is this colic or am i a crap mum?

[beatnick]

my lo is just constantly unhappy when awake, he just grunts, squirms and moans and crys eventually.

today he would not sleep at all and just woke himself up with fussing, straining and lifting his legs and grunting.

He cried on and off all day. My HV says its colic and i should give him infacol.

he is not screaming blue murder (yet) which makes me think..is it colic?

he seems to be getting worse each day. he has been on infacol for nearly 2 days and i am developing massive muscles in my arms from not being able to put him down,

ive been reading some baby whisperer which suggests colic is a too frequently used term, and that it could be a misinterpretation of crys and over stimulation of trying to calm a baby that gives them colic symptoms.

i feel like i am going a crap job here as he seems miserable when he is awake. its so sad.

 

[Jchihuahua]

You certainly don't sound like a crap mum hun.

 

[MrsT&Ben]

You are not a crap mum!!
It doesn't sound like colic.....
Is he like this all the time or after a feed?

 

[Sazzoire]

The fact that he is bringing his legs up sounds like wind... maybe colic?

We weren't sure if our LO had colic or not but starting using Infacol and the Anti-Colic Tommy Tipee bottles... she was much better... I recently stopped the Infacol and she had terrible wind so I decided to put her back on it. My LO was especially bad in the evening with terrible crying... every night from about 7pm until bedtime..

 

[sunshine114]

Sounds similar to my lo which we are treating as colic. Dan is worse in the evenngs and has got worse over the last couple of days, it started with him being generally unsettled and not sleeping properly at the weekend. Am having a nightmare of a time trying to get him to settle this evening. Is your lo worse in theevening?

 

[lili24]

My Lo, even now, can get like this very fast if she is overtired. How much does he sleep? You definitely do not sound like a bad mum! xxxx

 

[beatnick]

he seems ok in the evenings its just in the day at the moment- but then that could switch.

i would just like some time with him where he is awake and alert and not really wriggling and uncomfortable.

im worried im doing something wrong with him. I am going to a clinic tomorrow so i will have a chat with the MW and see what she thinks.

these early weeks are so hard- i feel so drained and incapable. when he is content and rested i feel brilliant and its all so manageable. when he is like this it feels like i just want to have someone come and tell me what to do and take over!

 

[GingerNut]

...it feels like i just want to have someone come and tell me what to do and take over!

Don't think you're alone in that, I'm pretty certain we've all been there many times : ) Hang in there, you'll get it sorted.

It doesn't sound like the medical definition of colic. If it's trapped wind have you tried massaging his little tummy gently, or cycling his legs? Or take off his nappy and let him kick without it for a while, that's generally good for moving wind out.

 

[tiggerlix]

oww hun..sorry your feeling like this..my baby is also a grump and iv actualy cried to my mum saying i dont think she likes me .sometimes my mum will come in and help out and dadaaa she is the best baby when she has her.alot of the time im tired and baby picks up on it im sure.babys are hard work..this is my 6th and i still aint fathomed it out..it does get easier in many ways
your doing a grt job and your definatly not alone.
xx

 

[mrsthomas623]

Could he have reflux? Even at 14 weeks now my LO cannot sleep longer than 3 or 4 hours at a time and struggles the entire time he is trying to sleep.

We have been through colic which is extremely bad in the evenings and silent reflux which is getting worse now that the colic has seemed to clear up. We end up getting up around 4 or 5 in the morning because he has horrible gas and gags on drool and stomach acid.

 

[PrayinForBaby]

Constipation??? My LO had an awful spell that sounds about like what you're little one is doing....now I just think we've hit the growth spurt bc she wants to stay awake so bad but she gets overwhelmed very easily with everything going on, so we have to take a lot of time getting quiet time for bed, etc...Hang in there! I have told my hubby for 3 days in a row that I thought Haley hated me, but its all worth it after the hysterical fit from hell when she clutches my t shirt and smiles at me

 

[kindofagirl]

my lo is just constantly unhappy when awake, he just grunts, squirms and moans and crys eventually.

today he would not sleep at all and just woke himself up with fussing, straining and lifting his legs and grunting.

He cried on and off all day. My HV says its colic and i should give him infacol.

he is not screaming blue murder (yet) which makes me think..is it colic?

he seems to be getting worse each day. he has been on infacol for nearly 2 days and i am developing massive muscles in my arms from not being able to put him down,

ive been reading some baby whisperer which suggests colic is a too frequently used term, and that it could be a misinterpretation of crys and over stimulation of trying to calm a baby that gives them colic symptoms.

i feel like i am going a crap job here as he seems miserable when he is awake. its so sad.

That sounds like Elliot, the Drs and HV were sure it was colic so we put him on colief drops and colic milk, it did help a bit but not loads, he is great now though, your LO will be ok

We found the only way to get E to nap was to rock him in his car seat or a baby swing, do you have either of those

Its really bad though I know how you feel, you end up tip toeing around the baby when he finally sleeps cos you know he will scream once awake