im so lonely

[lch28]

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[BabyDragon]

I hear you...my bf and I are the same way, same situation....except he has only given LO a bath once and it was BC I was in the hospital....

We got into a huge argument yesterday...and at the restaurant, while he insisted on taking over for me and feeding LO, he got so mad he just threw the bottle down and walked off...umm...okay..no need to take it out on LO.... Then when we were taking a walk, he was pushing the stroller, got mad again, shoved the stroller and said, find your own ride home... Umm..... Okay?

I take care of LO 99% of the time by myself cause I don't work...but jeez...I would like at least more than 4 hours of consecutive sleep just ONCE since I've had LO...but no....OH says cause he works...funny because he does not support me, I don't see a red penny, and really the only thing he buys LO is milk, cause I've bought all her stuff for her...and I'm the one who doesn't work....SMFH.

 

[lch28]

Are we with the same man?!? Haha, just kidding of course. But he does things like this all the time..

We are constantly fighting that I stay home and he goes to work, I spend all my money on Jonathan (i drive a boy to his fathers every day and get like 150 a week) and he always spends his money on his self. I do everything and wake up all night with him. He never gives me a break and im so ready to leave.

i cant believe he took it out on LO like that. OH does this too sometimes , like if i piss him off hell give me the baby back or wont help me with something etc.. Did he actually leave you to find our own ride home??

its so hard =[ where in NJ are you? I live here too lol

 

[BabyDragon]

Lol, we may just as well be with the same man!

Of course he didn't leave! If he did, I would be singing a different tune! We just needed a little breather from each other and I'm glad he walked off, but even though he didn't mean what he said about taking LO and finding our own way, I'm scared to think of how his remarks will affect LO when she does understand!

Yeap, same fights we get into....I understand he works long hours... but sheesh! It's not as though you're working for me, and it's not as though I don't do anything all day! I'm taking care of YOUR daughter! Jerk!

And at the same time, you're leaving me all by myself for 60+ hours a week! I feel as though I am a single mother, without the flipping benefits....

Depressing..

I live near by Atlantic City... You?

 

[ShelbyLC]

I'm sorry you're having trouble with him again. Maybe he needs a little reminder of what he could have lost/be losing. Tell him you want to spend some time apart - you already do everything anyway! Make sure he knows what a wonderful family he has and hope he comes to his senses. It's ridiculous for him to be treating you the way he is.

 

[lch28]

Lol, we may just as well be with the same man!

Of course he didn't leave! If he did, I would be singing a different tune! We just needed a little breather from each other and I'm glad he walked off, but even though he didn't mean what he said about taking LO and finding our own way, I'm scared to think of how his remarks will affect LO when she does understand!

Yeap, same fights we get into....I understand he works long hours... but sheesh! It's not as though you're working for me, and it's not as though I don't do anything all day! I'm taking care of YOUR daughter! Jerk!

And at the same time, you're leaving me all by myself for 60+ hours a week! I feel as though I am a single mother, without the flipping benefits....

Depressing..

I live near by Atlantic City... You?

Oh that's my OH's favorite place. He went there for his birthday in March.. I live about a 2 hour drive from AC in Union County. He also says things he doesn't mean and it pisses me off.. i always worry if when Jonathan's like two, he'll be all excited to play with Daddy when he gets home and then Daddy will wanna go out or something. I tell him all the time he makes me feel like a single mother. I swear he thinks i stay home taking naps and watching movies.

 

[lch28]

I'm sorry you're having trouble with him again. Maybe he needs a little reminder of what he could have lost/be losing. Tell him you want to spend some time apart - you already do everything anyway! Make sure he knows what a wonderful family he has and hope he comes to his senses. It's ridiculous for him to be treating you the way he is.

Thanks Shelby I feel so stupid to be here again. Sometimes wish i didn't listen to him. I like to hope he meant all the things he promised but i never know with him. I just want Jonathan to have stability and he just wants to act like a 21 year old

 

[lch28]

best part is, hes 28 and im 21! but he acts the same as he did when he was a senior in high school sometimes

 

[ShelbyLC]

Try to remember that it would be healthier for Jonathan to have a happy, stress-free mommy than a "perfect family". If he grows up seeing his dad act this way, he will think it's okay to ask the same. It will hurt him to see his mommy upset, too.

 

[hope88]

Omg u have just described my dh ( who might i add is not very dear) except mine has never bought anything for lo he wont go and get a job and spends all his benefit money on his hobbies ps3 mostly and alchol and has never so much as even bathed lo and hes in his mid 30s men r such idiots sometimes they have no idea what it takes to look after a baby dont get me wrong i love my lo to bits but would it kill them to help out abit or so much as even play with them for half hour

 

[lch28]

Thanks shelby.. i am always thinking of how this could affect my little dude. Ive got to get it sorted.

Hope i think there is a whole group of men like ours. Its so hard sometimes. I hate ps3