Im soo depressed and upset...

[kpt20]

Hi all

Im just feeling so down, feel so lonely and unloved!! My husband is sooooo busy at work at the moment that he is working every weekend. So apart from my 5 year old son - i have no company and am just stuck at home alone all the time.
We recently moved so although i have made friends with mums from my sons school - they are not really close enough that I would call them and go over or anything like that - besides most of them work. So as he is also working weekends - i am alone during the week and at the weekends and with all the hormones going wild i get so upset with him that all i do when he is at home is be stroppy and argue with him! when we are not argueing he is tired from work so if i try to have a conversation with him about anything then he just isnt even listening!!! He's either staring into the laptop reading about sport or watching sport on tv!!!
I just feel like im so alone and he just doesnt care. ive got spd but its like he doesnt give a damn and doesnt realise how much it hurts. All he cares about is his work.
If i call him he will cut off my call cos he is busy at work and then call me hours later - i feel like when the birth comes he will probably miss it by the time he calls me back if he's at work at the time!!
He;s just never there when i need him and it was like this when I had my son too!! He hasnt taken an interest in anything with this baby and it was him who wanted another one! Just feel like im doing it all alone. I spend all day crying some times and he doesnt even care. This weekend he made time to go to his friends engagement and to watch football on sunday but he wont make time for me for anything to do with the baby - then he's busy with work - he even forgets appointments and doesnt ever even ask how i am feeling or how an appointment went. its just work work work thats all he cares about.



Sorry i know its all a bit of a ramble - just had to get it out.

 

[happymamma]

Aw sweety, I understand, Ive been going through something similar. My oh is now home on weekend though, but for about 3 months straight he was never home. He worked till midnight, and on weekends, and I was left home alone with 4 little kids, we moved 3 times basically (long story) and Im also suffering from spd or whatever its called. I just call it a broken crotch
Most men seem wierd when we're pg, they dont seem to care, and go on with their own selfish lives. Ive been feeling depressed lately, and he doesnt notice, he doesnt listen when I talk to him, he's actually always on guard ready to start a fight. So, Ive been ignoring him but he'll do things to push my buttons just to get me started, then he has an excuse to go play his video ghames all weekend and leave me to deal with the housework and the kids all by myself.
I know this might not help you really, but just to let you know, you arent alone. And we're all here to listen and talk to each other

 

[ginab]

I can sympathise with a lot of what you've written about I feel very similar I think your going to have to sit down and talk to him about it.. My oh works till late in evenings by which time im too tired to even talk. On sunday he played footie which took up half the day and when he got home i burst into tears saying how fed up i am. I know im not being much help to you but I just want u to know your not the only one feeling the same. Message me if you ever need a moan or to chat Im not doing much anymore, dont work and fed up of cleaning so happy to chat to you x

 

[flame]

If he dident work he wouldnt be able to provide for you and the kids so maybe hge is thinking about that, and he will also need to have time to rest when he is off. I know how hard it is to be pregnant and have other kids to look after but life does go on and not everyone can drop everything to provide reasurance or security, i dont mean this post to sound harsh but its reality im afraid, and im a single parent and have had a tough pregnancy and am still going through the daily routine as it has to be done.

 

[chief's wife]

hi all i think its just the hormones making you feel that way. it happens at times because we are not able to do what we are used to cos of our weight. the fact is that your husbands really care but that's just how some of them handle pressure or fear of anything happening to you or the baby. its all anxiety

 

[kpt20]

If he dident work he wouldnt be able to provide for you and the kids so maybe hge is thinking about that, and he will also need to have time to rest when he is off. I know how hard it is to be pregnant and have other kids to look after but life does go on and not everyone can drop everything to provide reasurance or security, i dont mean this post to sound harsh but its reality im afraid, and im a single parent and have had a tough pregnancy and am still going through the daily routine as it has to be done.

Yeah i know i understand that - but its more things like when he puts other things before me and when he knows ive had a lot of pain etc he cant come home and ask how i am or ask how a midwives appointment went. If you are a single parent then you dont have these expectations from anyone and you get on with stuff but then you do have a partner you do expect them to care! even if someone is busy it takes nothing to ask how i am with a kiss or something when he gets in.