Its always a competition!

[Annabel]

Well it feels like it..

Everytime MIL comes round to see LO she always has to comment on his development, (or in her eyes, lack of it) on the weekend it was, 'oh, is he not forming sentences yet, well (OH) was putting sentences together when he was 1, at least 3 words...' What does she expect me to say to that?!

Its always something, apparently my OH has always been VERY bright and VERY active and into everything and ALWAYS ahead of the others when he was young..

Honestly, the way she talks its as though he is still a baby and is the same age as my LO, why does she feel the need to do it?

I just wish that she would stop or that I had a magic sentence that would make her stop with the comparisions.

Anyone else has someone thats LO is so advanced for their age and astounded that their almost 1 year old isn't forming complete sentences yet?!

 

[v2007]

Forming sentences at 11 months

Your right thou, a child's develeopment shouldn't be a competition.


V xxx

 

[OmarsMum]

5-10 proper words is advanced at the age of one! the average is 1-3 words at 14 months!

I bet your MIl is considering babbling as proper talking. MIL is the same, she compares Omar to DH who's 45! even when Omar is poorly & not feeling well.

 

[RachA]

I feel for you - i feel like my mil thinks that my children aren't doing what they should be doing in the right way.

I have a son who was pretty quick at walking and talking and other stuff - that's not right because he 4 and according to her can't sit for an hour at a time and colour quietly or something.
Then i have a daughter that didn't walk til 18 months and at 23months isn't actually saying any words - not that you'd understand anyway - and that's wrong because she's obviously behind and shouldn't we be doing something about it!

Can't win either way!!!

The only thing that i can think of is that your mil is trying to be helpful but actually all she is doing is interfering.
Just ignore her - if your health visitor isn't concerned then you don't need to worry at all. Just because your husband was doing things early doesn't mean that your lo will do them early and tbh they all catch up eventually.

 

[Tegans Mama]

To be honest there is only ONE reply I would expect from a person if they told me their LO had three word sentences at 11 months - and that starts in B, has two LL's and ends in T!!!

Just go with it. Smile and nod. Even think up witty replies about how he does speak lots but only to people he likes

 

[rubywoo77]

My MIL is the same, my daughter gets compared to every single one of my MIL's kids, even my husband . According to my MIL her kids were all sttn when they were a few months old, they were all out of nappies by the time they were almost 1 and other stuff in a similar vein. However, that is just my MIL, most of my inlaws have an inflated sense of their own importance so I am kinda used to it by now. I just smile, nod and say "oh really" and do an inward eye-roll.

 

[sun]

I always find the MILs have a handy way of "remembering" how things were with their kids.
My MIL apparently had a couple of genius babies, but when you talk to FIL he doesn't recall that the kids were overly advanced!

 

[v2007]

5-10 proper words is advanced at the age of one! the average is 1-3 words at 14 months!

I bet your MIl is considering babbling as proper talking. MIL is the same, she compares Omar to DH who's 45! even when Omar is poorly & not feeling well.

V xxx

 

[Annabel]

Glad my MIL isn't the only one.. Sadly FIL died so we can never hear his side of how advanced my husband was.. I sometimes feel like saying to her that OH must have 'peaked' to early, cos I dont see a genuis sitting there!!

I just hate the comparisions all the time and at every oportunity. When I ask my mum questions to compare its more along the lines of, 'was I ever this wriggly', she says errr no definitely not. Then when I ask other things to do with weaning, bottles etc she says it was too long ago and how can she possibly remember that far back! Which I think is true, I know it sounds bad, but I cant remember the exact age he took his first few steps, and that was only a few months back! How on earth can my MIL remember 35 years ago, esp when she has a terrible memory and drove back home, 5hrs away, without her handbag! So no money, phone anything!!

 

[Annabel]

5-10 proper words is advanced at the age of one! the average is 1-3 words at 14 months!

I bet your MIl is considering babbling as proper talking. MIL is the same, she compares Omar to DH who's 45! even when Omar is poorly & not feeling well.

Thanks for the average there, tbh LO just babbles a whole lot, he says dada and uh oh, when he drops something, but the rest is more like he's singing to himself! he is very good tho with stacking cups and also putting on the rings around that pyramid toy, he puts them on in order and then claps himself when its done! MIL never comments on those types of things, just what he isn't doing!

 

[sun]

Glad my MIL isn't the only one.. Sadly FIL died so we can never hear his side of how advanced my husband was.. I sometimes feel like saying to her that OH must have 'peaked' to early, cos I dont see a genuis sitting there!!

I just hate the comparisions all the time and at every oportunity. When I ask my mum questions to compare its more along the lines of, 'was I ever this wriggly', she says errr no definitely not. Then when I ask other things to do with weaning, bottles etc she says it was too long ago and how can she possibly remember that far back! Which I think is true, I know it sounds bad, but I cant remember the exact age he took his first few steps, and that was only a few months back! How on earth can my MIL remember 35 years ago, esp when she has a terrible memory and drove back home, 5hrs away, without her handbag! So no money, phone anything!!

 

[Septie]

I think they forget...I always hear about how much better behaved my husband was at that age. Never any tantrums (really???).

 

[aimee-lou]

I think they forget...I always hear about how much better behaved my husband was at that age. Never any tantrums (really???).

My Mum tried to tell me this about me....the fact that I cen clearly remember having tantrums at the age of 5 and being sent to my room has nothing to do with it!

Just tell her to stop comparing and that he'll do what he wants, when he wants to. My MIL was the same....Earl learned to walk at 10.5 months and literally the day he took his first steps she said 'oh potty training next'. I looked at her, and just point blank said 'not for another 2 years probably' knowing that boys are often later at this'. She then told me that hubby was out of nappies at 18 months and that if he could do it so could Earl. "maybe so" I replied 'But Earl isn't Drew, and he'll do it when he's ready."

I also told her off once for doing the whole 'Is mummy being mean' thing, and just said, 'I'm sorry were you talking to me? Do you have a comment to make?' We were living with her at the time and I couldn't be done with her making snidey comments. Cleared the air and she rarely commented after that.

 

[OmarsMum]

My mum is honest, when I complain about omar's behavior she tells me he's so easy going compared to me when I was his age. I'm was an early talker like Omar but again according to my mum he's more advanced than her 4 kids.