I'm TERRIFIED..

[ilysilly]

I can't help but to be terrified that something is going to go wrong with my baby... I got pregnant the first month we tried.. Everything is going super smooth, other than me being somewhat nauseous, some little twinges/pinches/cramps and being insanely tired. Neither me or OH have had an easy life, so I just "KNOW" that something is going to go wrong. I don't know how to let go of my worries... I know I need to and I know I need to be happy for baby to be happy and healthy. I'm just SO scared that it's all going to go wrong. It just CAN'T be this easy for us... I've been in and out of mental institutions and my depression is just... GONE. I still have worries.. but... I feel SO much better now that I'm pregnant. No racing bipolar thoughts either. OH has been married before and lost his son because of his congenital heart defect.. Wife left him after that. We've been through so much more than those things too.. I just don't know how to believe things are going to be fine.. more than fine. PLEASE give me some words of advice.. I hate feeling like this and the OBGYN won't take me until 8 weeks..Not even to ease my fears. I know they can't see anything at this point, but they won't even take levels! PLEASE HELP! I don't want to be worried out of my mind anymore..

 

[ChristinaG]

wow, I was about to post this exact same thread. DH and I also haven't had anything come easily. This is our parents' first grandchild on both sides, and it took us 13 months to get pregnant.
every twinge and cramp I get, I freak out! I have had dreams about m/c and bleeding and I just can't seem to relax. I am almost 8 weeks and my obgyn won't take me till 12!!
I'm sure everything is fine, but I am so scared something will go wrong too!

Hang in there!

 

[ilysilly]

wow, I was about to post this exact same thread. DH and I also haven't had anything come easily. This is our parents' first grandchild on both sides, and it took us 13 months to get pregnant.
every twinge and cramp I get, I freak out! I have had dreams about m/c and bleeding and I just can't seem to relax. I am almost 8 weeks and my obgyn won't take me till 12!!
I'm sure everything is fine, but I am so scared something will go wrong too!

Hang in there!

THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR RESPONDING!!! Congrats! We both need to learn how to relax.. Hah. I hope everything goes well for you hun!

 

[Mon_n_john]

All you can do is try to relax the best way that works for you. Drink a cup of tea, listen to soft music, take a warm shower, think positive thoughts. Hang in there!

 

[SamanthaYC]

I say this often, have faith in your body and in your baby. Stress isn't good for either one.

 

[cowgirl21]

I can totally relate. I'm so scared too, and definitely can't knock it - ever. Hubby doesn't want to hear me constantly "whine" either. He just says everything is fine.
Know that the road along is horribly long - it seems like a month has gone by just in a few days. Time doesn't seem to be moving!

12 days till my next scan (since I was having horrible pains in the same left ovary=turned out to be cyst) and its not coming fast enough!

 

[ilysilly]

I can totally relate. I'm so scared too, and definitely can't knock it - ever. Hubby doesn't want to hear me constantly "whine" either. He just says everything is fine.
Know that the road along is horribly long - it seems like a month has gone by just in a few days. Time doesn't seem to be moving!

12 days till my next scan (since I was having horrible pains in the same left ovary=turned out to be cyst) and its not coming fast enough!

I hope everything is okay!

 

[babyoneill]

i had the same worries but u have to stay calm and positive for you and your baby, xx

 

[kat2504]

Everyone is scared in the first trimester, it's totally natural. We all know that one in five pregnancies or so will miscarry so everyone is on edge the whole time. Given your husband's history, I can understand why you feel more worried.
But - you have an 80% chance of this pregnancy leading to a lovely healthy baby in 8 months time. Try to remember the odds are in your favour.
Your doctor is right. There is no need to take your hcg levels unless something is going wrong and there is no need for them to see you until 8 weeks. Hopefully, when you go in, you will have a lovely scan at 8 weeks and then know you have a 95% chance of all continuing well.
Take it easy, rest when you feel tired and try not to panic. All pregnant women have exactly the same worries at this stage and it will pass soon.

 

[Lilyfire]

Everyone is scared in the first trimester, it's totally natural. We all know that one in five pregnancies or so will miscarry so everyone is on edge the whole time. Given your husband's history, I can understand why you feel more worried.
But - you have an 80% chance of this pregnancy leading to a lovely healthy baby in 8 months time. Try to remember the odds are in your favour.
Your doctor is right. There is no need to take your hcg levels unless something is going wrong and there is no need for them to see you until 8 weeks. Hopefully, when you go in, you will have a lovely scan at 8 weeks and then know you have a 95% chance of all continuing well.
Take it easy, rest when you feel tired and try not to panic. All pregnant women have exactly the same worries at this stage and it will pass soon.

ilySilly- I feel the same. This is my first round of clomid and I can't believe we have been so lucky. I'm 11dpo now, had BFPs since 9dpo and just can't wait for the days to go by. I feel so very scared whenever I get a twinge and it's already turning me into a bit of a wreck as I had many cramps today. DH and I are sooooooooooo happy about this and just want everything to be ok.
The quote above really made me feel better and I'm going to keep thinking 'there is an 80% chance everything will be fine'... kinda like a first-tri mantra! Lots and lots of good luck to you (all of us!) for a healthy and happy nine months.