Today is my son's second birthday. I posted a little "Happy birthday darling boy! I'm so grateful to be your mother!" on my Facebook. My MIL posts, within seconds, "and I your grandmother!" I feel like she does this sort of thing all the time. She tries to steal my mothering moments, and that one REALLY made me grouchy this morning! I'm like, "Helloooo? Can't you just say 'happy birthday' and go on your stupid way? Do you really have to try to make this about you as well?" I'm just frustrated. I know she adores my son, and I am glad that she thinks he's wonderful. But sometimes I feel like she places more importance on her title of grandmother than she ever placed on her duties as 'mother' and like she's trying to make up for past mistakes by pushing her mother-bird attitude on me and my son. I feel like she thinks he's his "other mother", when I view her as "JUST" his grandmother, and I get resentful with her because she continually makes me feel like I need to scoot over so she can mother my son as well. It makes me feel like a bad mother and an "in the way" DIL, even though I know I am neither of those things. I also feel like getting immediately upset that she posted that on my status was a bit of an overreaction. I just plain didn't respond to it, and I didn't even let myself delete it, though my mouse did hover over the 'x' for a moment... Was my upset a stupid, hormonal response or should she have responded with a simple, "Happy birthday, grandson!"? Is my distaste for her plus my hormones clouding my judgement??? Please be honest!