Is 21 months too young....

[jaybee]

...to use the stay in bed technique?

Tobi has become a monster about staying in his bed at bedtime.

So I either use the stay in bed, sit by his bed for over and hour, or put a stair gate on his door and leave him to it.

Dunno what to do anymore!?

HELP PLEASE!!!

 

[QTPie]

Hi

Google Supernanny... DS is still in a cot, but her "Sleep Seperation" technique worked brilliantly to get him to self-settle. She also has a technique for those in beds: requires a LOT of hard work, but supposed to work (if you stick with it)...

 

[Natasha2605]

What exactly is stay in bed? Summer's 20 months and if she moves from her bed I put her back, repeatedly until she goes to sleep. Depending on what exactly she's doing when she's getting up I sometimes leave her (we have gate on door).

I'd recommend getting a gate on the door (I think you were thinking about it last week , could have been another posted I'm thinking of though haha), that's what we done and if she comes to the gate tantruming because she doesn't want to go to sleep she repeatedly gets put back until she gives in. If she just totters about her room quietly I tend to let her get on with it because a) she's safe and b) I figure she can't be having THAT much fun in the pitch black so will eventually go back to bed

 

[Embovstar]

What is the technique?

Isaac still has his bars up on his bed but when the time comes, if he gets out, I'll just put him back and do it repeatedly, until he's asleep!

Get a gate too. Least if he gets up, he can't go wandering. He'll get it in the end. When he's ready.

Nicola xx

 

[Seity]

I don't know what that is, but from day one in the toddler bed. I'd get him relaxed and settled and then close the door on him. At first he'd cry and I'd have to put him back in bed, but now more often than not he won't get out of bed if the door is closed.

 

[Mee_Mummy]

I am in the same kinda situation as you. I moved DS into a cotbed just under 2 weeks ago & he loves the bed but has wanted me to sit with him until he went to sleep - which I have been - but some nights it can be up to an hour and a half for him to go to sleep! He's after a back tooth at the moment as well so he isn't feeling "himself" so I don't think I can stop comforting him at night time.

We are moving house soon & think I will just say "new house, new rules" and leave him after his stories and a cuddle & keep on placing him back. He hasn't got out of his bed yet even when he wakes in the night, he'll just sit on the bed. So hopefully it won't take long for us x

 

[jaybee]

Thanks ladies,
I think most of you are using the technique as common sense! Just don't think I have much of it at the moment with baby brain going on. After a while, I start to second guess myself and wonder if I am doing the right thing?
We are off on holiday in a couple of days, so I think it will be a case of starting new when we get back.
Xx

 

[jaybee]

I am in the same kinda situation as you. I moved DS into a cotbed just under 2 weeks ago & he loves the bed but has wanted me to sit with him until he went to sleep - which I have been - but some nights it can be up to an hour and a half for him to go to sleep! He's after a back tooth at the moment as well so he isn't feeling "himself" so I don't think I can stop comforting him at night time.

We are moving house soon & think I will just say "new house, new rules" and leave him after his stories and a cuddle & keep on placing him back. He hasn't got out of his bed yet even when he wakes in the night, he'll just sit on the bed. So hopefully it won't take long for us x

Tobes has only just started getting out of bed in the last month of so, which I like in the morning, as we don't need to get up, he just comes n with us at 6 and we play.

Hope the house move goes well. X

 

[sarah0108]

What exactly is stay in bed? Summer's 20 months and if she moves from her bed I put her back, repeatedly until she goes to sleep. Depending on what exactly she's doing when she's getting up I sometimes leave her (we have gate on door).

I'd recommend getting a gate on the door (I think you were thinking about it last week , could have been another posted I'm thinking of though haha), that's what we done and if she comes to the gate tantruming because she doesn't want to go to sleep she repeatedly gets put back until she gives in. If she just totters about her room quietly I tend to let her get on with it because a) she's safe and b) I figure she can't be having THAT much fun in the pitch black so will eventually go back to bed

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[aimee-lou]

We used stay in bed from the first time he got his bed and learned to get out of it, which was at 15 months. Worked brilliantly and Earl is a brilliant 'stay in bed'-er lol.

It can be very frustrating though, but I found it easier than the sleep seperation, just because of Earl's personality (he responded better to CC than to Sleep Sense for example).