I want a baby..

[cheeta26]

My fiance and I are both wanting a baby. He doesn't want one quite yet though. So I'm going to wait a bit and try to surprise him with a pregnancy. I'm not trying to be selfish or anything and I don't want to hear that it's a bad idea. I'm just wondering how I could make it possible for it to happen without him knowing, so it will be a surprise. I'm on Loestrin 24 FE and we don't we condoms. I'm trying to figure out the easiest way to conceive without ruining the surprise. And I don't want to stop taking my birth control because it helps me with my pains, pms, and to help prevent me reduce the chance of getting cysts again. Does anyone have a suggestion?

 

[cheeta26]

* we don't use condoms. Sorry about the mistype

 

[RosesOfTin]

ok well...

1.) Surprising your OH with a pregnancy they're not ready for may not be the best of ideas. There's probably reasons they want to wait: finances, living arrangements, job security, insurance etc.
2.) Being on BC makes this a lot more difficult. Getting pregnant while on BC can cause miscarriage and birth defects. You really need to contact your doctor and discuss this choice with them.

My advice? Discuss this with your OH and your Dr and go from there as to when would be the best time for your to work on conceiving a child.

 

[Medzi]

Birth control is a contraceptive so I am not sure how you would get pregnant while still taking it?

 

[gaiagirl]

I know you said you didn't want to hear that this was a bad idea...but I can't in good conscience read that and NOT say I think this is a bad idea...

'Suprising' someone you are about the marry with a baby is not the only issue...also getting pregnant while taking synthetic hormones is not a great plan either!

I hope you can figure out a way to get your fiance on board and to get pregnant in the healthiest way possible

Good luck!

 

[LollyZ]

Well, even though you could do it and get him to be excited and live happily ever after.. Have you stopped to picture what happens if things go wrong? What if your fiancee is not happy or finds out that you lied or god forbid you get problems with the pregnancy/lo? You might not be able to live with yourself or with him anymore.
I think if being a mom right now is so important to you then you should talk with him and explain that.
But really you should weigh the consequences of what you decide to do. Good luck!

 

[iow_bird]

Having a baby is a lifelong commitment. I'd be pretty annoyed at my OH if he bought a puppy home without discussing it with me first! Let alone suprising me with a baby.

I know how hard it is when you want a baby really badly, but maybe you need to sit down with your OH and discuss a timeframe for coming off contraception. Having a baby is an exciting journey you should share together. Don't take that away from him.

Enjoy planning your future together x x

PS. you will definately need to come off your birth control if you want to get pregnant, there's no way round that unfortunately

 

[bornthiswayxo]

I think springing it up on your fiance might be a tad off, trust me i know, it happened.. Good luck with the future xx

 

[Kerjack]

As much as I want a baby, I could never "surprise" my OH with one. It's a verrrryy bad idea. Plus getting pregnant while on birth control is almost impossible and not good for the baby. I suggest talking to your Fiances about this a little more.

 

[bananaboat]

You mentioned that your fiance is not quite ready for a baby. Please don't make that decision for him. I know that's not what you want to hear, but do you really want to start your future with a lack of honesty?

 

[aliss]

If my OH wrote a thread like this, I would break up with him, I really would.

 

[Dimples81]

having a baby really needs to be a joint decision, if he has said he is not ready then you need to respect that. Perhaps it might be a good idea to sit down and discuss together whether coming off birth control is an option for you and you could go down the NTNP route and let nature/ fate decide. That way when will still be a suprise. It really isn't a good idea to try and get pregnant while using birth control, it happens some times but there are risks involved and there are steps that you ideally need to take pre-conception to give your baby the best chance in life.

 

[LoveCakes]

You said you didn't wan't people telling you off. You also asked for advice, so mine is don't. The reason is in the first line of your post.