infertility feel like ending it all

[emz-amy]

i think that wot makes it even harder for me i struggled to concieve my first to! 2 years she took! lifes so unfair

 

[readyformore]

i think that wot makes it even harder for me i struggled to concieve my first to! 2 years she took! lifes so unfair

It is unfair.

I too have had both primary and secondary infertility.

I feel like I paid my dues while ltttc and doing multiple IUIs to conceive my first child. It's someone else's turn!

 

[rosebud_01_99]

hi,

my views on difference between primary and secondary infertility are... they are both extreemly painful for those involved, but, at least those with one or more children already have a happy mothers day, christmas day , school runs, homework, a family life, thats something us women who have never had a baby may never have, its a whole way of life that is denied to us, perhaps forever. the emptyness of never having any of the things mentioned above plus the fear of a empy future without grandchildren ect, of being alone ,never leaves me.

just want to explain to ladies who are suffering from secondary infertility that we do not undermine your pain of still suffering from IF but we are still envious of what you already have. i hope some of what i said makes sense. big hugs to all of us stuck in this horrible place.
rosebud

 

[readyformore]

hi,

my views on difference between primary and secondary infertility are... they are both extreemly painful for those involved, but, at least those with one or more children already have a happy mothers day, christmas day , school runs, homework, a family life, thats something us women who have never had a baby may never have, its a whole way of life that is denied to us, perhaps forever. the emptyness of never having any of the things mentioned above plus the fear of a empy future without grandchildren ect, of being alone ,never leaves me.

just want to explain to ladies who are suffering from secondary infertility that we do not undermine your pain of still suffering from IF but we are still envious of what you already have. i hope some of what i said makes sense. big hugs to all of us stuck in this horrible place.
rosebud

I understand what you are saying. I have been through primary infertility.

It's just the entire point of the thread was someone asking for support, and then women started telling her not to be upset!

How is that supportive? It's not.

Like I said, it's the same thing as saying, "At least you still have potential." "You have a uterus and ovaries."

When you're having a bad day, don't you just want someone to say, "I'm sorry you're struggling" instead of pointing out what they should be happy about?

 

[rosebud_01_99]

hi
i know exactly what you mean, perhaps if there was secondary IF mentioned in the header or child mentioned in header us women who are suffering frm primary IF would have known not to read the post if we felt we couldnt empathise. as i for one dont read the posts i know i cant empathise with, as least said soonest mended, but sometimes i dont realise until i am halfway through the post then its a bit like a punch in the stomach.

and to the original poster im sorry you are feeling so down about it all and hope you feel better soon.

rosebud

 

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[Armywife84]

While some of us can't identify with secondary infertility..we are certainly all on the same page of facing infertility/LTTC.

Honestly, I just pretend those who are facing secondary and so on infertility, are still facing primary infertility. That way I can identify with those ladies better.

I applaud you women for braving LTTC for the 2nd, 3rd, or 4th time. Personally, LTTC has put me in such a dark place, I highly doubt I will try for a 2nd child. Especially if we have to have IVF. I would rather get my first, most likely last , and never look back.

So for those LTTC their # (whatever number), don't give up. You have enough bravery to start this journey up again, so there's no sense in quitting!!! I know how badly you want to get off the LTTC roller coaster, but you can't get off until you get your . Keep holding on!