BrightTights
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This is my first proper post (not including introducing myself!) and therefore my very first grumble!
Me and my OH have been together for 11years. He is now 33 and I'm 30 in a few days time. Seven months ago, after a couple of years of on-and-off discussion about babies, we decided it was now or never so we should go for it! Our friends and family have all been popping them out left right and centre for years and have been giving us terrible earache about it being 'us next' etc, etc.
My AF got back to normal (28 day cycle) within 5 weeks of being off BCP, which in itself was quite exciting! Sadly, that is all the excitement we've had, and it's definately not for want of trying!
ATM, I am sick of people going on at me about having children because the very mention of it is making me really sad. Every time somebody tells me, full of excitement, that they're PG it makes me sad for me (happy for them though!) and I wonder why it's not happening to me. People assume I don't want children because I don't dicuss things like this with them. I even had someone ask me recently 'when' to which I replied that I didn't know and it might not even happen, which led them to say 'no, I can't see you with kids anyway'. *Very very sad face*!
We've not told anyone we're TTC, 1. because we're very private about such things, 2. because my family are too excited about my sister off-spring, present and future (which my Mum seems to think sis only had for her benefit and no others could match up!) 3. the OH's family think it highly unacceptable to have children out of wedlock, and 4. I don't want people to feel guilty and think they can't get excited about PG's and talk about theirs to me just in case they upset me.
I'm sure I'm not the only one that feels this way..........how did everyone else deal with this situation?
Sorry to go on..........
x
Me and my OH have been together for 11years. He is now 33 and I'm 30 in a few days time. Seven months ago, after a couple of years of on-and-off discussion about babies, we decided it was now or never so we should go for it! Our friends and family have all been popping them out left right and centre for years and have been giving us terrible earache about it being 'us next' etc, etc.
My AF got back to normal (28 day cycle) within 5 weeks of being off BCP, which in itself was quite exciting! Sadly, that is all the excitement we've had, and it's definately not for want of trying!
ATM, I am sick of people going on at me about having children because the very mention of it is making me really sad. Every time somebody tells me, full of excitement, that they're PG it makes me sad for me (happy for them though!) and I wonder why it's not happening to me. People assume I don't want children because I don't dicuss things like this with them. I even had someone ask me recently 'when' to which I replied that I didn't know and it might not even happen, which led them to say 'no, I can't see you with kids anyway'. *Very very sad face*!
We've not told anyone we're TTC, 1. because we're very private about such things, 2. because my family are too excited about my sister off-spring, present and future (which my Mum seems to think sis only had for her benefit and no others could match up!) 3. the OH's family think it highly unacceptable to have children out of wedlock, and 4. I don't want people to feel guilty and think they can't get excited about PG's and talk about theirs to me just in case they upset me.
I'm sure I'm not the only one that feels this way..........how did everyone else deal with this situation?
Sorry to go on..........
x
thats totally not out the ordinary neither i also asume maybe you dont want to tell your family and friends your TTC because also your frightend both you might jinks it aswell am i right 
touch wood ..... 
im in kinda the same boat me and my OH we havent told anybody really thats close to us or any family neither we are trying to be secertive about it all and also finding it abit of a struggle to time my ovulation times arround our daughter whos nearly 8yrs old my OH gets so frustrated sometimes because of him desbrately wanting another child i felt hopeless the fact we.ve been trying to conceive now on and off for past few years and nothing,, we,ve had breaks of TTC then starting again it wasnt happening naterually neither for 2yrs b4 i fell preggy with my daughter untill i went on folic acid for 2 months but i thought it would happen easy the second time round on folic acid but i was wrong it dint i tried to take folic acid a couple of yrs ago for about 4 months it dint happen and i was so mad with my body asking myself what the hell is it doing this time and it clearly aint happening then a few yrs later we descided to try again for about 6 months on folic acid it clearly just dint happen for us again this time round we descided to start again but i had no idea my ovulation could be prehaps late and i was probs timeing it all wrong but over the past few yrs iv had one or two little gyno problems with heavy periods pain when im not bleeding history of pelvic inflam disease that was not treated and left for 5 weeks untill i tried to get rid and now i find it alot harder to TTC but what i learnt over the years of TTC is maybe i just went roughy on interent ovulation dates and failed this time im taken a diffrent aproach and descided to try opks and also new to BBT and i am amazed already how so little time iv learnt about BBT and calculate late ovulation prehaps i guess its all about timing those exact days and pin pointing ya best chances of TTC never give up hope hun i will keep my fingers croxxedfor you lots of 
your not alone 
