icegurl470
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Rant alert. It didn't bother me during my first pregnancy, but for some reason with this pregnancy it really bothers me how people undermine the first trimester of pregnancy. Maybe it's because I already have a baby, it seems more real to me? I'm not sure, but when I told my sister I was pregnant her boyfriend was like "well you don't know for sure yet" and when I told my boss that I probably wouldn't want to travel because I'll be really pregnant by then he made a comment like "well it's still early, anything could happen". Even my daycare lady told me "not to make any plans yet."
I get it. I could have a miscarriage. My baby could die. The chances of that happening are the highest in the first trimester. I know! That doesn't mean that I'm not pregnant. And if you want to be really technical about it I could make it all the way to the end of the pregnancy and have a stillbirth! But no ones gonna say stuff like that to a 9 months pregnant lady! Why is it okay to make comments like that now? I feel like those comments are bad juju and are only okay for me to say. I know the risks, making comments like that is just not necessary. I know my baby is just a tiny curled up mass of cells right now, but the child I feed and snuggle with everyday at home was once a tiny curled up mass of cells too!
If anything, woman should be given the most credit during the first trimester. Some of the most crucial developments are taking place and your symptoms are often the most severe. On top of all that, most people don't even know you're pregnant! Your having to deal with all these symptoms silently and sometimes try to hide the fact that your trying not to puke or sneak crackers into your mouth when no ones looking. I swear if one more person says anything negative about my pregnancy I'm going to snap!
I get it. I could have a miscarriage. My baby could die. The chances of that happening are the highest in the first trimester. I know! That doesn't mean that I'm not pregnant. And if you want to be really technical about it I could make it all the way to the end of the pregnancy and have a stillbirth! But no ones gonna say stuff like that to a 9 months pregnant lady! Why is it okay to make comments like that now? I feel like those comments are bad juju and are only okay for me to say. I know the risks, making comments like that is just not necessary. I know my baby is just a tiny curled up mass of cells right now, but the child I feed and snuggle with everyday at home was once a tiny curled up mass of cells too!
If anything, woman should be given the most credit during the first trimester. Some of the most crucial developments are taking place and your symptoms are often the most severe. On top of all that, most people don't even know you're pregnant! Your having to deal with all these symptoms silently and sometimes try to hide the fact that your trying not to puke or sneak crackers into your mouth when no ones looking. I swear if one more person says anything negative about my pregnancy I'm going to snap!