I'm upset now :-(

[stacie-leigh]

Arghhhh! I hate my other halfs ex so much!

In the court order it says that during christmas we have the girls christmas day 3.30 until 5.00 and boxing day 10 until 5. But now Mark has received a text saying:

'Yes we need to talk about xmas mad doesnt want to go to your house but she wants her presents, i really dont want a repeat of lils bday were she crys in the carpark so ive managed to get you, your mum and dad a room in first start on xmas morning so you get to see both girls together as mad doesnt want to be with stacie. It will be instead of the afternoon. I will leave you to it then tidy up after and ive got a lift home so they can take their presents home with them. Let me know what you think so i can finalise the agreement.'

So basically, she wants to control things even further by making sure that she knows exactly what everybody is doing Christmas day. I said to Mark that if he agrees then this will become habit and will happen every year resulted in me and our baby being at home whilst Mark goes to sit in a room all morning!!!!

It isn't Madi that doesn't want me there, it is her!

I'm so annoyed that my OH is even thinking about it

 

[Yazz_n_bump]

That's ridicolous, it's nice that she puts 'but she wants her presents'!! If I was you you ought to tell your OH how you feel!

 

[minkymoo]

She wants her daughters to see their father and grandparents in a contact centre on Christmas Day???

 

[dollyminxture]

ooh she sounds like a right cow bag!! tell him that he should stick to what was already arranged because shes just trying to manipulate the situation to suit herself, im not sure but it could be a breach of custodial rights if he agrees to change the arrangements set by the court, would be awful if she or the courts could use it against him in any way.

How petty and childish of her. Even if the child did say she didnt want to be around you the chances are she does and just doesnt want to hurt her mums feelings.

Hope he sticks with what was already agreed and you and your family have a lovely xmas xx

 

[stacie-leigh]

That's ridicolous, it's nice that she puts 'but she wants her presents'!! If I was you you ought to tell your OH how you feel!

Yes and that she's planning on taking the presents that we buy back to her house

Does she think we are stupid?

 

[mumtobeplus1]

Its very rude of her to say she doesnt want to come but still wants her presents.

 

[emmi26]

shes paethetic hun seriously those girls would be so much better off if she at least tried to get along with you. im sure yr not some psycho and yr having their baby sister too !! she sounds jealous to me hun x x

 

[stacie-leigh]

She wants her daughters to see their father and grandparents in a contact centre on Christmas Day???

It certainly looks that way. Madi managed to cope coming to our house last christmas day....

 

[punk_chick]

Tell your OH to put his foot down, you have a custody agreement and she should stick to it, if you let her get what she wants once she'll make a habit of it

 

[stacie-leigh]

ooh she sounds like a right cow bag!! tell him that he should stick to what was already arranged because shes just trying to manipulate the situation to suit herself, im not sure but it could be a breach of custodial rights if he agrees to change the arrangements set by the court, would be awful if she or the courts could use it against him in any way.

How petty and childish of her. Even if the child did say she didnt want to be around you the chances are she does and just doesnt want to hurt her mums feelings.

Hope he sticks with what was already agreed and you and your family have a lovely xmas xx

That is exactly how it is x

 

[minkymoo]

She wants her daughters to see their father and grandparents in a contact centre on Christmas Day???

It certainly looks that way. Madi managed to cope coming to our house last christmas day....

She needs to be told that that is probably why the girls cry in the fecking car park. Jaysus. A couple of hours with their dad at home would do them good. Stupid bint.

 

[stacie-leigh]

shes paethetic hun seriously those girls would be so much better off if she at least tried to get along with you. im sure yr not some psycho and yr having their baby sister too !! she sounds jealous to me hun x x

She is jealous, she does everything in her power to manipulate everything, it's just a joke!

She uses the children as weapons and it just isn't right!

 

[stacie-leigh]

She wants her daughters to see their father and grandparents in a contact centre on Christmas Day???

It certainly looks that way. Madi managed to cope coming to our house last christmas day....

She needs to be told that that is probably why the girls cry in the fecking car park. Jaysus. A couple of hours with their dad at home would do them good. Stupid bint.

I couldn't of said it any better myself! But when Mark disagrees she comes up with an excuse as to why she can't bring the girls at the weekend. Going to court didn't help, they just said sort it out between you.......

 

[Franki83]

Sweetheart, i know what you are going through as i am going through this with my ex. he is a horrible man, and Emily doesnt really like her daddy, or his new wife, buuuut, there are ways to help sort this.
if there is an agreement in place, surely this was also done after chatting with CAFCAS officer (think just spelled that wrong but you know what i mean), this is usually the case with every court involvement with any child.
get onto meeting with solicitor asap, as it does just sound like she is being evil. If the LO has been to yours before and had a wonderful time, then why now?
as for contact centre? for that has she involved your local authority to get one of these? i had to get a social workers help for her father to see Emily this way as they are hard to obtain these rooms. and usually they are for supervised contact only. and xmas is extremely busy time. is she telling the truth about this?
you can get, through your solicitor, a court guardian (cafcas) who is not for you, or her mother, actually just for child, to come out and see you and partner and his daughter, as a family unit. that will then get her to shut up. when she hears that court official trained in this thing has no problems.
i have been through this exact same bloody thing and it is not easy. but doing it legally is best way, not through text messages. which it sounds like she is doing to be very manipulative.

 

[Yazz_n_bump]

Your OH needs to put his foot down and say no! What kind of mother is she wanting her daughters and their grand parents & father to go to a bloody contact centre on christmas day?
Whats wrong with them going to yours for a few hours? Won't bloody kill her.

 

[minkymoo]

Your OH needs to put his foot down and say no! What kind of mother is she wanting her daughters and their grand parents & father to go to a bloody contact centre on christmas day?
Whats wrong with them going to yours for a few hours? Won't bloody kill her.

Too right!!

Now, where is my soapbox?......

 

[stacie-leigh]

Sweetheart, i know what you are going through as i am going through this with my ex. he is a horrible man, and Emily doesnt really like her daddy, or his new wife, buuuut, there are ways to help sort this.
if there is an agreement in place, surely this was also done after chatting with CAFCAS officer (think just spelled that wrong but you know what i mean), this is usually the case with every court involvement with any child.
get onto meeting with solicitor asap, as it does just sound like she is being evil. If the LO has been to yours before and had a wonderful time, then why now?
as for contact centre? for that has she involved your local authority to get one of these? i had to get a social workers help for her father to see Emily this way as they are hard to obtain these rooms. and usually they are for supervised contact only. and xmas is extremely busy time. is she telling the truth about this?
you can get, through your solicitor, a court guardian (cafcas) who is not for you, or her mother, actually just for child, to come out and see you and partner and his daughter, as a family unit. that will then get her to shut up. when she hears that court official trained in this thing has no problems.
i have been through this exact same bloody thing and it is not easy. but doing it legally is best way, not through text messages. which it sounds like she is doing to be very manipulative.

We have had many cafcass meetings, mediation and court hearings for my other half to be told on the final hearing by the judge that they've got to sort it out between them. And we've got to the point where we just can't afford a solicitor at £250 an hour.

She will of managed to get a room because she is friends with the people who work there so they will be doing it as a favour to her.

Also, Madi is fine when she is with me and Mark. Whenever her mum isn't there she cuddles me, tells me she loves me and how excited she is about her baby sister. (her mother even told her that my baby isn't her sister)

 

[minkymoo]

If the contact centre hasn't been ordered by the court then she is really pushing her luck. Mark should refuse, absolutely and utterly, it is not a nice memory for the girls to hold more than anything else. I know it's easy for me to say. She is clearly deranged.

 

[Jojo-Mummy]

firstly I would tell her anything you and mark buy for the kids are to stay at yours same as you wouldnt expect them to bring their stuff to yours unless they wanted to.

This woman needs a kick in the teeth! Shes is a right pain in the arse!

 

[Franki83]

What a fecking Biaytch!
you cannot say that about a baby, evil cow!
sounds like she is just out to cause hell for you.
yes there has to be a compromise between both parties for welfare of child, but not for it to be completely ignored! how old is Madi? and has her mom even stopped to ask her what she wants? My daughter happily told everyone who would listen to her what she wanted. LOL she still does, lol.
secretly film Madi talking to you guys, show it to her mother too, rub her nasty nose in it!