I'm really struggling with everyone being pregnant

[Serene123]

Normally I'm alright. A bit of the, I wouldn't wish this on anyone and I'm glad they're happy goes a long way.

But, and I don't know another section that'll understand how I'm feeling, for the last few weeks I feel so envious. I feel so uspet. I just want to cry all the time.

My older sister is expecting her 4th child in April, the second since we started trying. My younger sister is expecting her first child in June and I have found out that Rich's brother and SIL are having a baby in July.

I can't handle it? How do I accpet that it's right for them and not me?

I feel like the worst person in the world for making Rich's first niece or nephew about me but... I'm just so sad

 

[678star-bex]

awww i know but we'll get our happy ending one day.

 

[Serene123]

I'm scared I won't

 

[KellyW1977]

Hey Serene, I understand how you feel, however you just have to focus on the important things you already have in your life! everything happens for a reason so they say so just try to relax and enjoy being an untie and spoil those little ones .....after all its not their fault and you have enough love to go around hun xxxxxxxxxxxx big hugs xxxxxxxxxxx

 

[678star-bex]

i know how u feel. many of us do on here. some days r so painful and hurtful. a girl had her baby the other day and it was announced in work and one of the girls who has just come bk from honeymoon said "oh it'll be e next!!" i used to think that. i was so niave, the truth is she's prob right tho. i simply smiled and cooed along with the other girls. a silent tear fell later driving home.

please keep believeing tho. faith is all we have to get thru this. it may not happen quicky or even naturally. so =me of us may even find happiness being mothers to children that need a mummy where their mummys cant.

i some times read the success stories and some of these ladies r so inspirational it helps. i dont know what else to say but talking is good and we r here because we know what its like. gosh, i;ve been on b'n'b for so long the babies from my ttc buddies are here.

good luck and stay strong.

 

[Serene123]

Thank you!

When I started TTC one of my friends on here fell pregnant, her baby is almost 1 now My sister did too, she has a 1 year old and is due in April.

I feel like something is wrong with me. My specialist agreed something must be wrong with me for me to be having so much trouble at my age. It isn't normal. It isn't right. And the longer it takes the less hope I have

I keep feeling like I want to give up, but I can't because of what if's?

 

[jaykay]

Normally I'm alright. A bit of the, I wouldn't wish this on anyone and I'm glad they're happy goes a long way.

But, and I don't know another section that'll understand how I'm feeling, for the last few weeks I feel so envious. I feel so uspet. I just want to cry all the time.

My older sister is expecting her 4th child in April, the second since we started trying. My younger sister is expecting her first child in June and I have found out that Rich's brother and SIL are having a baby in July.

I can't handle it? How do I accpet that it's right for them and not me?

I feel like the worst person in the world for making Rich's first niece or nephew about me but... I'm just so sad

I know how you feel, it's really hard. One of my friends is now on her second, and I've found it hard to take. I've even taken a step back from pg friends, that may sound selfish but sometimes you have to look after yourself. I really hope it works out for you, good luck xxx

 

[Serene123]

I was fine with my sisters being pregnant. I was upset but I dealt with it. Rich's brothers fiance had a go at me a week before I was told she was pregnant (by Rich's sister even though he knew he just didn't tell me) because I asked her if she was. She told me she was infertile and I felt so bad. I hated her before then, I hated her after she told me, and I hated her even more when I found out she is pregnant. I just don't like her.

She is going to be horrible. I can get excited about most peoples babies but she's going to be one of those people who just rub it in my face. She is THAT horrbile. She bullies my 2 year old and...

Why her and not me

 

[susan_1981]

Oh god I know how you feel. Everyone around me seems to be pregnant and I just find it hard to be happy for them. At the moment, one of my closest friends is pregnant, my sister in law just had a baby, my other sister in law is pregnant, a girl at work has just gone on maternity leave, my husband's best friend's girlfriend is pregnant. Everywhere I turn, there's a pregnant woman. I actually don't think I have many people around me at all that aren't pregnant or just had a baby. It's so frustrating. I'm just holding on to the hope that one day it will be my turn and I think that's probably all I can do to get through it xxx

 

[DaisyJump]

i know what you mean!! I am so so jealous of everyone who is pregnant. I'm off facebook now because i cant even bare to look at peoples status talking about their kids. it doesnt bother me as much when they say happy things but when people moan about their kids or being preggers on their status its just makes me soo angry!

 

[cheerios]

Hey dear ladies
I know what its like! Although I don't have any pregnant ladies in my immediate family, but its like everywhere I turn, there are always pregnant ladies! I hate it, really. And friends becoming pregnant after like trying for 1 / 2 months. I do have to admit that I do get jealous. I'm happy for them, truly... but still wish it were easier for me.

I mean, why can't I just not notice!!! I wish there was a button in my brain that I can turn off so that I don't notice big bellies.

 

[MariaF]

I think most people on here totally understand how you are feeling. They are horrible but natural feeling of desperate women.
Try to take comfort in your baby girl though. I'm sure she's your sunshine and so many ladies on here would kill to have one baby.xx

 

[sheilarae07]

My husband and I have been TTC for 20 months! Since then I have went to over 20 baby showers!!!!! AND 3 people in my family will be having babies next year- in Jan. March, and May. One of them is having her 3rd, 2nd since we started TTC!!! I have been crying all day. I just want a baby to love. I feel like I will never know how it feels to love someone that much.

 

[SpicyWolf]

Unfortunately I can't offer any help other than to assure you that you are not alone. We've only been trying 13 months but since then there have been 3 extended family babies, 4 friend babies, 2 coworkers and just last night my younger brother had to text us to announce they are expecting their first. I felt like my heart was ripped in two since I knew they weren't even trying.

We know how you are feeling - hang in there even though it is so terrible and painful!

 

[babydreams06]

My husband (30) n myself (27) are TTC for the last one year.. We have had 2 IUIs and I tested yesterday and BFN Expecting AF anytime now..

Whereever i am I notice pregnant women.. all my female colleagues in my team have either just given birth to babies or pregnant.. My co sister has a one and a half year daughter and I know she is now trying for a second one.. My Sister in law gave birth to her second child a couple of months ago and my husband's friend is also pregnant.. I also feel I am the only one who cant have a baby easily.. its terrible..

If i take a couple of days off from work the minute i am back every gives me wired smiles like as if I am pregnant and I am trying to hide.. Its really difficult to deal with and feels terrible.. I really wish we all can conceive soon and wont have to deal with such stuff any more..

 

[CareBear]

I think we all feel the same at some point, everyone on here who I was TTCing with have had their first, TTC'd again and now got second babies and here I am still waiting and giving up. My friend in RL had her first in July and is planning when to start trying for a second, I know she'll have that second one before I'm ever pregnant

 

[pinkydinky]

i totally feel you on this. this is something i struggle with regularly on an almost daily basis.

 

[Robyn321]

Me too. One of my friends recently announced her first pregnancy and I just burst into tears (luckily she told me via email so she didn't see me). After a congratulatory reply I cannot bring myself to contact her to find out how she's doing,which I know is horrible but I know it'll just upset me...

 

[Serene123]

It's hard isn't it!

 

[Rowan75]

big hugs hon - its really hard some days x