in massive shock and worried about bump

[MrsBump1]

Got back on tuesday evening from holiday to find out my little brother (29 yrs old) died that morning. Totally unexpected and my whole family is in massive shock. I've been sobbing so hard and in an utter state. This afternoon ive jsut beem numb, i cant and dont believe hes actually gone and never coming back and that he wont ever get to meet my baby.
im worried about what the stress and grief could do to my baby???? its been mega actiave today, more so than usual, should i be worried its a sign of distress???
i cant lose my baby as well

 

[jennyellen13]

Im so sorry for the loss of your brother

ring your midwife hun, you will need support. Bubs is probably fine and he now has a guardian angel looking over him xx

 

[lolpants]

sorry too hear your news, it must be awful, your bound too feel grief, but Im sure if you rest plenty it will counteract the stress?

Lol xx

 

[Kent Mummy]

How awful - I am so sorry for your loss.

I am sure baby is ok, but for your own peace of mind perhaps it's worth speaking to your MW - just mainly to settle your own mind etc.

Again I am so sorry.

Loz

 

[mrsgtobe]

Oh my goodness! I'm so sorry for your loss honey. What an awful shock. I know it's easier said than done but you need to stay as calm as possible for your wee babies sake. Try a long bubble bath and keep a wee eye on movements and if you get anything strange give midwife a call

 

[lushious09]

Im so so sorry for your loss hun, but i have been through so much stress and cried my eyes like theres no tommorow and my little man is still fighting and kicking strong and is healthy as can be... so try not to worry ... i cant even begin to think what your going through but you need to be strong for your babba xx

 

[xemmax]

oh my goodness, i am SO sorry to read that. RIP.

call your midwife or book in to see a doctor. please, please do not worry about losing your baby too, just make sure you get the support you will need. xxxx

 

[DrMum]

oh God what an awful thing to happen.

I'm so sorry for your loss. Please put your concerns to rest regarding your baby, s/he will be just fine. Your MW will be supportive though so I agree that giving her a bell and letting her know you need some support is the right course of action.

Sending you a big hug and will be thinking of you. xxx

 

[sherple]

Im so sorry for your loss hun.

Im sure your lo will be fine but just to put your mind at rest, give your midwife a ring.

 

[Ginger1]

So sorry I lost my Dad really unexpectedly 3 years ago, and it totally floored me too.


I'm sure your little one is fine, definitely give your MW a ring, just to put your mind at rest, and to let her know the circumstances as well. She might have some good advice on looking after yourself as well

Take care xx

 

[mystika802]

oh hun, Im so sorry you have to go through something like that, especially while pregnant. I went through a lot of really hard things when I was pregnant with my first and he was fine, I agree, you need to talk to your midwife

 

[MaybeMomSarah]

I'm very sorry for your loss.

I know it sounds a bit clinical, but they actually did a study on the pregnant partners of victims from September 11th, and they were suprised at how little of an effect the stress of loss and mourning had on the baby's development and health. I would absolutely call your MW and let her know what you are going through and she may be able to comfort your worries about your baby as well.

 

[Mrs Liamxxs]

Sorry for your loss hunni, i think it might be normal for bump to get a bit more wriggly when your stressed, mine did the same a few months ago when my auntie died, rest as much as you can and im sure you willl be fine hunni xx

 

[cjh]

I'm so sorry for your loss, keep strong xxxxxxxxxx

 

[Vinushka]

So sorry to hear of your loss, it really is a huge shock and I know how bad it is as I lost my baby brother (22 y/o) only a couple of months ago and still can't really even think about it without feeling terribly depressed. Your baby will most likely be fine though, as long as you look after yourself and give yourself plenty of time to mourn.

 

[keava]

Im so sorry to hear about your loss. K xx

 

[emmalj80]

So sorry for your loss. Xxxxx

 

[Irish Baby]

oh my god... sooo sorry 4 your loss cant begin to imagine how you must be feeling... like previous posts have said, contact your midwife or gp, you will need extra support, baby will be fine and will have a special angel in your brother looking after him so stay strong for your self and for baby xxxxxx

 

[RoxyRoo]

I am so sorry to hear of your loss xx

My friends younger brother (19 y/o) died when she was pregnant last year. It was an awful time for her. She too worried about her unborn child, as well as grieving for her brother. All was fine with her baby, he was born healthily in November.

My friend is convinced her brother was watching over her while she was pregnant, lots of little things happened which were too much of a coincedence to be dismissed, and it comforted her so much. Her son is now 10 months old and everyday cries out for a picture of his uncle and sits and kisses the photo. She's convinced he knows who his uncle is. She takes comfort in knowing her brother is watching over her son.

Sorry for going on there, but I just hoped it would give you a little bit of comfort and hope that your brother will forever be looking over your baby.

Please take care of yourself during such a hard time xx

 

[lakeecho]

I am so sorry about your loss. My thoughts are with you and your family.