Atuck2
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I don't know what to make of this...
So we began trying last year and ended up with a miscarriage. I wasn't emotionally ready after that, so we just kept NTNP. Then we had a weird cycle last month (I'm convinced I was going crazy, DH is convinced I had a chemical/early miscarriage). He is now DEVASTATED and doesn't even want to mention babies. He says he still wants one, but he says he can't handle the roller coaster that this has begun and just wants to be left uninformed.
I know that we have barely started and I know it is a roller coaster to have to go on, but I just don't know how I feel about him checking out and being inactive in the whole process. Should this mean that we should really just wait to even try anymore if he isn't ready to be involved in the family planning? He keeps saying that he really wants a child, but cannot get emotionally invested because he crashes so hard... He keeps apologizing and says that he wants me to have someone to talk to about all this, but he just doesn't know if it can be him at this time.
Anyone else have this experience? What did you do? What would you do? Is this a sign that he isn't ready?
So we began trying last year and ended up with a miscarriage. I wasn't emotionally ready after that, so we just kept NTNP. Then we had a weird cycle last month (I'm convinced I was going crazy, DH is convinced I had a chemical/early miscarriage). He is now DEVASTATED and doesn't even want to mention babies. He says he still wants one, but he says he can't handle the roller coaster that this has begun and just wants to be left uninformed.
I know that we have barely started and I know it is a roller coaster to have to go on, but I just don't know how I feel about him checking out and being inactive in the whole process. Should this mean that we should really just wait to even try anymore if he isn't ready to be involved in the family planning? He keeps saying that he really wants a child, but cannot get emotionally invested because he crashes so hard... He keeps apologizing and says that he wants me to have someone to talk to about all this, but he just doesn't know if it can be him at this time.
Anyone else have this experience? What did you do? What would you do? Is this a sign that he isn't ready?