Interesting Story, Really Need Advice

[RadioDJ007]

Hi everyone.
So I started talking to this amazing, sweet girl that used to date an old friend of mine, after she sent me her number on facebook. We would spend all day talking to each other from wake until bed time and love every minute of it.
We adore each other, and she offered to come over to hang out on a Sunday last week. She said she couldn't wait any more! And ended coming over Saturday.

She told me the day before she was pregnant with her exes baby, that I am the only one who knows, and that she doesn't want her ex to know but plans on putting it up for adoption. I really care for her, and we are both adopted kids ourselves, and I told her I would support her no matter what and that I was flattered to be the one she entrusted with this info.
She hates her ex, sees him as an immature child, and is totally embarrassed about her past with him to the max. Huge mistake.

Now to the story.
She comes over, and we start watching a movie. I'm sitting at one end of the bed(respecting her boundaries) and she says five minutes in I can lay next to her. We spend the rest of the night holding each other.
She goes on telling me she really, really likes me. That she can see us getting serious together. That she hasn't felt this way in so long, if ever. That I am so sweet to her. That I am perfect. It goes on and on with these amazimg things she said.
As were laying there, I ask her if she's doing anything tomorrow.
She very sweetly and enthusiastically says no, knowing I was going to ask next.
I asked if she would like to come over the next day, and she says yes of coarse!

The I get one text from her saying she needs space, a lot of it, and that it has nothing to do with me, and that this is just for now.

I sent her a message again 8 days later, and basically got the same response.

Is this hormones?
How long do you expect she will want this space to last? I know it has nothing to do with her feelings for me, that is very clear to me. I have been thinking about her non stop the past week and a half and totally respected her wishes, as I do not want to pressure her any more and give her all the space she needs.

Thank you all

 

[EmzyJA]

How long have you been talking to her etc? And is it only the once you've met up? From the sounds of your story if it's only the once you've met up id be cautious. I think that maybe she could have got caught up in the moment and said things and upon further reflection maybe she feels different which is why she's asking for the space? Not trying to say that what she said wasn't true, it may be but I'd be wary. If she felt that way then I can't see why she'd be asking for space, to me that comes across as she's not as interested as maybe she led you on to think? Sorry if that's not what you want to hear. I'd send her a message and ask her straight as it wouldn't be fair if she's leaving you hanging without telling you any reason why. Sounds like she's pretty confused and possibly scared. Is it possible she's back in contact with her ex? Although she said all those nasty things it's not unusual for people to say things about theirs ex's when they're upset and she may not have meant everything she said. Maybe hormones are playing a part? I've been very moody with this pregnancy but I think this sounds like there's more to it. I think you should try to talk to her if you can for your own peace of mind to find out what's really going on as my personal gut instinct would be that maybe she's lead you on a bit (sorry if that's not what you wanted to hear) good luck though and hope all works out for you

 

[purplecupcake]

I definitely do NOT think this is hormones. I think this is a very confused, stressed, lost woman who is having a tough time sorting out her life. She may very well be considering getting back with the father of her baby.

Regardless of if she really puts the baby up for adoption or not, getting involved with a pregnant woman is a serious risk. You are signing up for a roller coaster ride that you didn't play any part in, and that makes you extremely vulnerable.

If you really like her, give her space. This is going to be an unbelievably hard time for her, and personally, I don't think it is at all wise on her part to be looking for a boyfriend right now.

 

[xSamantha]

I agree with the others. It doesn't sound like hormones to me. She sounds like she isn't sure of anything right now. And if she told you she sees you getting serious and the next day changes her mind and tells you she needs space, it sounds like she has no idea what she wants. For your sake, give her the space, and if she was serious, she'll be back.

 

[mybbyboo]

The whole situation sounds a little off to me. I wouldn't invest your feelings to much. Maybe just try n be there for her as a friends cuz at the end of the day whatever is meant to be will be

 

[RadioDJ007]

Thanks every one, so I was afraid to mention this in my post as it's very touchy, but she decided to not keep the child as she has no way of caring for it and her ex was abusive towards her, she changed her mind about the adoption thing, I told her I would support her no matter what decision. And from whatnshe told me it would be her second.So you all were right about there being something more to this. Doesn't that make a little more sense why this is happening now?

I don't know if she went through with it or not and I pray she didn't, but I'm worried as her isolation for the past week.

 

[purplecupcake]

Thanks every one, so I was afraid to mention this in my post as it's very touchy, but she decided to not keep the child as she has no way of caring for it and her ex was abusive towards her, she changed her mind about the adoption thing, I told her I would support her no matter what decision. And from whatnshe told me it would be her second.So you all were right about there being something more to this. Doesn't that make a little more sense why this is happening now?

I don't know if she went through with it or not and I pray she didn't, but I'm worried as her isolation for the past week.

You really have no right to an opinion on her choice one way or another.

This thread will most likely be closed as it's not a topic allowed to be discussed.

 

[hopefulfor1st]

High school drama hey.

 

[mybbyboo]

Everyone has different situations so all anyone should hope for her is she did ways best for her in her situation