or is my friend being totally selfish and unreasonable?! She is moving to London next Saturday and is having a leaving do in a local bar tonight which is full of young kids adn gets packed!! I have explained that i am unable to go as i have had really bad trouble with my hips and am in pain constantly and basically don't feel comfortable standing in a bar full of people getting bumped around while everyone gets drunk. So i said to her i was really sorry i wasn't going but i would love for her to pop over next week before she goes, for tea so i can see her before she goes away. So then a few hours later she sends me a huge e-mail saying how i'm not making the effort and that i should be going and i'm supposed to be one of her good mates!!!!! I'm in totaly shock!!! is it me or is this a little unfair on her part? Sorry for the long rant!!!