I am dreading Christmas day! We are staying at my parents house which will be fine but will be spending the morning at my in-laws with DHs parents and his sister adn her husband. DHs parents are fine, althought I don't like goign there much as they are both heavy smokers. They have been amazing since I was pregnant, they never smoke in the room with me (I actually feel mean as they go outside their own home when we're there) but the house still often smells smokey which transfers onto Ryans hair/ clothes/ caarseat etc. Also his SIL who wants to constantly cart Ryan around like a doll is a heavy smoker and she hardly ever washes her hands after smoking and always goes right up to Ryans face with her smokey breath! Poor Ryan stinks when we leave there adn I hate it but how do I ask them to change their clothes when holding him or to wash their hands more often without seeming like an obsessed mother?? I used to smoke btu would never hold a baby next to clothing I had been smoking in but none of them seem to consider it abnormal at all!! i just don;t know what to say to them.