I want to finish work now

[Mrs_Grissom]

I'm a teacher and had the summer hols to get used to being pregnant and enjoying time at home and was disappointed when September came and I had to go back to work (but mostly in a lazy way!) Now I'm back at work I'm not enjoying it at all, I'm working in a new year group with a new team and I don't think they like me and I hate it stupid little things like telling me one thing and expecting me to know they mean another, not passing on my telephone messages, copying enough resources and letters for themselves but not including me so I have a last minute panic and have to try and sort myself out. It might be in my head but I really feel like they're setting me up for a fall and I think they're doing it on purpose. I know it's all stupid little things and to be honest I did snap back on Friday, I'd had enough but it's really getting me down. I miss my team from last year, we were really close and there's no way they'd do these petty little things...it wouldn't cross their mind to photocopy for themselves but not me, nor would it mine...although it will from now on!! I feel like the only answer is to be equally petty and look out for myself but it doesn't feel right, I'm a nice person and have never had trouble working with others before but the two other teachers I'm working with have been working together for a year already and I'm the outsider but my god they're making sure I feel like one...

I'm sorry for the miserable rant, I'm just feeling really sad and sorry for myself and desperately don't want to go to work. It's keeping me up at night and waking me early in the morning how much I don't ever want to go back and I loved my job until Septeptember. I'm sat here with that Sunday feeling getting myself all sad about having to go back and face them and maybe it is just my hormones but I really feel like they're trying to be awkward on purpose, I can't wait to leave but what a sad way to spend my next few months

 

[hellypops]

i'm sorry you are feeling like this.i'm feeling the same too and could not face going into work so the doctor has signed me off.i've decided to bring my maternity leave forward too as i can't see myself being able to work until 36 weeks like i did with my last two.
I wish i had some advice but all i can offer is and i hope it gets better for you.

 

[Sealgirl]

Aw I feel for you! That is so mean! I can't wait to finish too, I work with kids with behavioural difficulties and I'm always guarding my bump. I hate walking through the corridors with mental children running and pushing everywhere.

But this from adults? That is really pathetic. Tbh I don't think you should lower yourself to their level, I think you should keep being nice to them, but not a walkover, be assertive, like "hey guys, thanks for resources, did I get any?/I didn't get enough, don't forget me."

People used to do that in my work (not to the same extent) and I would make a bit of a childish stramash about it, play the petted lip and make a big fuss, to the point that they all now say, "don't bloody forget about her for God's sake" but then give me a friendly cuddle.

Make yourself noticed!!! xxx

 

[crazylilth1ng]

I feel for you too luckily for me I've not long to go as I'm starting at 29 weeks (6 weeks time) and I have 2 weeks hol to use up before then too. I suppose u must want to leave as late as possible to have more time with baby once born. Hopefully u just have itcwrong about the new team not liking you and it's preg hormones or whatever!!!

 

[SabrinaKat]

I'm counting the weeks down myself -- my immediate boss is a real jerk and I can't stand him; I work in further education and the students are great, but he's completely unsupportive, e.g. telling me to take holidays for antenatal appointments, telling me that I can't use the toilet during class, etc., (don't worry, I went to the head of the school and all resolved in that way), but now, he's (yes, HE's) decided my maternity leave will begin wk 36 because it's too inconvenient for him to leave at Christmas (when I'll be 30 wks) -- guess when I'M starting my maternity leave? yes, Christmas! but my dh thinks I should just go when I am 26 wks as am petite and baby bump already size of football (oh, that would be heaven!)....

sigh. (and I'm NOT going back to work after baby is born as my salary is about the same as for a creche and to be honest, love the kids, but not the management!)

best wishes.

 

[shellshocked]

I feel the same (teacher and new year group)plus never felt so tired and I also lie in bed having anxiety over work for no reason. I have appointment with MW on Thurs afternoon and work want me to go back in for year 6 open evening..... are they kidding its a 40 min drive each way.... oh and to top it off I have a grim cold. I know how you feel.

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[Mrs_Grissom]

Thanks ladies, I knew I could rely on you to cheer me up. I've got an observation tomorrow morning too by someone from senior management AND some ofsted criteria using woman - I don't think she is ofsted but they're trying to use the same scare tactics to see if we're any good. My heart is totally not in it at all and for this I feel guilty for the kids but I am literally counting down the days until I can leave and trying to decide if I can afford to leave any earlier...I'm due March 5th and counting back to 11 weeks before I could, if I really wanted, leave at Christmas lol, I probably couldn't afford it but it'd be lovely to think I was going that soon

 

[kristen77]

Ah no. That's rubbish, how utterly pathetic. I agree about being overly nice to them, could you not say something like "have you got my copies?" and if they say no just be surprised & ask if they wouldn't mind doing for you next time & you will for them?

I'm a teacher too & also hating work. I don't have a room & have to be moving between rooms every single lesson between one of three depts & an off-site location which is a mile away. I am forever running about & every lessons starts late. I've been getting headaches & migraines with the stress of it all & my lovely consultant just signed me off. Going back in two weeks for a review.

Try to remember (i keep saying this to myself) that our twenty week scans are close, then oct halfterm, then the lovely buildup to christmas, Christmas holidays then we'll be so big & pregnant that we won't care about work & then we'll be finished & off for months! Yeah!!

Xx

 

[Mrs_Grissom]

Ah no. That's rubbish, how utterly pathetic. I agree about being overly nice to them, could you not say something like "have you got my copies?" and if they say no just be surprised & ask if they wouldn't mind doing for you next time & you will for them?

I'm a teacher too & also hating work. I don't have a room & have to be moving between every single lesson between one of three depts & an off-site location which is a mile away. I am forever running about & every lessons starts late. I've been getting headaches & migraines with the stress of it all & my lovely consultant just signed me off. Going back in two weeks for a review.

Try to remember (i keep saying this to myself) that our twenty week scans are close, then oct halfterm, then the lovely buildup to christmas, Christmas holidays then we'll be so big & pregnant that we won't care about work & then we'll be finished & off for months! Yeah!!

Xx

Ooh you're a teacher and the same amount of pregnant as me...are you leaving at Feb half term?

I had three days off with migraines last week and I've literally been taking paracetamol every day since Monday. I never thought about going to the dr they're probably because I'm stressing myself out too!

 

[kristen77]

Ive always had migraines & was on beta blockers to prevent them but had to stop taking them when I got pg. Was under a consultant for something else but she's been amazing. Your MW might be able to refer you to someone if you get them often - mine told me gp's aren't great with this & will just say there's nothing they can do...

Yup, leaving at Feb half term...will be 36+2 (don't work Fridays!), so only 20 weeks to go with 3 weeks of holiday...!

X

 

[Mrs_Grissom]

Ive always had migraines & was on beta blockers to prevent them but had to stop taking them when I got pg. Was under a consultant for something else but she's been amazing. Your MW might be able to refer you to someone if you get them often - mine told me gp's aren't great with this & will just say there's nothing they can do...

Yup, leaving at Feb half term...will be 36+2 (don't work Fridays!), so only 20 weeks to go with 3 weeks of holiday...!

X

I've got 86 working days left lol...not that I'm counting!!

I'm going to have to man up and just not let them get me down. Actually I'm going to see a specialist on Tuesday for my epilepsy . It's my first appt apparantly they'll be seeing me extra during the pregnancy to keep a special eye on me so I might mention it to them actually, I know it's not quite the same, but it's all heads not working so they might be able to help.

 

[kristen77]

Lol @ all heads not working!

Seriously though I would definitely mention it to them because surely migraines could be a trigger or something? I think you need some time off work to rest...

 

[Mrs_Grissom]

Lol @ all heads not working!

Seriously though I would definitely mention it to them because surely migraines could be a trigger or something? I think you need some time off work to rest...

I totally agree

 

[rj84]

i think being a teacher is so stressful - i too have a new year group this year and enjoyed my summer hol so much. i have the worst boss for this time too - childless woman who is exceptionally career driven - just doesn't seem to get that i should be taking things easy a bit - im feeling so stressed out - ive been so lucky so far not had to take any time off -but if the stress continues - i don't think it'll be long!!! garrggh!!

 

[Clareybeary]

I completely feel for you Mrs Grissom. To be honest, I knew that I was going to get pregnant so I made the tough decision to leave class teaching and switch to supply this year. It means only Maternity Allowance but a lot less stress (and planning, asserssment, paperwork, observations, meetings, parents evenings, the list goes on!!!!). I am loving my job at the moment - 1:1 tutor 4 days a week and reception class teacher (supply) one day a week. I feel very lucky but I also know what it's like to hate your job, work with a - holes and feel stressed!

 

[SabrinaKat]

I've been getting terrible migranes, too! (it's because we're teachers and we have to use our brains so much)? My ob/gyn was all ready to sign me off BUT I can't afford it as my job is in further education and we don't get paid if we take sick leave (government would kick in after third day)...We've been doing the maths and given my travel times, cost of transport and incidentials (coffee, proper lunches 3xwk as am now trying not to skip meals) after taxes -- my maternity benefit would only be about 100-150 euros less a month!

MrsGrissom (so is your first name Sara in real life? I love CSI....), why not keep a log of their behaviour just in case, plus you can show it to your oh or union rep if problems continue, therefore, you have proof it's not all 'in your head'?

as for the migranes, my ob/gyn said I could occasionally take solpadeine, for instance, have taken twice and a half last week, trying to rest as much as possible (even called in sick on Tuesday, no pay but bless to sleep) and forcing myself to eat every few hours....obviously, check with your gp/midwife, etc., but now, headaches down to a dull roar and was even ok three days this week.

best wishes

 

[Weebear]

Me too, I have 58 days to go.
Im also a teacher, in 2 diff schools, which is difficult! And each brings their own sets of problems.
Also one of the HTs arranged for me to work Fridays too (was Mon-Thu) and didnt even ask me! think he thought he was doing me a favour, money will be good but Im exhausted I do school work every evening and on a Sunday, too tired for this
Im on supply so will only get MA, not SMP so trying to save as much as poss and cant really afford extra time off.
Im thinking its nearly the Oct week, then the countdown to Christmas, plus a lot of Dec will be taken up with Christmas shows, pantos etc, so might be a bit easier x

 

[SabrinaKat]

poor weebear, can you try and un-schedule Fridays? I have two long days at the moment and it's wrecking me; I at least have half-days Wednesdays, Thursdays and Fridays and am supposed to be some academic work for myself, but I end up taking long naps in the afternoon (but it means dh makes dinner when he comes in...)

best wishes

 

[Weebear]

Thanks SabrinaKat!
Ha, naps are always better than studying
I dont think I can, but if nearer Christmas Im feeling too shattered I will finish up early. It's so annoying constantly thinking about work, and feeling guilty at weekends if I have work to do and havent done it yet, it hangs over my whole weekend