I'm new and I need help please

[amylouise18]

Hi, I am 18, been with my boyfriend for 3 years. We have never had protected sex but ive never fell pregnant ... why ?

We both would love a baby, what are we doing wrong?

Thanks
Amy

 

[Lucy139]

It takes some people 1 cycle to fall pregnant and it takes others years,if your really worried see your doctor and explain your concerns. im not sure there is much the doctor will suggest because your 18 but maybe worth a visit, sorry not much advice xx

 

[amylouise18]

Hiyya thankyou for replying
I dont think i am overly worried about not being infertile or anything,
I just would like to know if there is anything i can do to boost fertility?

Thankyou
Amy xxx

 

[tryn4]

I am not judging you but that is young to want a baby. I got pregnant at 19, and I love my son, but you never know how things work out in the future with your boyfriend. I know that is probably not what you want to hear but I am a mom of teenagers so its just something I would advise you to wait a little. More so for yourself although I am sure you would make a great mom. Take care

 

[amylouise18]

Hello, i appreciate your honesty and i am thankful for your comment.
I can see where you are coming from with my age but we both know we are solid together we are like glue.
We have both felt for a while now we are ready and we are in a position to have a baby.
I just feel like everyone is ready in there own time scale and everyone is different, i know it is a age people think its young, but if you think my mams mam and in that era people had babies at my age and that was totally acceptable, but now it is frowned upon and to be honest that shouldn't be the case.
I think if you are in a suitable position to have a baby and you are both financially and mentally stable to have a baby i don't think you should have to wait till everyone says right yeah its okay for you to be now.

Thankyou
Amy

 

[rainbows_x]

Hiya, I'm 22 but was pregnant with my lil girl when I was 22. I would suggest going to the doctor as they may be able to refer you to see if there is any underlying issues. I wish you the best of luck x

 

[amylouise18]

Hiyya, is there anything i should ask for inparticular off the doctor?
Do you know if them supplements work that are meant to prepare your body for pregnancy?
And thankyou i really appreciate the help xx

 

[rainbows_x]

No worries I know how frustrating it can be!

If you go there and explain how long you have been trying he may refer you, it's anything over a year here where they will look into it. I would recommend taking folic acid, as it prepares your body and helps baby in early pregnancy. I'm thinking of starting to take some prenatal vitamins soon to make sure I am healthy as possible x

 

[amylouise18]

Okay thankyou so much xx

 

[PDubs10612]

Agreed on the prenatals...you should be taking them for 3 months before starting to TTC...

I'm going to side step the whole age thing because I feel that is up to each individual person/couple and that is not what you wanted advice on

If you have been TTC or NTNP for 3 years I would get some medical advice and ask to have a sperm analysis done for your b/f and have an ultrasound and preliminary bloodwork done on yourself, and generally they do his as well. Most medical practices have a routine that they run everyone through before getting into more specific testing so I would let them do it the way they are used to unless you have specific concerns (ie:, past m/cs or known family medical issues)

With all that in mind it is best to go armed with as much info as possible so do your research, ask both families (especially the females) if they had issues conceiving, were they diagnosed with PCOS, gestational diabets, blood clotting disorders, recurrent m/cs....also do some research on yourself...try temping, or at a minimum charting your CM, period dates, ovulation dates (if you know), and dates of DTD in comparison to ovulation so that you have some numbers to show the doc

Sorry long post...hopefully something helpful in there...if you have any questions feel free to ask, most on here are happy to shed some light or an experience... Best of Luck to you

 

[PDubs10612]

I forgot to add...the best ways to increase fertility, or moreover increase likelihood of conception is to have sex during your fertile period (3 days before, day of, and day after suspected ovulation) If you don't know exactly when you are ovulating there are ways to narrow it down, or you can widen your "fertile period" to 7 days before to 7 days after supposed ovulation so that you don't miss it...other than that just relax, and try to eat and stay healthy and active...I don't recommend taking anything other than prenatals unless prescribed by a doctor or specialist because they are usually for specific issues, which you may or may not have, and cost extra money that could be better spent ...


Also,...just thinking about things to spend money on...general rule during BD time is no saliva and no regular lube as both are harmful to sperm, so best to invest in some PreSeed or a similar product that is baby making friendly

 

[amylouise18]

Thankyou so much!!
That was very helpful and I'm so greatful you took the time to write that for me,
I have posted about the ovulation dates to make sure I was doing it right but noone has replied as of yet
Would you be able to help me with that please?

If you can would like to know is how many days my cycle lasts for, I just get really confused of where it begins and ends and when I am actually ovulating.
I come on my period the first of every month and lasts for about 5-6 days,
I am so appreciative of any help and guidance you can give me.

Oh and also is there any more supplements you would advise me to purchase?
I'm sorry for all the questions

Oh and I know there's no problem with any of the females in either family
My boyfriends mam had 7 and the rest of his brothers and sisters have three or more and my mam has 2 and my auntie has 3 and my nana had 2.
And my dads side is about the same as my boyfriends family.

We both come from quite big families... I'll shut up now I'm babbling on sorry

And thankyou again

Thankyou
Amy xxx

 

[amylouise18]

Oh i didn't see that till after i had finished typing sorry
Thankyou xxx

 

[PDubs10612]

If you can would like to know is how many days my cycle lasts for, I just get really confused of where it begins and ends and when I am actually ovulating.
I come on my period the first of every month and lasts for about 5-6 days,
I am so appreciative of any help and guidance you can give me.

So Cycle Day 1 (CD1) is the first day of your period. when your period starts again that is a new cycle, and becomes CD1 of that cycle. How long your period (or AF) lasts is not so important for the purposes of charting, but most track anyway for personal reasons...I think the only reason my fertility specialist (FS) ever used it was to schedule an HSG. Other notes about tracking your AF is, according to my FS, CD1 is considered the day that AF occurs before 6pm...so technically if you get AF at 7pm on Tuesday, Wednesday would actually be your CD1 and whatever cycle day you are on on the Tuesday (say CD31) would be your cycle length. Determining accurate CD1 is important if you have to take medicine on a certain cycle day (like on Chlomid, usually taken CD3-CD7) or when bloodtest is required on certain cycle days (like CD3 Bloodwork is a standard one which is used to find a baseline of some hormone levels and later compared to blood taken a week after ovulation, often referred to as CD21 bloodwork)

Hope this helps with some of the tracking...determining your ovulation date is a much bigger mission with several ways to do it, best to look online for more info but is usually a combination of temping, tracking CM (cervical mucus), checking cp (cervical position) and using OPKs (ovulation predictor kits/strips) or fertility monitors.

Fertility Friend is a great app to use for tracking and they have online courses/tips on using the site and tracking your signs, an online page and a phone app as well.

If you want to do a bit of reading i recommend buying Taking Control of Your Fertility...it is quite popular and I've seen it at second hand stores, and used online as well...again talks about all that is fertility including pictures of CM and examples of charts and how to interpret them.

 

[amylouise18]

Thankyou that has helped alot!
I think i might get that fertility friend and i might get some of the ovulation strips
Thankyou xxx

 

[wish4baby]

Hi, wanted to jump in and wish you luck! Lots of good information in the above posts. You should definitely chart you basal body temperature to pinpoint ovulation and "try" for around 2-3 days before, day of and day after (I like fertility friend online). You can learn so much from knowing your cycle. It could be something relatively easy to fix, such as a short luteal phase. Also, take a prenatal vitamin and maybe even extra folic acid - studies show that 1 mg (1000 mcg) can increase fertility, plus there's a bunch of other benefits, and you can't really take too much.

Side note: me and my husband (then, boyfriend) had our first at 18! Got married, and now more than 12 years later we are trying for our 5th

 

[amylouise18]

Thankyou for the good luck, i wish you good luck too
That's helped alot with how much i should take and its that extra bit of hope.

Thankyou so much ill get that fertility friend too

Thankyou
Amy xxx