a little older she went to london to college, then i really was on my own!. I was fine though, i pleased my self, i was always making things, drawing things etc, or id be out on my bike with a friend in the street. I think only children can have a nice life actually, maybe a spoilt one too!

 

[snl41296]

omg please I hear this ALL THE TIME. b/c no one knows we are TTC #2 its so friggin rude i sware. or the when u having more she is 3 yrs old you dont want them so far apart and blah blah blah i hate it
I HATE RUDE PEOPLE!

 

[Crazy4Emily]

Wow....your mom is soooo passive agressive!! I would tell her to mind her own business. I don't know why Mom's think they don't have to be polite to their own children. Would she say that to a friend?? (my mom is the same way, RUDE and a passive agressive master)