Here's what I think - everyone calling her snotty, and immature is out of line. Yes, I had seen her original post. While this is a place for opinions and everyone is entitled to theirs, I think it's beyond rude to say this to someone. There are so many other tactful ways to get your opinion and point across. Just because you are sitting behind a screen typing away to people you do not know does not give anyone the right to be rude. Yes, it is *my opinion* that some of the responses came across as unnecessarily rude. Everyone is more than entitled to their opinion and freedom of speech, I just think there was no need for the patronizing comments. The OP may have chosen her words incorrectly, or may feel differently than you. She may have come across to some as snotty, immature, ungrateful, whatever. We do not know her, and I don't believe we have any right to judge her. We should only offer our advice, and *constructive* criticism.
I sincerely hope no one takes offense to that, and we can maybe all try to keep our hormones in check.
That's all I'm going to say about the name-calling, and will not comment further even if I get all of bnb yelling at me.
To the OP - I do understand what you mean. I was actually thinking about this earlier today. My OH's parents make a lot of money, and mine don't. My parents have offered to buy us the crib, my grandma has offered to buy the travel system. My grandma does *not* have the extra money to spend, but is adamant on buying a large ticket item. Maybe this is because of our culture. I was shocked when my mother told me grandma was going to buy this for us. I tried to tell her she didn't have to, but if I refuse it will be a slap to the face of my grandma. Rude, and unacceptable. My family does not *offer* to buy things, they *expect* to buy them. They do not ask if I would like for them to purchase something, but they tell me to pick out exactly what I want, and they will purchase it. If I were to tell them no, or to buy it myself, they would be extremely sad and hurt.
My OH is a different ethnicity than I am, and his family has not even offered to buy anything. I know it's not a money issue. I sat thinking about this, and I know that I am still very early in my pregnancy, but I will feel offended if they do not even offer to get something small. I'm do not by any means expect them to go out and spend $200 on something. All I want is the *offer*. If OH's mom says, "Ashley, is there anything you need that we can get for you?" I will smile politely and say "Thank you, but no." Unless they INSIST, I will not accept. Why? Because I view an offer as a polite gesture. This is just what I'm used to, it's the way I was raised. Even when it comes to something as simple as eating, I was raised to OFFER to everyone else. If I'm out at a restaurant and order something different from my OH, I always offer some to him. If I'm going to a friend's house, I always offer to bring something. To me, it's a sign of respect.