I'm up the wall with worry

[foxymummy]

Im a member of another pregnancy forum and one of the girls who was due around the same time as me found her little angel passed away at 15 weeks. I'm devestated for her i really am. I cant help but think because we are or were at the same stage i'm terrified and the things running through my head are driving me up the wall with worry. She found out at a routine check up and ive another 4 weeks to go before my next scan I'm petrified in case something is wrong and i dont know.
I feel trying to feel for baby movements but not sure if i'm feeling movement or i just need to pass wind.
Can baby pull on the cord and that can cause harm? Can the cord do harm to the baby cause it moved around alot??
See?? the second i have free time to myself leaves me questioning all sorts.

Any insight?

 

[ash086]

thats too bad you could invest in a doppler so you can hear the heart beat. helps your nerves

 

[Tickles]

I had all these worries too. Now i can feel my baby im loads more relaxed.

Worrying wont help anything. If anything has or will happen there is nothing you can do about it. Stay as healthy as you can and try to enjoy your pregnancy. As each day passes your another day closer and your chances reduce.

Just remember you are likely to have a healthy pregnancy than not. Just be patient and pass the time. Im sure all will be fine.

xx

 

[Sunshine12]

Try not to worry. I had the same thing last week. A lady from another thread found out at her 20 week scan that her baby had spina bifida and brain damage so she had to terminate. I found it out 2 hours before I went for my scan so obviously I too feared the worst. My scan went fine. You need to try and not connect other situations with your own. Im sorry to hear about the other girls situation.

 

[dizz]

Thing is - you're on a forum that has a high concentration of pregnant women. By that very nature - the sad stories are also going to be much more concentrated in volume as well and it can skew your view of how things are likely to turn out. I found that one out when I was active on lots of pregnancy-loss boards - it really messed with my mind in that I felt every day someone on the boards was losing a pregnancy... because they were seeking those boards out by their very nature.

Not that I have it sorted - I was sobbing in terror the other day because movements had gone quieter (they're back now - rationally I knew they would be)! I don't think the fear and worry ever fully leaves you - even after they're born - but, and this may sound incredibly daft, in all the pregnancies I've lost - looking back, I've just known... I've never been able to close my eyes and "see" me with the baby at the end of it - this time, despite my mind torturing me with worst-case scenarios... I can see the final picture of me, dogs and toddler mooching along through the autumn leaves at the park - and I figure as long as that picture's in my head I'll probably be ok... but instinct or spidey-sense or whatever's never let me see that in any pregnancy things have subsequently went wrong in.

 

[foxymummy]

Went to my doc this morning with a throat infection. I asked her to list to the hearbeat jut to ease my worries...and there is was like a little train