Hi everyone, so I'm a month away from my due date and yesterday my ILs basically told my husband they are getting divorced after 30+ years of marriage. This announcement came as a complete shock to my husband and his siblings, since there were no outward signs of any strain in the marriage. Apparently my MIL is the one who initiated the whole thing and my FIL is reluctantly agreeing to the divorce though he really wants to try to work it out.
My husband is reeling from the news and we are so disappointed and upset at both his parents during a time that should be happy and exciting. I know that divorce at any stage in life is never good timing, but really?!!? right before the birth of their first grandchild??! I feel so angry that my husband and I not only have to deal with the newness of having a baby and becoming parents, but also that my ILs are putting him through the strain and stress of a divorce. I feel like they are being super selfish (especially my MIL, since she seems totally closed off to the idea of even trying to reconcile with my FIL).
Ugh, this month should be such a happy time as we wait for baby, but all my husband and I can think of is stuff like splitting up holidays between my ILs and if they'll get along once the baby is here, etc. At the same time, my MIL is freaking me out because she'll send me texts that say, "I am SO anxious to meet MY baby" and "I can't wait to hold MY grandchild" and other things to that effect. It's like she thinks the divorce + first grandkid = sunshine and happiness forever. All I can think is that they're breaking up a family
Has anyone else had to deal with this?
My husband is reeling from the news and we are so disappointed and upset at both his parents during a time that should be happy and exciting. I know that divorce at any stage in life is never good timing, but really?!!? right before the birth of their first grandchild??! I feel so angry that my husband and I not only have to deal with the newness of having a baby and becoming parents, but also that my ILs are putting him through the strain and stress of a divorce. I feel like they are being super selfish (especially my MIL, since she seems totally closed off to the idea of even trying to reconcile with my FIL).
Ugh, this month should be such a happy time as we wait for baby, but all my husband and I can think of is stuff like splitting up holidays between my ILs and if they'll get along once the baby is here, etc. At the same time, my MIL is freaking me out because she'll send me texts that say, "I am SO anxious to meet MY baby" and "I can't wait to hold MY grandchild" and other things to that effect. It's like she thinks the divorce + first grandkid = sunshine and happiness forever. All I can think is that they're breaking up a family
Has anyone else had to deal with this?