"impatiently waiting and complaining" IVF November/December/end of the year bumps

[Kirs_t]

Hope you're good too sandy!! xxx

 

[Sandy83]

Morning Ladies

Michelle

Kchope Fab to hear you have another Follie, always good to see there are still growing by the day Tuesday will be here before you know it.

Ash - Woo Hoo PUPO

Afam, Kirs_t, Snow, Sept, L4 and anyone ive missed hope you are doing well and moving along nicely

AFM - Nothing to report still waiting impatiently for to show! starting to drive me crazy then waitng for my WTF appointment on 26th Nov ONLY 18 days to go (not that im counting), starting to feel like im being left behind and everyone is moving on with there new cycles. Think if i knew what was happening with my FET and had an idea of dates i would be happier but will just have to wait impatiently til 26th

 

[michelle01]

kchope - Remember it only takes one! I am still a little apprehensive, even with my follicle count because this is my 3rd cycle and I just want a BFP for xmas! Hopefully we both get ours

kirs - Are you doing a FET?

Hi Sandy! Hope AF shows soon for you. I know how frustrating it is wanting her to show and she doesn't. Hope you get some answers at your appt.

We have DH's SA today and then hopefully stims start tonight or tomorrow; just have to wait for my call this afternoon to find out.

 

[septbride]

Hello ladies! Go blue!

Hi Michelle! Welcome to our complaining corner.

Kchope, that's great that there's another follie on board -- 5 ain't too shabby! Keep your head up over there.

Sandy, GL and hope you get some answers soon!

Ash, congrats on getting those babies on board!

Afam, we are getting so close now! How are you feeling?

AFM, just finished BCP last night, so now hanging out until I get a period...or don't Looking forward to getting things moving this weekend. I got so stressed and sad during the last cycle that I'm spending these last few days on a plan for coping with the next cycle. Acupuncture, walking, green tea, vitamin D, and using a light box in the mornings to get some "sunlight." Here's hoping it helps me stay on an even keel. Any other tips or destressing techniques? I'd love to hear them!

Snow, L4, Kirst, anyone else I've missed -

 

[michelle01]

Hi septbride! Yay for finishing your last BCP! I am doing acupuncture this cycle too; it really seems to be helping. I have had 2 failed cycles, so trying to be optomisitic for the third!! I think working out has helped me stay less stressed, but I know once I start stims I will be stopping soon after; it is too hard to keep going.

 

[Afamilygal]

Hi Michelle!! I have seen you around too! welcome, so glad to have you! Third time lucky lets hope! 17 sounds like a very positive number indeed! What did they do differently this time around?
glad to hear you are enjoying acupuncture, I have been doing it too and it is just lovely. so calming! sounds like your ER is soon, so exciting!

Kc- I like your shout out to blue! it was a little hairy there wasn't it?
good news about your new follicle popping up! don't forget that they may always be able to get some more at the procedure (not sure why this is, it just seems to happen a lot) I have a lot of hope for you missy!!!
I am doing the microflare yes. I'm glad we don't have to wait for AF since I am bleeding so much that I think I won't have much of a lining at the end of the cycle.
ER is so soon! EXCITING!!!

Ash- congrats on being PUPO with twins! YAY!!! those embies are just lovely!
Hope you are taking it very easy!

Kirs- so are you on meds yet? ou say you will be doing b/w and u/s every second day? That sounds like a lot of work, mine are every 3rd day.
Does everyone else go in that often? they tried to make my first u/s 5 days after I start meds and I was like HECK NO FOLKS so now my furst will be on the 4th day. a little better at least.
sorry about your fertile family. I am jsut waiting for sister to tell me that she's with child. I've been working on my poker face so I don't burst into tears and run screaming from the room. christmas is tough isn't it? well dont you worry, you will be one of the smug ones soon enough!

Sandy- aw! I'm sorry you feel that way, I know that feeling and it isn't nice. Can you call your RE and have them move the appointment up? I would try if you can, tell you you are hormonal and losing your marbles and need a consult ASAP. maybe they will take pity? I'm always pushing my clinic to bump me up and move things around, I'm fairly certain they hate me.
but like L4 once said, if you irritate them enough they will work extra hard to get your pg so you can graduate to another doctor! funny girl...

Sept- HORRAY for the end of your BCP! hip hip horray! it sounds like you are doing everything right! my recommendations would be to add yoga (it has changed my life/outlook and attitude BIG time) and also the circle + bloom IVF audios. it s a download thing and if you put in BABY25 in the coupon/discount code area you can get 25% off. I LOVE it!

https://www.circlebloom.com/

I highly recommend it, it is SO relaxing and therapeutic! I'm excited for you to be getting started soon! YAY!

crips. this is a long ass post. sorry about that kids! where is snow? big hug to you sister! Hope you are well!

and L4, whats the news on you? just chillin like a villain?

did I forget anyone? forgive me if I did, this post is getting LONG.

as for moi, nothing new. I have my resolve support group tonight after yoga (hope they dont find me a little stinky- jk, I'll take a change of clothes) which I am looking forward to, Those women can be so lovely and supportive. If any of you want to look for a support group you can look it up on RESOLVE's website. I was resistant to the idea initially but it makes the whole thing more humane and easier when you can all talk to each other and be supportive. It can be very therapeutic.

I only 4 more days til my baseline! Woot woot! I'm excited! I picked up my microlupron today from the specialty pharmacy. Friday tomorrow! yay! DH and I are going to see a movie- FUN!

hope you are all well! and

 

[ashknowsbest]

Sandy - I hope AF shows soon so you can get started! It's always really hard being in limbo. We'll all be here to cheer you on when you officially start your cycle!

Michelle - I guess your DH's SA results came back okay since you are starting your meds tomorrow?

sept - thanks! Those all sound like great de-stressing techniques! I should try some of those! I take baths when I'm stressed but I'm now allowed to do that anymore right now Also go pamper yourself, get a pedicure or something, always my favorite!

afam - I am definitely taking it easy OH went to work today and I've just been laying/sitting around on the couch watching movies and knitting I've gotten up to use the restroom and make myself food but for the most part I've been sitting around resting. My doctor told me to rest tomorrow and then go back to my normal activities today so ... I think I'm doing a pretty good job. I'm starting to get bored though! I think my OH and I are going to Red Lobster for dinner tonight, I've been craving crab legs! Yay for your baseline! I can't wait for everyone to get started!

AFM - I got a call from my doctor. He told me that out of the 2 that we didn't transfer yesterday, only 1 survived but he didn't recommend freezing it because it wasn't that great of quality and when you freeze them they degrade a little bit so ... we're not freezing it and I'm a little sad. He did tell me that we transfered two really good embryos yesterday (which they told me yesterday) and that he really didn't think I was going to need it anyways. At least my doctor is staying positive! So, anyways, I'm sad about that but it's okay, I won't need it Also, it's not worth the 1000$ to freeze 1 embryo when my insurance will allow me to do 3 more ivf cycles if need be.

 

[Afamilygal]

Im sorry Ash, that must have been hard to hear but I like your Dr, I dont think you will need it! and it is great that your insurance will help you 3 more times, that is very lucky indeed!
good for you for taking it easy. what are you knitting?
I started knitting a baby turban but I got bored (like always!) I was hoping to pick it back up in my TWW, maybe you will inspire me!

 

[michelle01]

Thanks Afamilygal! I love acupuncture! I didn't do it my previous 2 cycles, so when I had the failed second cycle, my FS recommended it. This cycle they are going back to the same protocol as the first cycle, just doing 525iu of Follistum; first cycle I did only 225 and I was just a slow responder. My second cycle they switched things completely and it was just a bust. So hopefully with the added acu and increased dose, things will be better this one. Glad you are starting soon!

Yes Ash, DH's SA came back good, so we got the green light to start Glad to hear you are taking it easy; let the little ones snuggle in And I am sure that this cycle will give you your BFP!

 

[ashknowsbest]

afam - thanks, it's not so bad really. I'm actually knitting my OH a cabled scarf, I'll attach a picture so you can see. It's not finished, i have to stretch it out a little so that the cables are more pronounced but I'll probably do that tomorrow or something, right now I don't really feel like it. And that part takes a while anyways cause you have to soak it in water then lay it out and pin it down ... craziness! You should pick your knitting back up! It's fun and it keeps your mind off of TTC!

Michelle - so glad to hear everything worked out!!

 

[ashknowsbest]

Here's the scarf I'm knitting for Jason

https://i1215.photobucket.com/albums/cc506/ashliknowsbest/IMG_0639.jpg

https://i1215.photobucket.com/albums/cc506/ashliknowsbest/IMG_0640.jpg

 

[L4hope]

Ok ladies, I take about 24 hours off and as always you have given me WAY too much to keep track of! I'll try my best, but thinking of you all!! Here goes nothing....

Ash, sounds like you're doing a good job of relaxing so your little embabies can settle in for the long haul! Im sorry to hear you didn't get any to freeze. It's hard not to be disappointed. But you have two beautiful embabies that will hopefully bring you your bfp! I wish I knew how to knit. Definitely seems like a relaxing hobby. The scarf looks great!

Michelle, yay for a good report today. Now comes the fun part...shots shots shots!! In another thread we joked about singing the chorus of that one song that just says shots shots shots shots shots!! Gets you pumped!

Afam, baseline tomorrow?! How did that sneak up on me? I'm so excited for you to get started, I just know this is going to be your cycle!!

Sept, last bcp...so jealous here! You said you may or may not get your period? Does getting AF versus not change anything about when you start stimming?

Kchope another follicle that's great! You just might get a few more by the time all is said and done!!

Kits, gotta love the every other day appts! They did that with my first cycle, but for this one it seems a little less often. Maybe since they know how I'll respond. Who knows! I too was just thinking about Christmas and how I'll be finding out if this cycle worked or not VERY close to Christmas. While I'm really trying hard to keep my positive it's gonna work this time attitude... The realistic side of me knows I have an equal chance that if won't and then what? But you know what, to go through this just shows we are strong women! We will get through just like everything else up until now. We are women here us roar!! Grrrr!!!

Sandy As family gal pointed out my perspective...nothing like giving them a little more incentive to knock you up and send you back to your OB Seriously though, sometimes they need a little extra squawking to get what you need from them.

Snow, how's it going?? You're chillin too waiting for next AF for FET right?

Afm, yes I'm still chillin like a villain. One more week of bcp then I'll finally get to see some action!! Whew that was a forever post.. Hopefully I got everyone!!

 

[Kirs_t]

Good morning girls!

Thanks for the gorgeous post L4hope! you are so thoughtful and positive and made me smile

Actually i love how positive and hopeful all of you ladies are - it is so nice to debrief and have such great support. I don't really know anyone close to me who has had to go through infertility so it so good to ask questions and hear your stories. How do you ladies find friends and family understand? I have a few people who really get it - and alot who just have no idea! I feel like some just can't seem to comprehend what it is like to face infertility and fear never having children. Alot seem to shrug it off as no big deal. Maybe that's just the space I'm in today... sorry for the rant!

Michelle - how's it all going? Yep I'm doing a FET this time and feel exciting to have started the cycle!

Afam - Yoga sounds great! Have you been doing it long? I am thinking of booking in to a yoga retreat in early Feb on the East Coast of Aus.
Good luck for your baseline - will be thinking of you and hope it goes well!

KChop - how are you feeling? not long now till ER!

Ash - impressive knitting! wish i knew how!

Sandy and Snow - hope the waiting goes quick! I hate waiting Snow - have you started FET cycle yet?

Sept - sounds like you are doing a great job at destressing! I need to take a few of your tips. I love acupuncture too. It works wonders for me. I go in all strung out and then float out!

Hope I didnt miss anyone! As I mentioned - just gearing up to start the everyother day appt's on monday! My ovulation varies and can be as early as day 9 - 10 so I guess just to make sure we don't miss anything! Have told my boss I will need 3 days off after transfer. I am looking forward to doing nothing at all. IVF can be tough to juggle with work. Are you ladies working? How do you find it?

Sorry about the essay!
lots of love xxx

 

[Snowbunny]

Wow! This thread has been on fire! I have had a crazy couple of days at work and had to entertain some visitors from our head office, so wasn't home til late.

Let me try to catch up here...

Ash - girl you are talented! That scarf is gorgeous!!! I'm sorry you didn't get any frosties, but you have 2 fantastic blasts on board, so you won't need any.

Michelle - It sounds like you have a good plan for your '3rd times the charm' cycle. Good luck.

Afam - seriously, baseline tomorrow! Wow. I'm excited to root you on through your journey! Love your posts - I laugh my butt off.

Sept - How excited are you that its your last bcp? I hate those dang things, made me a crazy witch

Kchope - how ya doin? I'm happy there's another embie on board. There may even be more.

kirst - Enjoy your weekend before shots. I haven't started my FET cycle yet. I am hoping AF is here on Nov. 30th, then I will phone in my day 3 monitoring and my endometrial biopsy (yeowch!).

Sandy - get on em! You need to stay on top of them for sure. The squeaky wheel gets the grease.

L4 - I totally get your worries about Christmas. If we get to do our fet in December we will be finding out over the holidays and it scares the bejeezus out me. Like you I'm trying to stay positive.

Have I missed anyone? So sorry if I did. Thinking bout all of you.

 

[L4hope]

Kirs, gotta love that we are all from around the world. You say good morning and it's 10pm for me right now! I'm glad I could make you smile. I figure, theres enough crying that we need to counterbalance it with some smiles and laughter. Plus I'm sure that helps calm us too.
It's absolutely wonderful to have everyone here on BnB. Nobody else truly understands the way we do. I have a couple of friends who I can talk to, but not like I talk to everyone here. It's just so hard for others to comprehend everything. Plus I have some friends who don't have kids and aren't planning to have any so they really don't get it. And yes there are always the ones who don't take it seriously or even pull the " you just need to relax" so then you want to strangle them rather than talk to them! Bottom line... Bless you all!!
As for work and IVF, yes I am working too. It definitely can be tough.. However i find it also to be a helpful distraction so as not to obsess all day every day. I'm a teacher so I'm off in the summer. My first fresh cycle was over the summer. It was nice because I didn't have the stress of work or taking time off. But sitting home all day long and no working out... I was going a little crazy. Now with doing this fresh cycle working I hate that I have the stress and you always worry about everything. I work at many different schools, so I have to drive around all day. I sometimes am carrying a lot of things into my building which I'm a bit concerned about after transfer. Hopefully it will make the tww fly by though!

 

[michelle01]

Ash - Wow, that scarf looks amazing! I have 2 right hands when it comes to that kind of stuff How are you doing?

L4 - One week will go quickly!

Kirs - It is going good; start stims today I work full-time and it is hard to juggle. This cycle I decided to take a week and a half off, so my ER and ET will fall within that time. I didn't want to stress about that this cycle. So I am off work from 11/19 through 11/27

Thanks Snowbunny I really hope I am third time lucky!!

Happy Friday! Hope everyone has a great weekend.

I started stimming this morning; I feel like a human pin cushion

 

[Afamilygal]

hiya peeps! I am so sleepy I don't have it in me to do the rounds but know that I loves each and every one of youse! Sounds like everyone is feeling relatively positive which I am happy to hear! more tomorrow friends!
but I also thought I should mention that my baseline isn't until Monday, sorry for the mix up, I wish it was tomorrow! that would be BadA.

sleep well darlings! (and good morning to those of you on the other side of the globe!)
MUA!

 

[ashknowsbest]

l4hope, kirs, snow and michelle thanks!

l4hope - Yay for only 1 more weeks on bcp's!! It's so exciting to get started!

kirs - When I went through the stiming process I worked up until the 2nd week and then I took off until .... this Monday. I'm a part time nanny though so it's easy for me to take off .. other people can't do that but if you can I would suggest doing it. By the 2nd week of stiming you're bloated and uncomfortable and then you're in a little bit of pain after ER and then for ET you want to be home resting so ... hopefully you can make that work!

Michelle - yay for starting! It will fly by now!

AFM - I'm 4dp5dt and I'm having some "symptoms". I'm really trying not to over analyze them but it's hard. I'm having pinching, cramping, I'm very tired, hungry all of the time, and dizzy. I know all of these things can be caused by the progesterone so I'm just listing them if anyone is interested. I've been laying around a lot, eating a lot, knitting, sleeping, doing everything I'm supposed to be doing after the ET. My doctor didn't tell me to be on bedrest, just to take it easy, no sex, no lifting heavy objects but he told me not to lay down all day either because it can limit blood flow and that's not good for implantation so I kind of just carried on like normal and avoided the things they told me to .. so, hopefully this works! I go back to work tomorrow and I'm excited because it will keep me busy. I'm thinking about testing early just because my beta is on Friday and I'm working Friday so if I test on Thursday and it's negative then I can have that whole day to cry and mope and then even though they're going to make me go in for my beta on Friday at least I would have already been prepared....I'm just trying to figure out what's going to work best for me. I've decided too that the earliest I will test, if I even decide that's what I'm going to do would be 6dp5dt so .. Tuesday.

 

[Afamilygal]

hiya folks! oh man, I hardly know where to start! I never did sign on yesterday and do the personals, whoops! instead I spent the whole day making a video for my dad (He is turning 70 this coming Saturday, I can't believe it! 70! It's hard to believe! he is still so youthful and handsome. 70 today is not what 70 used to be I suppose TG!!)
that and I went to a local Herb Shop and while I was there there was a psychic! so GUESS what I did?!?! HA! I did... not even sure why I did it, DH would be pissed if he knew.
She didn't really say all that much. I omitted a lot of details in the beginning but eventually just asked her. She was a bit cagey on the details (probably cause she doesn't know them- ha!)
but she did say she saw a little girl. but she said 12 months. I was like say WHAT now, like I have 12 months. BAH! so... that was that. another odd experience to add to my ever growing list.

so on to the personals:

Ash- horray for having symptoms- that is exciting! Do you worry that Tuesday might be a bit soon to test? I hate to be a downer its just cause it might not even be able to read it and you'll get sad when you may not even need to be. but what do I know? I'll bet you're chomping at the bit to test! do whatever feels right.
your scarf is v. pretty btw!

Michelle- YAY for the stimming!! let the games begin!!

L4- I HATE the 'just relax' thing, its like "Um... there is no relaxing thing about this let alone, JUST relaxing. YOU relax! grumble grumble..." that is something the psychic said to me she told me "they are telling me to tell you to relax" I was no. OH no, I just NOT just pay you $30 for you to tell me to relax. I should have stole her tarot cards until the apologized.
so less than a week for you now lady! heeeey now...

Snow- glad I could make you laugh! L4 is right that we can use all the laughter we can get! this sh*t is depressing ... so how are you?

Kirs- Yoga retreat? FUN! I am jealous, that sounds to die for! good luck at your appointment tomorrow!

Sandy- how the waiting going? hope you're staying sane!

KC- how are you? getting close now to ER eh? is it still set for Tues? so exciting! you ready?

afm, not much happening, just the usual tarot card readings and home video compilations that make me cry... HA!
baseline is tomorrow! YAY!
please lord, let there be no cysts so I can finally move forward. amen.

 

[ashknowsbest]

Afam - I don't think Tuesday is too early to test, I mean it might be but if you look at this chart https://www.nyufertilitycenter.org/ivf/embryo_transfer and look at the 5 day transfer, it's a general timeline of what happens so by 6dp5dt HCG starts to build. If it is negative i'm not going to look too into it, i just read that a lot of ladies to get their bfp's at this date. On another thread this girl just got her bfp this morning and she's 6 days past her FET ... so we'll see!